I wasn’t going to write a blog this week, because Sue Koch and I are very busy preparing for our upcoming four-week tele-seminar we call Resolution Breakthrough: Designing Your Fresh Start for 2010. But when I received this email, forwarded from a fellow True Purpose Coach ™, I couldn’t resist sharing it with you.  It’s a spot-on and very funny look at what the Ego can do to us when we aren’t fully conscious of its role. 

Please, don’t get me wrong, though.  This does NOT say, and I do not believe, that the Ego is “bad.”  As a Certified True Purposed Coach ™, my job is to help my clients discover their Life Purpose.  Along the way, I also must help them get their Soul’s desire to lead a life of fulfillment and purpose into partnership with their Ego’s desires for acknowledgment, material comfort and lots of other, sometimes less beneficial outcomes.  Try as you might, you cannot ignore your Ego, because, as this poem so cleverly reveals, it has a LOT of influence in your life.  It is your Ego that “drives the car.”  Your Soul (or Higher Self, if you prefer) can’t walk and talk and sign checks, but your Ego can!  So your Soul absolutely needs the help of your Ego in order to carry out your Life’s Purpose in the world. 

Your Ego’s primary job is to keep you safe – to make sure you survive.  But, as Mr. Kalechstein points out, it also has a lot of OTHER things on its agenda, including the four basic human emotional needs: Certainty, Variety, Significance and Love/Connection.  Getting these emotional needs met is your Ego’s non-stop quest!  

My goal as a True Purpose Coach is to have your Soul and Ego “play nice” together, so that each gets what it wants for you. When they are in partnership, you will be a happy, healthy, wealthy and emotionally satisfied human being! Your Soul gets what it wants when you are doing what you were meant to do in this world: expressing the unique quality that only YOU express in just the particular way that YOU do.  And your Ego gets to ride in the “passenger seat” and enjoy all the riches and honor life can offer — and there’s nothing wrong with that! 

Oh, The Places Your Ego Will Go
By Scott Kalechstein
Your ego will travel with you on this earth
And be your companion for worser or worse
It pretends it’s your friend, your bestest amigo
And it makes you feel guilty, that’s the job of the ego
It has good judgment and will help you be strong
So it has to remind you you’ve done it all wrong
You’re weak and you’re lazy and you can’t get a clue
That’s the voice of the ego trying to motivate you
Oh, the places you’ll go and the guilt trips you’ll travel
As the ego plays judge and bangs down on its gavel
But you always can get some relief from your shame
By projecting it on to the others you’ll blame
For that is the ego at its beastiest best
It nurses its grievances close to its chest
It milks every upset for things to complain about
And turns molehills to mountains to put you in pain about
No trust is a must you must constantly worry
No peace till deceased you must stay in a hurry
Oh, the places you’ll go and the people you’ll see
All through the lens of “What’s in it for me?”
For the ego believes there is something it lacks
And until it is found it won’t let you relax
You’ve got to keep moving at speeds that are blinding
Keep searching and searching but not really finding
Perhaps you will find it in the next one you’ll date
True love at first sight with a soul kind of mate
It’s great for a while till the egos take hold
Cause when two halves combine they do not make a whole
It’s hot at the start but it will turn to cold
For when two halves collide they cannot make a whole
So the ego moves on ever constantly striving
Addicted to seeking and afraid of arriving
You’re traveling fast at the speed of surviving
With fear in the drivers seat doing the driving
The joys of each moment go swishing on by
As the ego keeps reaching for pies in the sky
Reaching and reaching with arms that are flailing
And the ego loves giving you F for your failings
Or perhaps you are on the fast track to success
You’re constantly driven to be great, better, best!
You’re a mover, a shaker, a big time achiever
You’re a real self-made man, a dazzling diva
You’re rich and you’re famous and make quite a splash
You’re on top of the world and you’re rolling in cash
You drive the right car and you’ve married the right spouse
Today you’re on Oprah, this evening the White House
But at night insecurity pays you a call
Cause you know anytime that you could lose it all
Your shrink says to rest and your spouse sure agrees
Your doctor says, “Ulcers, take fourteen of these.”
You know you should slow it down sooner or later
But your foot is just glued to the accelerator
Your ego consoles, “Well, at least we’re successful
It’s a sign of success to be constantly stressful
You’ve made it to prime time and everyone loves you.”
(But your self-esteem’s built on what others think of you) 
One day when you’ve failed and succeeded enough
You witness your ego exposed in the buff
And you realize without all its protective clothing
That the ego is simply a state of self-loathing
And beyond that you find out the biggest of deals
That you’ve dreamt up the ego, it’s not even real!
So for richer, for poorer, in sickness and health
You commit to the journey of loving yourself
You take back the projections you placed upon others
And find through forgiveness real peace is discovered
You realize the glory you searched for outside you
Is what you are made of and can’t be denied you
So you give up your plans and your potions and pills
And you practice contentment and learn how to chill
Your old superstitions have gone up in smoke
(Like you can’t rest in peace until after you croak)
While resting in peacefulness you get inspired
To go out in the world with some newfound desires
Desires that spring from your heart and your soul
And wherever they take you you’re going there whole
Cause your ego is now in the passenger seat
It rolls down the window and takes in the treats
You’re not in a hurry you’re taking it slow
Cause the journey’s as rich as the places you’ll go
Where you are going you don’t need to know
For the journey’s as rich as the places you’ll go. 
Scott Kalechstein is a writer, an entertainer, a traveling minister, a counselor and coach, a modern day troubadour and inspirational speaker. He lives with his partner and daughter in Marin, California and loves presenting at conferences, giving talks, concerts and workshops.  In his phone counseling practice, he is a relationship specialist, helping both individuals and couples enjoy more conscious relationships. You can visit http://www.scottsongs.com <http://www.scottsongs.com> to read more about his work, to hear his talks or to sample songs from his nine CD’s. Send him an email to receive writings like this one on a semi-occasional basis.

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