January 2015


“Service is the very purpose of life. It is the rent we pay for being on this planet.” – Marion Wright Edelman

Before I address this week’s topic, I want to thank everyone who sent me personal feedback on last week’s blog about Tolerations. Apparently, it really struck a nerve with many of you!   Most gratifying, many readers reported that they are already getting into ACTION on their Tolerations and feeling great about it!

Tolerations – things, people and situations you have been “putting up with” for some time that drain your physical, mental and emotional energy – can interfere with your ability to manifest the future you desire for yourself. Your 2014 Year Completion exercise helped you identify the valuable lessons you learned from the mistakes you believe you made last year, while the 2015 Year Creation exercise helped you identify exactly what you want out of THIS year.   Identifying the Tolerations that are in your PRESENT is the bridge between the two.

If you simply make a list of everything that’s currently bugging you and begin to work steadily at completing all your incomplete tasks, ending toxic relationships, getting out of commitments you don’t really care about, you will gradually open up a clean, clear energetic “space” for your NEW year to show up in – exactly the way you already imagined it on paper.   So I hope you will get to work on this pronto!

OK, now to today’s topic: As the saying goes, “What goes around, comes around.” When you give GOOD to others, the Universe will give GOOD to you in return.

First, I want to quote in its entirety today’s affirmation/positive message from The Daily Word, a wonderful little daily positive thinking tool published by the Unity church, because it sums this idea up so beautifully:

“[Today’s Affirmation:] I am appreciative, kind, and generous with others.

Today I live with the intention to express to others my generosity, kindness and appreciation.

I am grateful for the presence of my loved ones. I cherish the good moments and the difficulties that help us grow. As I appreciate others, I also feel better about myself.

Because I value others and myself, I am kind. In my thoughts and actions, I treat myself with gentleness, and I extend that kindness in my relationships. As I cultivate gentleness, my spirit expands. Out of kindness and appreciation for others, I am generous.   I take every opportunity to give of my time, talent and treasure. As I cultivate benevolence, I grow in the love of God.

[Scripture that was the inspiration for this affirmation:] You will be enriched in every way for your great generosity, which will produce thanksgiving to God. – 2 Corinthians 9:11.”

I begin every coaching session by inviting my clients to do an energetic “clearing” by saying anything they need to say to let go of any negative thoughts or feelings, so they don’t clutter up the energetic “space” for our session – kind of like Tolerations do! I wish I had a dollar for every clearing that featured a complaint about another person – usually a family member, spouse, friend, business associate – i.e., someone who is emotionally close to them.

I acknowledge this as an observable fact: People close to us DO behave badly sometimes and it DOES hurt or annoy us. But the amount of time and energy we expend being angry and/or feeling hurt by what someone else says, does or even (we imagine) thinks about us is amazing! Unfortunately, that is purely negative energy that we are holding inside our mind, body and spirit. The energy WE feel and exude into the world is what comes back to US as “like energy.” That’s the Law of Attraction (or karma) in a nutshell: You get back from the Universe exactly what you give.

Whatever another person did or didn’t do that we judge they should or shouldn’t have can have NO lasting impact on US – unless we allow it to. Unless we invite it in with our hurt feelings, blame, judgments and Tolerations. One of the Four Agreements (an incredibly powerful and helpful self-coaching book that I highly recommend) by Don Miguel Ruiz is “Don’t Take Anything Personally.”   Ruiz asserts that if you can master not taking personally ANYTHING someone else says or does, you will live a life of “Heaven on Earth.” Nothing anyone else does or says will have the power to hurt you.

That’s true even if they were purposely TRYING to hurt you! The negative energy someone else directs toward YOU will come back to bite them via the Law of Attraction. Only if you meet their negativity with your own negative reaction will you draw negative circumstances to your own life. Evil does seem to have the upper hand sometimes, but it can never last. Positive energy is stronger than negative energy, so kindness, truth and generosity will eventually prevail — IF your thoughts, feelings and actions remain positive toward yourself and others.

How the Law of Attraction works is simple, if not always easy to carry out: If you want MORE prosperity, happiness and kindness to come to YOU, you must first GIVE them to others. One of my favorite coaching tools and personal daily practices is keeping a Daily Gratitude Journal, where I list 10 things I am grateful for in my life right now.   Many of them involve other people who are in my life. After I acknowledge my GRATITUDE for the ways they have blessed me, I always send THEM an energetic blessing that they, too, will have a great day filled with love, health and prosperity.

Whenever an opportunity arises to help someone else with my time, treasure or talents, I do my best to ACT on it. That doesn’t mean I always put others’ projects, commitments and requests ahead of my own. It means that IF I can help someone else, I will do so. And invariably, whatever good I do for someone else comes back to me – usually greatly multiplied!

One of the ways I routinely try to use my time and talents to assist others is by offering free one-hour phone coaching sessions to anyone who sincerely WANTS help with an important problem or goal in their life. In the hour we spend coaching together, I strive to deeply listen to them (allowing them to clear/release their negative feelings about themselves and others), understand their point of view (without judging them), and then offer any advice or resources I know they could use to help themselves.

Obviously, I hope many of my “free session clients” will want to hire me to coach them on an ongoing basis. This is how I make my living, after all. But I would say between one-quarter to one-third of them either don’t want to make the time and/or accountability commitment or believe they cannot make the financial investment at the moment to enable them to reach their goals. That is perfectly fine with me.   My belief is that this is the most valuable service I can offer the Universe as my “rent” for the happy, healthy and purposeful life I am blessed to live.

The funny thing is, though, that ALL these free sessions come back to bless me in some way. At the very least, I feel good about making a difference for a stranger I will probably never speak to again.   And it always sharpens my listening/coaching skills to try to help someone significantly in just one hour. The more I coach, the better I coach! But the prosperity benefits that have come back to me by serving strangers in this small way have been amazing, too, as some of my wonderful long-term clients came to me via referrals from someone I spent just one hour coaching long ago.

If you simply do whatever Good you can for those who need it – especially love, understanding and forgiveness and ESPECIALLY for your loved ones – that positive energy will always come back to bless YOU as well — exactly where, when and how you need it. That is the Law of Attraction in its most wonderful, magical form!

RECOMMENDATION: Check out Don Miguel Ruiz, Four Agreements and much more at: http://www.miguelruiz.com

****************** Give the Gift of Dreams Fulfilled! ********************

This New Year, give a friend, colleague or loved one a truly unique gift that can change their life — ONE HOUR of Personal Success Coaching. It is absolutely F*R*E*E* with no obligation and no strings attached! You can give this to as many people who will really appreciate it as you wish. (If you haven’t been in coaching with me for awhile, feel free to claim it for YOURSELF, too!)

To schedule a F*R*E*E* HOUR of phone coaching that will help them clarify their Big Goals for the New Year and get into ACTION to make this their BEST year yet, have them email me at caroll@practicalprosperitycoach.com or 888-503-8145 to schedule their session.  

 

 

 

 

“Nourishing yourself in a way that helps you blossom in the direction you want to go is attainable, and you are worth the effort.” – Deborah Day

How are you coming with your 2014 Year Completion and 2015 Year Creation exercises? The main intention behind the Year Completion exercise, of course, is to help you emotionally complete the past and identify things you want to do differently this year. Unless you complete the past, you will inevitably carry that old emotional baggage into the new year and end up re-creating what you did NOT like about last year.

If you haven’t yet started or haven’t made much progress, don’t beat yourself up….Just start right NOW. One of the main things most of my clients and I want to do differently this year is to complete whatever we have left incomplete for too long and to stop putting up with whatever no longer serve us.

The coaching term for these annoying situations, habits and people that we drag around emotionally like a dead weight is Tolerations. We have been “tolerating” them for so long that they are always in the background of our lives, sucking away our energy, joy and freedom.

For me, it’s those “last 10 pounds” that I have been vowing to take off for the past 6 years or so. For you, it may be unfiled taxes, an unfinished home project, a messy desk, an overdue report or an unhealthy relationship you can’t seem to end. I am very proud of my clients and friends who have announced to me that they are IN ACTION on completing these old, nagging Tolerations:

  •  A young man had his last cigarette on his 30th birthday and has been a non-smoker for over a month now. It was much easier to quit than he’d imagined and he no longer craves tobacco — even when he’s around others smoking.
  • One client wrote to me: “I really do want an uber-organized desk (and life). I’m working on my desk this weekend.”
  • One client asked to be acknowledged for installing flooring in his attic and garage that had been on his “To Do” list for seven years.
  • A new empty-nester just emailed that she craves a closer connection with her husband, so “I told him I need six hugs a day and asked if he could help me out with that. To my delight, I’ve had ten straight days of my hug quota and it’s become a lot of fun.”
  • One of my clients admitted to tolerating her partner speaking rudely to her – even calling her “stupid” – when under stress. The last time he did it, she stopped what she was doing and declared calmly, “It’s not OK for you to speak to me like that. I’m going out for a walk to give you some time to think of a nicer way to say what you have to say to me. I’ll give you another chance when I get back.” He apologized and has since made an effort to treat her with more respect and even more affection.

What strategies could you employ to avoid having to list your 2014 Tolerations on your 2015 Year Completion exercise? Here are some New, Empowering Beliefs and strategies that could support you in overcoming your inertia and getting into action NOW:

It Won’t Take As Long As You Think

I have personally found this to be true many times in my life! More often than not, when I finally plunged in and made a start, I found it took FAR LESS time to complete the task than I had imagined. I had been procrastinating, thinking I had to wait until I found a “free” hour, half-day, day, week, etc.

A prime example was moving into my new home office several years ago. I had 20 cartons of books on the floor in front of four empty bookcases. They were stacked in the corner, leaving me enough space to walk around them, so I just left them there… for a YEAR! I felt chagrined every time I looked at them, but I was SURE I would need an entire afternoon to put them away, and there was always something more urgent to do, especially on the weekends.

What got me to start unpacking that first carton was the advice of a fellow coach I had complained to about “not having enough time” to get all those ugly cartons out of my office.   He gently suggested, “Why don’t you promise yourself to do ONE carton a day?” By the end of this month, you’ll be finished.”

Duh! When I finally opened the first carton, it dawned on me that when I had packed the books, they were already grouped together in logical sections, so all I had to do is lift them out of the carton and choose which shelf to put them on! It took me less than 5 minutes per carton to finish this Toleration and be able see my office floor again.

You Can Eat an Elephant One Bite at a Time

This New Year’s a dear friend of mine made a list of all her long-overdue projects and is now happily tackling just one item each week: Every week I get something off my list that has been on there forever and is bugging me, like getting a watch battery replaced, taking clothes to Goodwill, cleaning out a drawer, etc. I’m punching away at it…It’s funny, but that gives me the biggest high when I knock something off of it.”

YOU Are in Control of Your Time

Are you are one of those people who gets completely absorbed in a task and loses all sense of time? Don’t worry! An effective way for you to control your time as you tackle big projects is to set a timer for as little as 15 or 30 minutes – whatever you know you can spare that day. Then you can plunge into the task and when you hear the timer ding, STOP!   One of my clients used this method to clean out every closet in her home in just two weeks, including organizing all the clothes into sections in each closet and sending the old items to the Goodwill.

It’s OK to Ask for Help

This is probably the #1 most effective Toleration-busting strategy and the hardest for some of us. We were raised to believe we should be self-reliant, or we feel guilty “imposing” on others, or we are just embarrassed to admit we have let a problem become so big that we can no longer handle it alone.

I had a client a few years ago who told me her house was a candidate for the cable show “Hoarders.”   She was not some crazy old Cat Lady.   She was a 40-something, smart professional who lived in a big home with three teenagers. But since her husband left her, she had lost the will to keep the house organized and cleaned regularly. Worse, she worked from home and had paperwork and craft projects spread all over the house. Her family could no longer eat at the dining room table because it was covered with papers and half-done projects. Her kids could not have friends over and she had given up entertaining because she couldn’t stand to have her friends know the truth.

She was paralyzed, not knowing where to begin and finally had to admit that the task was too huge to handle alone. With coaching support, she courageously asked a trusted friend to help her. The friend was great at organizing, loved the challenge and didn’t shame her in any way.   They enjoyed plunging into the project as a team, and even hired a couple of strong men to help them haul away stuff. In less than two weeks, the whole house was organized and spotless. My client was so thrilled, she splurged by having the inside walls freshly painted and bought some new furnishings. She was thrilled to be able to entertain during the Holidays in her own home for the first time in several years.

Just Do It!

OK, now you have ALL the information you need to succeed! Your simple Success Strategy is this:

1) Make a list of all the Tolerations you are truly ready to retire.

2) Pick ONE to start on.

3) Set the timer.

4) Grab a friend or hire a helper.

5) Begin!

P.S. I would love to hear YOUR personal story of what you did to triumph over a Toleration! Please email it to me in exchange for a heartfelt acknowledgment of you!

 ****************** Give the Gift of Dreams Fulfilled! ********************

This New Year, give a friend, colleague or loved one a truly unique gift that can change their life — ONE HOUR of Personal Success Coaching. It is absolutely F*R*E*E* with no obligation and no strings attached! You can give this to as many people who will really appreciate it as you wish. (If you haven’t been in coaching with me for awhile, feel free to claim it for YOURSELF, too!)

 To schedule a F*R*E*E* HOUR of phone coaching that will help them clarify their Big Goals for the New Year and get into ACTION to make this their BEST year yet, have them email me at caroll@practicalprosperitycoach.com or 888-503-8145 to schedule their session.  

 

“Set your sights high; the higher the better. Expect the most wonderful things to happen, not in the future, but right NOW.   Realize that nothing is TOO good.   Allow absolutely nothing to hamper you or hold you up in any way.” – Eileen Cady

In the first blog of 2015, we discussed the importance of completing your OLD year before you can create your NEW year. Once you have laid to rest your coulda-woulda-shouldas, any lingering resentments, incompletions and regrets over what did or didn’t happen for you last year, you are ready to create a whole new, even better, year NOW. Here’s the next step you will take to create a fabulous NEW year for yourself:

I have been doing a new Year Creation every year since 2004. I can’t say every year turned out exactly the way I had envisioned in every area of my life. Still, as I re-read each New Year’s Eve what I had set out to create, I was amazed to find that despite some very difficult challenges, much of what I truly wanted did come true. This was especially true in 2014 with my family’s financial turnaround. Whatever turned out differently than I asked for in each of those years, I knew would ultimately bring me my highest good because that’s the way God/the Universe works!

By the way, if you haven’t yet completed the “Reflections Exercise” that my coaching colleague, Sue Koch, and I designed to help you powerfully complete the old year, identify your Big Lessons from it, and create the mental and emotional space for a year of new manifestations, please take all the time you need to finish it before you begin today’s exercise. Click here to get the entire Reflections Exercise for powerfully completing your old year: http://wp.me/pttZj-j4

CREATING YOUR NEW YEAR

Once you have gotten complete with the old, you are ready for a brand new year of creating your life to be just the way YOU want it to be! Every January, I ask my coaching clients to use this very effective technique for creating your year on your own terms, rather than passively waiting to see how it all “turns out.” You CAN ask for what you want – and get it!

STEP ONE: Create a “theme” for the year. How would you like this year to show up in your life? Make it catchy so you can remember it on a daily basis. Last year, my theme was “2014: The Year of Dreams Delivered.” And boy, were they! My coaching practice took off and my husband’s real estate business did even better. We went from owing five figures and living paycheck to paycheck in January to being debt-free with savings in the bank by December! Christmas 2014 was very different from the one before, when we couldn’t put a single present under the tree. My theme for this year is “2015: The Year of Limitless Abundance.” I can’t wait for that to manifest!

STEP TWO: Create a list of attributes to describe how YOU want to show up for the world this year. State it in the present tense, as though it’s ALREADY a fact. Here’s my current one: “In 2015, I am a richly-rewarded Messenger of Limitless Prosperity and Possibility: Irresistible, Confident, Creative, Peaceful, Joyous, Patient, Humble, a Good Listener, Loving and Giving. I attract Effortlessly WHO I AM and EVERYTHING I want and need.”

By declaring who you are in writing, you will begin to become this person. And these qualities and attributes will attract to you “who you are” and “everything you want.” As the Law of Attraction, states, “Energy attracts like energy.” So whatever you cultivate in yourself will show up in those who will be attracted to you – in business, friendship, relationship – everywhere!

STEP THREE: List the main areas of life that are important to you. Then simply state what you intend to have show up in each area this year. Remember, you do not have to know how you are going to get it. Each dream you list is simply a declaration that this is what you WANT – stated in the present tense, as though it’s already happened. It’s up to God/the Universe to figure out the HOW. It’s your job to listen for that direction and then take ACTION.

This year, one of my clients created the clearest, most powerful and graceful Year Creation I have ever read – all on a single page, which is much shorter than my own! With her permission, I share it as an example of what the format looks like when complete. Remember, the areas of life she created her Big Dreams in are the most important to HER; yours may be in different areas, which is perfectly fine. If you see something you would like too, feel free to “borrow” it for your own!

2015 – My Year of Gentle Strength

I am a strong athlete, tender and caring friend, and open-hearted leader. I am creative, expressive and joyful. I feel and speak my truth. I am grateful, resilient and committed to my well-being.

Health and Well-being:

I am strong and healthy. I revel in the joy of moving and challenging my body. I run, swim, cycle, lift weights and do yoga with passion, as these things make me fully alive. I treat myself with gentle love, accepting what my body needs and can do on any given day. I eat whole, real foods that nourish me and provide me with optimal health. I give thanks for my healthy body.

Spirituality:

I have a comforting spiritual practice that allows me to build a beautiful connection with God. Through regular prayer, gratitude and reflection, I allow God’s will to be my guide.

Love:

I am grateful for a fulfilling marriage and friendship with my husband. We appreciate our time spent together, especially when we are separated geographically. We love, honor and respect one another and the gift of building our marriage and sharing experiences together.

Career:

I have a fulfilling and rewarding job that allows me to use my leadership skills. I have a steady income that continues to grow. I maintain a healthy balance between challenging work and my personal life, allowing me to nurture myself on many levels for overall health. As part of my self-care journey I balance time for work and time for home.

Prosperity:

I comfortably attract abundance into my life. I earn enough steady income to feel a sense of peace about our life. I ask for what I want and need with confidence and a strong sense of self-worth.

Balance:

I live a life that seeks and celebrates balance. I nurture many parts of myself so that I may flourish. I pray and meditate daily, I capture my profound gratitude in my journal and I connect with my inner wisdom to live each day at the pace and intensity that is right for me. I treat myself with kindness, compassion, and unconditional love. I feel lightness in my every day being.

Friendships:

I am surrounded by a small circle of loving friends who accept me for who I am, support me, and teach me what I need to learn. We want only the best for each other. I see them for socializing regularly.

Home:

Our home is filled with nourishing sunlight and love.   It is open, warm and welcoming.   It comforts and sustains me and is where I find peace and love. It provides beauty and safety for our family.

What matters most to YOU right now?

All you have to do is ASK God/the Universe for it and BELIEVE it will show up for you at the perfect time and in the perfect way. Some of my clients like to read their Year Creation daily or weekly. I read mine once or twice a month, just to stay connected to it. But you could put yours away in a drawer and not take it out until next New Years — and you will be amazed that the Divine Mind and your own subconscious mind have been conspiring together behind the scenes to create opportunities for you to make your Big Dreams REAL. That’s the Law of Attraction in action. So don’t delay! The BEST year of your life to date is just waiting for you to create it.

****************** Give the Gift of Dreams Fulfilled! ********************

This New Year, give a friend, colleague or loved one a truly unique gift that can change their life — ONE HOUR of Personal Success Coaching. It is absolutely F*R*E*E* with no obligation and no strings attached! You can give this to as many people who will really appreciate it as you wish.   (If you haven’t been in coaching with me for awhile, feel free to claim it for YOURSELF, too!)

To schedule a F*R*E*E* HOUR of phone coaching that will help them clarify their Big Goals for the New Year and get into ACTION to make this their BEST year yet, have them contact me at caroll@practicalprosperitycoach.com or 888-503-8145. 

 

 

“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

Welcome to a brand NEW year — your precious opportunity to wipe the slate clean and create a fresh start for your life! Whatever happened in 2014 — for good and for bad – will not define your 2015. Your beliefs, expectations and the actions you take TODAY will determine how your TOMORROW goes.

In my 10+ years as a professional Coach, I have been blessed to help hundreds of clients reach their Big Goals, so I know what it will take to make your next year turn out even better than this one did. Creating your next year the way you want it to be is a two-step process and this time of year is the ideal time to do it:

Step One: Complete the Old Year. You can’t create something NEW in a space that is full of old stuff. So, if you want your 2015 to be more than just a replay of the same things you experienced last year, you must first complete your old year to make space for your new Intentions.

The Reflections Exercise

A great “completion” process is simply to sit quietly and answer a series of questions that make you think deeply about the outcomes of your past year – the good, the bad and the ugly. Answering them honestly will clarify your underlying beliefs, expectations, attitudes and actions that influenced the results you got.

Every January, my coaching colleague, Sue Koch, and I give our clients a thought-provoking list of 30 questions we call the Reflections Exercise to fill out.

This exercise is designed to help you look objectively at what you did (and didn’t) do which influenced what happened for you last year. Determining accurately what caused your past outcomes helps you to identify new ways of thinking and being that will cause you to take new actions. Taking new actions will bring you new results, while continuing on “auto-pilot” inside of the same thought and behavior patterns pretty much assures that next year is going to bring you more of the same.

Here are a few of the thought-provoking “completion” questions we include:

Part 1 – Questions to Complete the Year

  • What promises did I break to myself and others in 2014?
  • What did I do that did not work out?
  • What do I wish I hadn’t wasted my time and energy on?
  • What do I wish I HAD expended my energy and time on but didn’t?

 Part 2 – Questions for Acknowledgment and Acceptance

  • What promises did I keep to myself and others in 2014?
  • What accomplishments and milestones am I celebrating?
  • What is the most important lesson I learned?   What’s important about the lesson?
  • What am I thankful for regarding this year?

Once you have completed the 20 questions in these first two sections, you are ready to take on creating something NEW by answering the last 10 questions, including:

Part 3 – Questions for Creating Your New Year

  • What do I intend to do differently in 2015?
  • What new skills or practices do I intend to put into place next year? How would that make me feel?
  • What would I most like to learn or master?  How would that make me feel?
  • What do I intend to accomplish next year that will matter most five years from now?

Done right, the Reflections Exercise takes most people one to two hours, but it can be broken up into several sessions – one sitting per section works great. You do not have to answer EVERY question, but do focus on the ones that are most relevant to you and take an honest look, so your next year can be EVEN better!

Click here to get the entire Reflections Exercise for powerfully completing your old year: http://wp.me/pttZj-j4

Next week, I will share with you my all-time favorite method for co-creating your NEW year exactly as you would like it to be. It’s a great adjunct to the Reflections Exercise. I have loved doing it for myself at the start of every January for the past 10 years and I bet you will too!

*********** Give the Gift of Dreams Fulfilled! ************

This New Year, give a friend, colleague or loved one a truly unique gift that can change their life — ONE HOUR of Personal Success Coaching. It is absolutely F*R*E*E* with no obligation and no strings attached! You can give this to as many people who will really appreciate it as you wish. (If you haven’t been in coaching with me for awhile, feel free to claim it for YOURSELF, too!)

To schedule a F*R*E*E* HOUR of phone coaching that will help them clarify their Big Goals for the New Year and get into ACTION to make this their BEST year yet, have them contact me at caroll@practicalprosperitycoach.com or 888-503-8145 to schedule their session.  

 

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Reflections Exercise

To create a FRESH START for the New Year, it helps to take stock of what happened this past year. It gives you an opportunity to reflect on the past year, clear out the cobwebs, and start your New Year with a clean slate. This exercise holds you to account for your accomplishments and breakdowns in the following areas:

What Happened?
How Did You Contribute to What Happened?
What Did You Learn?

The exercise also offers you questions to consider for creating the year to come, giving you the opportunity to ignite your passion fuse and start the New Year off with a bang! Let’s Get Started!

Below is a list of questions. Write your answers in a journal or in a place where can refer back to them. You don’t have to complete the exercise in one sitting. It’s okay to complete it in stages.

Pick a time and a place where you can allow your heart, mind, body and spirit to be present to this exercise without distractions. Relax, take a few deep breaths and allow your answers to come without force. Listen to meditation music if that works for you.

If you get “stuck” on a particular question, move on. You can come back to it later. If particular questions don’t pertain to you, that’s okay…as long as you aren’t avoiding them. You may think of questions that don’t appear on the list – it’s okay to include them. The intention of this exercise is to EMPOWER you for the year to come. Don’t over-think or judge your answers. Just allow your Higher Self to be with whatever comes to you.

PART 1 – Questions to Complete the Year
1- What promises did I break to myself and others last year?
2- What did I do that did not work out?
3- What do I still resent or feel upset about from the past year? (Include people, circumstances, ways of being, etc.)
4- Who or what did I withhold love from during the past year? (Include you, other people, circumstances, ways of being, etc.)
5- What did I tolerate last year?
6- What do I wish I hadn’t wasted my time and energy on last year?
7- What do I wish I HAD expended my energy and time on but didn’t?
8- What do I wish I had accomplished last year but didn’t?
9- What word or phrase best describes last year?
10- On a scale of 1-10, what is my level of satisfaction with last year?

PART 2 – Questions for Acknowledgement and Acceptance
1- What promises did I keep to myself and others last year?
2- What accomplishments or milestones am I celebrating?
3- What is important about each of these accomplishments or milestones?
4- What did I have to overcome or break through?
5- What is possible for the future as a result of reaching these accomplishments or milestones?
6- What must I let go of in order to forgive myself and others?
7- What’s the most important lesson I learned last year? What’s important about that lesson?
8- What would I like to pat myself on the back for?
9- What would I like to be patted on the back for by others?
10- What am I thankful for regarding the year?

PART 3 – Questions for Creating Your New Year
1- To whom and what do I intend to express my love this year? (Include you, others, circumstances, etc.)
2- What do I intend to do differently this year? Who do I intend to become?
3- What would I most like to un-learn or eliminate from my life this year?
4- What new skills or practices do I intend to put into place this year? How would that make me feel?
5- What would I most like to learn or master? How would that make me feel?
6- What do I intend to accomplish this year that will matter most five years from now?
7- What successes would I like to achieve in the areas of:
 Financial Well Being?
 Health?
 Personal or Professional Relationships?
 Spirituality?
 Personal Growth and Development?
 Business or Career Growth?
 Community Service?
8- How will I celebrate these accomplishments?
9- What word or phrase best describes my intention for the coming year?
10- What else is present for me to complete, acknowledge or intend that I haven’t already said, acknowledged or intended?