May 2010


 

“Gratitude is the fairest blossom which springs from the soul.” – Henry Ward 

Gratitude is THE most powerful positive emotion to attract all the wonderful things you desire into your life…We can never feel or express TOO MUCH gratitude for all the good already present in our lives. Here is an updated version of one of my favorite past blogs about Gratitude. I hope you enjoy it! 

As you know, today is Memorial Day in the U.S.A.  This holiday — originally called Decoration Day — began in 1868, as a time set aside to commemorate those who died fighting in the Civil War by decorating their graves with flags and flowers.  

But I find it equally appropriate to celebrate Memorial Day by taking a moment to remember with gratitude ALL those who have gone before you who have contributed to making you who are today:  

  • All the strangers, friends and loved ones who served in the armed forces to preserve your precious freedom.   
  • Your parents, grandparents and other dear ones who raised you and helped you determine the values you choose to live by. 
  • All the mentors and teachers who freely gave of their precious time to help guide you along your purposeful path.  
  • Everyone who has ever showed you the encouragement and love that nurtured your spirit and helped you grow into your authentic Self.   
  • Yes, and even those who disagreed with you honorably or sought to undermine you dishonorably — because they, too, had a hand in strengthening your character and determination to succeed against all odds. 

Let us today transform our sadness at the loss of those who contributed so much to our lives into abundant GRATITUDE for all they have contributed to us.  While sadness and regret are negative emotions that attract more pain, gratitude is one of the most powerful positive emotions there is.  Gratitude can help you put the Law of Attraction to work to make your most heartfelt dreams and ambitious intentions a reality.  If “energy attracts like energy,” as the Law of Attraction states, then feeling GRATEFUL for all those who have blessed your life with their presence can only attract more good to you. 

And because an abundantly prosperous life involves so much more than just money, I want to close with something profoundly simple, yet powerful, that I learned from my wise minister, Rev. Margaret.  It’s the Four Spiritual Truths to live by, which can help you create a life that is truly abundant and prosperous in every way. (I loved them so much, I had them made into a plaque for my office!) 

1)     Breathe deeply.  Breathing slowly and deeply nourishes your body with oxygen, makes you more alert to new ideas, and settles you down.  It makes you aware of being in the NOW and living fully in the present moment — which is really the only time that you have available to you.

2)     Live Fully.  Go out and make a miracle today.  God is busy and needs your help.

3)     Kiss slowly.  Appreciate all the love in your life – in ALL the forms it may take.  Don’t give your dearest loved ones just a hasty peck on the cheek as you bolt out the door.  Take time to really appreciate them and show them your love.

4)     Love wastefully.  Don’t hold back.  Spread your love around lavishly, so there isn’t a drop left at the end of your life.  Love can’t be hoarded; it must be spent to be enjoyed! 

I hope you enjoyed a gratitude-filled Memorial Day weekend with people you love.  If you didn’t, try following these Four Spiritual Truths, and watch what happens! 

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THE DEADLINE FOR YOUR GOALS IS HERE!

Remember all those big, wonderful New Year’s resolutions and inspiring Big, Juicy Goals you set for yourself with such enthusiasm and optimism on New Year’s Day?  Well, how are you doing on fulfilling them? 

The five-week Fresh Start June Jumpstart Tele-course begins on Tuesday June 1 at 6pm PDT/9pm EDT. If you want 2010 to be the BEST year of your life yet, Career and Life Design expert Sue Koch and I will show you exactly how to make your Biggest, Juiciest Dreams a REALITY – not “someday,” but right NOW

But registration CLOSES on Tuesday, June 1, at 1pm Pacific/4pm Eastern time, so there’s no time to lose! Go here NOW: http://timeforafreshstart.com to register for the June Jumpstart Tele-seminar

The course registration form and ALL the information about the June Jumpstart Tele-course is also on the same web page as the audio replay of our recent F.R.E.E. 60-minute Tele-class, June Re-Start: It’s Not Too Late To Reach Your 2010 Goals!  

So, if you couldn’t be with us live, just go to http://timeforafreshstart.com to listen to the streaming audio of this powerful F.R.E.E. call! 

Don’t miss this opportunity, if you are ready to…

  • Clean out the “junk drawer” of your past to make room for exhilarating new possibilities
  • Discover the biggest goal-setting mistakes and how to eliminate them forever
  • Learn the secret to making your Big, Juicy Goals turn out successfully – with ease
  • Crash through the roadblocks to success once and for all
  • Find out how to make your Big, Juicy Dreams come true and have FUN doing it! 

Here’s what a few past participants in this powerful Jumpstart Tele-seminar have to say about how it helped them reach their Big, Juicy Goals this year: 

“I got a lot out of this course.  It made me realize what my true goal is and to start creating from that to get what I want for my family and myself… I will definitely use the tools from this course moving forward.” – Marci Ginger 

“This course made me realize what I was hiding from myself and my dreams behind my escape mechanism of self-induced clutter…” – Toni Federe   

In the past, I’ve had issues with saying I will do something and then letting it fall by the wayside. I am confident that with the Action Plan and accountability structures that this course helped me create, I will complete my journey to fulfilling my dream!  Thank you for getting me into action — FINALLY! ” – Penny Kempfert 

Your questions and comments are always welcome!  Please contact me at: caroll@practicalprosperitycoach.com.

 

“First we make our attitudes.  Then our attitudes make us.” – Denis Waitley 

Well, it’s finally done!  I am pleased to share with you that, after FIVE re-starts, I managed to turn the “21-Day Challenge” into the “63-Day Challenge,” but I finally completed it! 

You will recall that the 21-Day Challenge was first introduced to me by the noted prosperity teacher Edwene Gaines.  She has lived such a fulfilling, successful life and is such a renowned Master Manifester, I knew I had to try the Challenge myself, if I wanted to gain the personal power that she said would come from going 21 days in a row without uttering aloud a single word of complaint or gossip. 

When I began this personal challenge, I have to admit I was pretty cocky.  As a coach, it’s basically my day job to be keep a positive outlook and help my clients learn to view life’s ups and downs from a positive, empowering perspective so they can reach their goals.  But as I began to really pay attention to everything I said aloud, I quickly realized that I was just as prone as anyone else to making disparaging comments about people on reality TV shows, gossiping with friends, and venting my frustrations with banks, politicians, terrorists and cell phone providers aloud to my spouse.  To tell you the truth, I was pretty shocked at just how negative I could sometimes be when I was not being “coach.” 

Edwene Gaines says that this kind of negative communication drains us of the energy and power needed to create the things we want.  The Law of Attraction states that “energy attracts like energy,” so it makes perfect sense that when we criticize, complain and gossip, we are sending a negative energetic vibration out into the universe that is going to attract back to us MORE of the same stuff that we found objectionable in the first place! 

So this last 21 days, I was very, very careful to think before I spoke.  I won’t claim that I didn’t THINK any negative thoughts, but I made sure to bite my tongue before I spoke them!  After my many re-starts, what helped me finally conquer the urge to make gratuitous snarky observations was STOPPING before I spoke, and asking myself this  three-part question that my mother had urged me to use when I was a typically mouthy teenager: “Is it True?  Is it Kind?  Is it Helpful?”  

 When I remembered this, I vowed that if what I was about to say didn’t elicit a clear “YES” to all three parts, I would NOT say it – even if I thought it was oh-so clever and would surely prove once and for all what a master of witty repartee I am! 

Well, I can’t promise that I will never again make any sort of negative remark aloud to anyone else.  But the unexpectedly great effort of taking the 21-Day Challenge has really taught me a valuable lesson that I believe will stick with me.  That is, when I am busy thinking up something (negatively) clever to say, I am NOT busy focusing on the GOOD, the VALUABLE, the TRUE things I could say to or about someone.  

If I now spend more time consciously looking for the GOOD in my fellow human beings (and in myself), and then share those positive thoughts, I will not only be increasing my own power to create the life of my dreams, but I will be contributing to the positive energy of the entire PLANET, too.  Just as the “Green Movement” has made us aware of how we can waste precious natural resources unless we take specific steps to conserve energy, the 21-Day Challenge makes us aware of how we can waste the opportunity to raise our own prosperity consciousness and that of everyone around us unless we make the effort to acknowledge the GOOD, instead of the BAD.  

Which brings me to my prosperity-raising recommendation for this week:  Take a simple, enjoyable little step each day that will make a BIG difference for you and those around you by repeating aloud the “Promise” created by Christian D. Larson, which was adopted long ago by the Optimists International club as the “Optimist’s Creed.”  I was recently reminded of it by “The Secret,” which published it in a slightly updated form.  

I now repeat this “Promise” aloud every morning, as a reminder that simply refraining from negativity isn’t enough.  We must replace our negative thoughts and words with POSITIVE ones, in order to put the Law of Attraction into action and attract to us the positive people, things and circumstances that will make our dreams a reality:

 I promise myself 

To be so strong that nothing can disturb my peace of mind.

To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person I meet.

To make all my friends feel that there is something worthwhile in them.

To look at the sunny side of everything and make my optimism come true.

To think only of the best, to work only for the best, and to expect only the best.

To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as I am about my own.

To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.

To wear a cheerful expression at all times and give a smile to every living creature I meet.

To give so much time to improving myself that I have no time to criticize others.

To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

To think well of myself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud words, but in great deeds.

To live in the faith that the whole world is on my side, so long as I am true to the best that is in me.

— by Christian D. Larson (modified by The Secret 2007) 

P.S. If you like this, just email me and I’ll send you these words on a beautiful “scroll” that you can print out for yourself!  Here’s to our next big challenge: to strive to actually LIVE by these words!

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How Are Your 2010 Goals Coming Along?

Remember all those big, wonderful New Year’s resolutions and inspiring goals you set for yourself with such enthusiasm and optimism back in January?  Well, how are you doing on fulfilling them?  

Coach Sue Koch and I recently presented a F.R.E.E. 60-minute Tele-class entitled June Re-Start: It’s Not Too Late to Reach Your 2010 Goals!  In one powerful hour, we demonstrated that it’s NOT TOO LATE to wipe the slate clean and get a Fresh Start on your 2010 Goals!  

And now it’s not too late to hear the REPLAY of the call!  If you couldn’t be with us live, just go to http://timeforafreshstart.com and listen to the streaming audio of this powerful call! 

Don’t miss this opportunity, if you are ready to…

  • Clean out the “junk drawer” of your past to make room for exhilarating new possibilities
  • Discover the biggest goal-setting mistakes and how to eliminate them forever
  • Learn the secret to making your Big, Juicy Goals turn out successfully – with ease
  • Crash through the roadblocks to success once and for all
  • Find out how to make your Big, Juicy Dreams come true and have FUN doing it! 

Here’s what a few past participants in our Fresh Start 2010 Tele-seminar have to say about what they got to help them reach their Big, Juicy Goals this year: 

“I got a lot out of this course.  It made me realize what my true goal is and to start creating from that to get what I want for my family and myself… I will definitely use the tools from this course moving forward.” – Marci Ginger 

“This course made me realize what I was hiding from myself and my dreams behind my escape mechanism of self-induced clutter…” – Toni Federe   

In the past, I’ve had issues with saying I will do something and then letting it fall by the wayside. I am confident that with the Action Plan and accountability structures that this course helped me create, I will complete my journey to fulfilling my dream!  Thank you for getting me into action — FINALLY! ” – Penny Kempfert 

IMPORTANT BONUS OPPORTUNITY

 The five-week Fresh Start June Jumpstart Tele-course begins on Tuesday June 1, and if you register by Tuesday, May 25, you can make 2010 the BEST year of your life yet – at a $50 savings off the regular tuition!  

ALL the information about the upcoming tele-course is also on the same web page as the F.R.E.E. call replay, so don’t delay!  Listen to the F.R.E.E. call replay and decide for yourself if the June Jumpstart course is the answer you have been looking for to make your dreams a REALITY – this year, right NOW!  But Hurry! The price goes up on Wednesday! 

Your questions and comments are always welcome!  Please contact me at: caroll@practicalprosperitycoach.com.

 

“Make a game of finding something positive in every situation.  Ninety-five percent of your emotions are determined by how you interpret events to yourself.”  Brian Tracy 

I’m sure you’ve heard and/or used the phrase many times. “Well, I guess it’s all for the best,” we proclaim, when something unexpected happens to interfere with our own little plans. These words are a way of consoling ourselves and staving off disappointment.  But, even though you may be momentarily disappointed at a particular turn of events, this phrase reminds you of an important truth — that EVERYTHING that happens in your life is ultimately for your Highest Good.  

Life is never without its challenges, no matter how adept we are at manifesting what we want. Inevitably, sometimes things happen to us that appear to be a tragedy — or at least an unwelcome surprise. Perhaps, although you tried your hardest, you didn’t get the specific outcome you thought would be “good” for you at the time. Yet, when you eventually gained more perspective on the situation, haven’t you usually realized that what occurred was ultimately “for the best” for you and others involved?  When that happens, we become aware that a Force far bigger and wiser than ourselves appears to have stepped in and worked things out for our HIGHEST good, after all — despite the initial setback to our own little human plans. 

One of these “For the Best” events happened to Rick and me on May 5, which was, coincidentally, our third wedding anniversary. Being a “morning person,” I awoke at 6:30am, as usual. And as I was putting on my slippers, Rick turned over and spoke to me, which is NOT usual for him that early in the morning. 

“When you go out to get the paper,” he said in an even tone, “you’ll notice the Explorer isn’t there.”  Since the 2005 Ford Explorer is his car, and I knew he hadn’t taken it to the shop, my stomach felt suddenly queasy.  That’s when I remembered that there had been some commotion in the middle of the night, with our dog Samantha suddenly barking loudly in our son’s room. Rick got up quickly to investigate and when he didn’t come right back to bed, I must have fallen back asleep and not awoken until the alarm rang.  Oh my God,” I thought. “Rick’s car has been stolen! How can he be so calm?” 

I never could have anticipated the next words out of his mouth: “Two men came to the door at 1:00 A.M. That’s what Sam was barking at.  They were nice enough to hand me all my things that were in the car. Then they towed it away.”  Rick’s SUV had been repossessed by the bank, just nine payments shy of being paid off! 

At first, I was in total shock.  How could this happen?  We had just paid our attorney $150 to file papers with the court a couple of months ago, renewing our agreement to resume making payments on the car.  We had skipped paying for four months while we went through the very painful process of filing for bankruptcy.  

We had reluctantly come to the conclusion that bankruptcy protection was the only viable solution to the mountain of debt we had accumulated in trying for too long to hold onto the lovely big home we bought to start our life together, which just happened to be at the top of the market. Since then, its value has fallen over $200,000. My husband has been a successful full-time realtor for the last 13 years, and we kept hoping against hope that the market would turn around. Instead, the real estate “crash” was more severe and dragged on far, far longer than anyone in the business had ever seen, and both Rick’s income and our home equity dried up at the same time.

We are grateful to say that, with the dawn of a new decade, the light at the end of our personal dark financial tunnel has finally been lit, too.  Rick has been very busy with real estate since January, and with three big deals due to close in May, we have been eagerly looking forward to paying off our last creditors and entering our new financial future with hope and enthusiasm. That’s why we filed those papers, which the bank signed, saying that we could resume paying his car loan this very month. 

“This is a terrible injustice!” I thought. “We need to get our attorney to straighten this out!”  But it was too early to call anyone, so instead I went out and got the paper and stared at the empty space where the Explorer had been parked when we went to bed.  I made my coffee and sat down to try to read, but I just couldn’t concentrate on world news when my own life seemed to be badly messed up at the moment.  

Because I have complete faith that everything that happens is ultimately for our Highest Good, I had no doubt that this mistake would eventually get straightened out.  Still, I wasn’t looking forward to the wasted hours of phone calls, red tape and probable impound fees we would have to endure before Rick could get his car back.  So, to calm myself and re-focus my thoughts on what I WANT, instead of what I DON’T want, I did what I always recommend to my clients; I started listing all the things that I am grateful for at this very moment. 

Rick and our son, Matthew, were first on the list, of course.  And Samantha the dog and Maui the cat.  Next, came our lovely home, which we are grateful to have kept as a rental all this time, despite having lost the bigger, fancier house that we bought together before our wedding.  Since moving back to this smaller house where Rick and Matthew lived before we met, I have come to appreciate its cozy beauty. Rick and I especially love sitting on the patio, sipping a glass of wine, enjoying the backyard full of roses, breathtaking sunsets and panoramic views of Orange County that stretch 100 miles. 

But on my third wedding anniversary morning, what I was most specifically grateful for was my beautiful 2002 silver VW Passat, which I had purchased as a single woman in 2004 with my then-perfect credit. And I was particularly grateful that it was in good running condition and that it was completely PAID for.  My own little scheme had been to sell my car to get the money to pay off Rick’s Explorer, just as soon as our bankruptcy was discharged. 

It had always been our plan to keep the Ford Explorer, even when two months ago we discovered it was in need of a new transmission, having put on well over 100,000 miles hauling teenagers and their hockey equipment to scores of games and driving dozens of clients to view homes all over Southern California.  Neither of us questioned that the newer, bigger SUV was the one to keep, although we sometimes regretted its thirst for gas — a far less painful drawback in 2005, when gas prices were low and home prices were high. 

I couldn’t believe it!  Just a few days ago we had been giving THANKS for the big real estate commissions that would be coming in soon. That money was how we were going to be able to pay $3,500 for a new transmission and $1500 or so for new tires and brakes, plus whatever it would cost to fix the radio that had taken to turning itself up to full volume whenever we turned the knob to make it softer. Altogether, it was going to cost around $5,000 just to keep it running, and now it was GONE! 

Pondering that seemingly-ironic turn of events caused a light bulb to go off for me. Without a second thought, we were about to fork over a very big chunk of Rick’s long-awaited income, just to make a five-year-old car drivable again and to pay off the loan balance and avoid the remaining sizable monthly loan payments, so we can begin to rebuild financially. Out of nowhere, I got a whole new perspective on this apparent “tragedy,” which had never occurred to me before now. The repossession had happened just two days after the discharge of our bankruptcy, and we hadn’t even had time to call the lawyer or the bank to ask how they wanted to arrange to get their money.  

Maybe, I thought, this startling turn of events was the Universe’s way of STOPPING us from taking actions that weren’t for our Highest Good! Maybe spending $10,000 on fixing up and paying off a five-year-old SUV was NOT “the Best” for us! If we wanted to, we could instead use that cash to buy a newer, more cost-effective used car. Or we can simply choose to enjoy the peace of mind that comes from driving a nice car with NO payments and NO significant maintenance needs! 

That’s it! The Repo Men actually did us a huge favor.  In fact, you could say that the bank gave us $10,000 cash for our anniversary! Oh, yes, and the Explorer’s registration renewal notice came in the mail later that very afternoon.  So I guess we can add another $250 to that generous gift… Happy Anniversary, indeed! 

What is going on in your own life right now that looks like a “tragedy” or a “problem”?  I invite you to try on a new perspective, and ask yourself, “How might this situation actually turn out to be for my HIGHEST Good?  And what steps do I need to take to help it do so?”  I bet you will be surprised by the answer.  The Universe is so much wiser than we humans are and it always has a 30,000 – foot view of  life, while we can only see it from five and a half or six feet off the ground!  

So, remember that, while you are busy fretting and worrying and pushing hard to try to come with your own imperfect plan to solve your problem du jour, the Universe is just standing by, waiting patiently for you to stop flailing around and simply quiet your mind to be able to receive the perfect “How” that it has already figured out for you.  

And then you can really mean it when you say, Wow! It WAS for the best, after all!”

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How Are Your 2010 Goals Coming Along?

Remember all those big, wonderful New Year’s resolutions and inspiring goals you set for yourself with such enthusiasm and optimism back in January?  

Well, how are you doing on fulfilling them?  Are you where you thought you’d be by now?  Or have you already succumbed to Resolution Resignation and given up on your dreams?  Are you afraid it’s already too late to have 2010 go the way YOU wanted it to? 

On Tuesday May 18, Coach Sue Koch and I will present a F.R.E.E. 60-minute Tele-class entitled June Re-Start: It’s Not Too Late to Reach Your 2010 Goals!  In one powerful hour, we will show you that it’s NOT TOO LATE to wipe the slate clean and get a Fresh Start on your 2010 Goals!  

Don’t miss this opportunity, if you are ready to…

  • Clean out the “junk drawer” of your past to make room for exhilarating new possibilities
  • Discover the biggest goal-setting mistakes and how to eliminate them forever
  • Learn the secret to making your Big, Juicy Goals turn out successfully – with ease
  • Crash through the roadblocks to success once and for all
  • Find out how to make your Big, Juicy Dreams come true and have FUN doing it! 

Here’s what a few past participants in our Fresh Start 2010 tele-seminar have to say about what they got to help them reach their Big, Juicy Goals this year: 

“I got a lot out of this course.  It made me realize what my true goal is and to start creating from that to get what I want for my family and myself… I will definitely use the tools from this course moving forward.” – Marci Ginger 

“This course made me realize what I was hiding from myself and my dreams behind my escape mechanism of self-induced clutter…” – Toni Federe   

In the past, I’ve had issues with saying I will do something and then letting it fall by the wayside. I am confident that with the Action Plan and accountability structures that this course helped me create, I will complete my journey to fulfilling my dream!  Thank you for getting me into action — FINALLY! ” – Penny Kempfert 

Please join us on Tuesday, May 18 at 6pm Pacific for this invaluable F.R.E.E. information to help you make 2010 THE BEST year of your life yet!  Just email me to register and even if you can’t be with us live, you will receive a replay link for the call.  

Your questions and comments are always welcome!  Please contact me at: caroll@practicalprosperitycoach.com.

 

“Promise yourself to live in faith that the whole world is on your side so long as you are true to the best that is in you.” – Christian Larson 

This week’s topic is directly related to the “21-Day Challenge” that I have been taking for far MORE than 21 days now!  As I shared with you last time, I have restarted FOUR times since I began with such confidence on March 20!  

I’m realizing now that, to be in integrity with myself, I really need to re-start a FIFTH time! But finally there has been a breakthrough for me that gives me hope that this will be the LAST re-start for me, because I believe I have found a fool-proof way to KNOW when I’m about to fall off the “positivity” wagon and straight into criticism and gossip.  

As you will recall, I learned about this personal “challenge” from Master Manifester Edwene Gaines, who wrote about her own experience with it in her wonderful prosperity guide entitled, The Four Spiritual Laws of Prosperity.  The reward for going 21 days in a row without uttering a single word of complaint or gossip is that you will gain tremendous POWER and ENERGY to manifest everything you want for your life. Persistent negativity, on the other hand, drains you of energy and leaves you feeling bad about others, the world and worst of all, about yourself.  

Initially, I thought winning the 21-Day Challenge would be a cinch, since I consider myself to be an inherently optimistic and positive person who tries to think about and talk about only “the best” for myself and others. Yet, when I was forced to be accountable for the words I actually DO say aloud, I discovered just how prone I am to making cynical observations and “catty quips” in conversation. 

After my fourth re-start, I was doing really, really well…. right up until Friday, when I had lunch with a coaching colleague.  Without provocation, I began making snide observations to her about another colleague whose past behavior had puzzled and annoyed both of us. Yet, there was nothing going on at the moment with that third party that affected me personally!  Mind you, even if I had a REASON to complain, that wouldn’t have been sufficient grounds to do so, according to the “no gossip” rules of the 21-Day Challenge.  

But I didn’t even HAVE a reason!  I just felt like making some “truthful observations” about that third party. Yes, the things I said were true, at least as far as my limited perspective could ascertain.   Nevertheless, discussing this third party to his/her detriment is the very definition of “gossip!” And, to make matters worse, I was COMPLAINING about that person’s past behavior and how it had once affected me, so I created a double-whammy for myself in the 21-Day Challenge: I was BOTH complaining and gossiping

It was only later when I was alone and reflecting back on our lunchtime conversation that I realized what I had done.  Darn it!!! How could I have RUINED my 11-day positive “streak” in exchange for the tiny feeling of self- satisfaction I got from being right about someone else’s bad behavior?  Disgusted with myself, I wondered, “What is it going to take, for me to REMEMBER not to trash-talk anymore?” 

That’s when a “test” came to mind that I first learned in my youth.  I don’t know the originator, or I’d give credit to the source, but it has stuck with me all my life…I’ll bet somewhere along the way YOU have heard it too.  However, like me, you may have experienced temporary “amnesia” about these three conversational guidelines whenever you wanted to say something witty in public! 

Let’s call it the “T.K.H Test”: Before you say something to or about someone else, stop and ask yourself, “Is it TRUE?  Is it KIND? Is it HELPFUL?”  That’s it, I thought!  If I can just pause BEFORE my tongue starts moving long enough to ask myself those three little questions, I’m absolutely sure I can finally WIN the 21-Day Challenge!  

I rarely have trouble with the first part of the test: Is it TRUE?  I don’t believe in lying, and I’m sure neither do you.  I always tell the truth as I know it, don’t you?  The trick with this test is to be SURE it’s the truth.  The tabloids on the newsstand don’t seem to apply this test very often.  If it’s a juicy rumor that doesn’t sound completely implausible, that seems to be good enough for them.  I just need to be a bit more stringent with myself and make SURE before I speak that what I’m about to share is 100% TRUE — not mere gossip or speculation.  And, really, if you’re not sure it’s TRUE, what is the point of spreading the information — what possible good can a half-truth do anyone? 

I’m afraid that the second part of the test Is it KIND? is a bit tougher for me. As I’m sure you do, I try to be kind to others — at least to their face.  I would never purposely say something hurtful TO someone.  However, when I’m talking to a third party, I admit to sometimes making observations ABOUT someone that I wouldn’t feel 100% comfortable saying TO them.  So my new test is now going to be: “If I wouldn’t say it TO them, then I won’t say it ABOUT them.”  And my lunchtime conversation about my absent colleague failed this test miserably, I am ashamed to admit. 

But above all else, I believe that it’s the THIRD test that is KEY to becoming a Master Manifester. Truth and kindness aren’t all that hard to live by.  But determining before you speak whether some tidbit of news or opinion will truly be HELPFUL to your listener represents an advanced level of conversational mastery!  What you have to say may be true and it may even be something you would be willing to say directly TO the person. But you must also ask yourself, “Will what I’m about to say HELP either of us to become a better person or live a better life?”  If not, then WHY would you want to waste your time on THAT, when there are so much more empowering topics to choose from? 

For the first time since first starting the 21-Day Challenge, I believe I now have a reliable test that I can apply before I open my mouth to speak, instead of just learning the hard way with 20-20 hindsight. If what I am about to say fails ANY part of the “T.K.H.” test, then Iwill just say “NO” to saying it!  

Developing the self-awareness and self-discipline that it takes to win the 21-Day Challenge will be well worth it, because once you have mastered positive speaking, you will be much closer to being able to direct your thoughts to focus ONLY on what you WANT — instead of what you DON’T WANT.  And then you will be able to manifest anything you want with absolute ease. And I wouldn’t trade that for the momentary fun of a little “witty repartee” …would you?_________________________________________________________________________________________

How Are Your 2010 Goals Coming Along?

Remember all those big, wonderful New Year’s resolutions and inspiring goals you set for yourself with such enthusiasm and optimism back in January?  

Well, how are you doing on fulfilling them?  Are you where you thought you’d be by now?  Or have you already succumbed to Resolution Resignation and given up on your dreams?  Are you afraid it’s already too late to have 2010 go the way YOU wanted it to? 

On Tuesday May 18, Coach Sue Koch and I will present a F.R.E.E. 60-minute Tele-class entitled June Re-Start: It’s Not Too Late to Reach Your 2010 Goals!  In one powerful hour, we will show you that it’s NOT TOO LATE to wipe the slate clean and get a Fresh Start on your 2010 Goals!  

Don’t miss this opportunity, if you are ready to…

  • Clean out the “junk drawer” of your past to make room for exhilarating new possibilities
  • Discover the biggest goal-setting mistakes and how to eliminate them forever
  • Learn the secret to making your Big, Juicy Goals turn out successfully – with ease
  • Crash through the roadblocks to success once and for all
  • Find out how to make your Big, Juicy Dreams come true and have FUN doing it! 

Here’s what a few past participants in our Fresh Start 2010 teleseminar have to say about what they got to help them reach their Big, Juicy Goals this year: 

“I got a lot out of this course.  It made me realize what my true goal is and to start creating from that to get what I want for my family and myself… I will definitely use the tools from this course moving forward.” – Marci Ginger 

“This course made me realize what I was hiding from myself and my dreams behind my escape mechanism of self-induced clutter…” – Toni Federe  

In the past, I’ve had issues with saying I will do something and then letting it fall by the wayside. I am confident that with the Action Plan and accountability structures that this course helped me create, I will complete my journey to fulfilling my dream!  Thank you for getting me into action — FINALLY! ” – Penny Kempfert

Please join us on Tuesday, May 18 at 6pm Pacific for this invaluable and absolutely F.R.E.E. information to help you make 2010 the BEST year of your life yet!  Just email me to register. Even if you can’t be with us live, be sure to register and you will be sent the Reflections Exercise and a replay link for the call.  

Your questions and comments are always welcome!  Please contact me at: caroll@practicalprosperitycoach.com.