July 2020


July 26, 2020

I am deep into managing the many details of launching the New Success Coaching Membership next month, so this is an edited re-posting of a fan-favorite blog from a year ago. It’s right on topic for what the new coaching membership is all about.  I hope you enjoy it (again)!

“Most of your emotions, positive or negative, are determined by how you talk to yourself on a minute-by-minute basis.  It’s not what happens to you, but the way that you interpret the things that are happening to you that determines how you feel.” – from Eat That Frog: 21 Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time

The New Success Coaching Membership is off to a great start!  All the Founding Members are fired up to begin creating a Big Intention (a BIG Goal they are 100% committed to reaching in four months or less).  The focus of the membership’s foundational course is to teach them how to use the Law of Attraction to help them reach those Big Intentions, even though they don’t yet know HOW they will do it.

Some of the tools we will use involve work smarter not harder strategies, but most are about learning to control their own mindset.

The dictionary definition of MINDSET is “an attitude, disposition or mood.”  Synonyms for it include “mental make-up, mental processes, way of thinking, where your head is at.”

If you want to be happy AND successful, you must learn to control your mindset because your mindset conjures up positive or negative emotions that, in turn, trigger the Law of Attraction (“energy attracts like energy”) to attract people, resources and circumstances that will either HELP or HINDER you in creating what you want.

You may think that whatever happens to you makes you spontaneously FEEL a certain way and there’s nothing you can do about it. Fortunately, that is far from the case! Outer circumstances do not have the power to make us FEEL any particular way.  You have the power to consciously CHOOSE how you “feel” and how you will respond to what happens to you.

It all starts with how you choose to interpret what happens to you and the MEANING you choose to give it.  That is your mindset in daily action.

Here are four main areas in which your mindset can greatly affect your EMOTIONS, which in turn, will set the Law of Attraction in motion to either move you forward or hold you back from reaching your goals:

  • Negative Interpretations of what others’ words and actions mean about you

A friend told me that she has been waking up every morning in a foul mood lately.  She didn’t seem to know exactly why, so I asked her to consider what thoughts she was having that could be triggering her negative emotions.  She answered candidly that, as a teacher, she was disheartened that, as the final weeks of school wound down, most of her class seemed bored and mentally checked out.  She interpreted her students’ mood and behavior as a reflection of HER teaching skills.  She was telling herself, “If I were a better teacher, they would be more engaged and eager to learn.”

As soon as she said it, she recognized the fallacy of her chosen interpretation!  She admitted that she and her students are ALL tired after a long semester, and that the subject she teaches is not one that most students would choose to study unless they needed it to graduate. In fact, when she was in school, it probably never crossed her mind that she herself would end up in that field!

Just shifting her interpretation of how and why other people were behaving a certain way elevated her mood, and she decided to focus her attention on the students who WERE engaged and DID appreciate her efforts to make the class interesting and helpful.

As my friend and mentor Leslie Zann often says, “You are making it all up anyway, so why not make up something GOOD?” 

  • Comparing yourself to others’ achievements

We all know better, but our Egos seem to be hard-wired to do this. You must consciously stop yourself from doing it because it has a demoralizing impact on your energy and prevents the Law of Attraction from attracting what you WANT.

Moreover, your self-comparison is likely not valid anyway, because you are comparing apples to oranges.  Anyone who seems to be doing better or going faster than you does not have the identical circumstances or background you have: They grew up with a different family dynamic, have a different education, training and/or experience, different friends and connections, and a different personality and perhaps a different mindset! You have nothing in common with them, except perhaps the length of time you have been after a similar goal.  So forget about competing and concentrate on running your OWN race and making the most of YOUR unique skills, abilities, qualities and mindset.

  • Berating yourself (or others) for past mistakes

The most useless human emotion is guilt.  To be human is to make mistakes and have regrets. But you cannot change the past, no matter how much you wish you could. All you can do is to be honest and take full responsibility for your own mess-ups, especially those that affect others.  Sincerely and humbly apologize to anyone you have harmed by your words, actions or inactions.  Make amends if you possibly can. But even if they don’t forgive you, you must forgive yourself and move on.

Staying stuck in the past inside your own head prevents you from taking the positive actions that can help yourself and others today and tomorrow. Learn from your mistakes and leave the negative emotions behind.

The second most useless emotion is resentment. If you want to be forgiven, you must be able to forgive others.  That doesn’t mean you condone their actions, but you have to forgive them for your own sake. If you harbor resentment, anger or thirst for revenge, those negative feelings are only going to hurt YOU, because the Law of Attraction must inevitably attract to you even more circumstances to resent.

  • Worrying about the future

Worry is another unhelpful and destructive mindset.  Any time your mind spends focused on the “worst case scenario” that your Ego fears might happen is wasted time that could have been used to create the outcome you DO want.  You can’t hold two separate thoughts in your mind at the same time.  When you find yourself worrying about a possible negative outcome (which let’s face it, 99 percent of the time never happens anyway), simply turn your thoughts to focusing on what you DO want, and you will be sending your powerful energy in the RIGHT direction for the Law of Attraction to help you get it.

As positive-thought pastor Joel Osteen says, Pay attention to what is playing in your mind. When you dwell on negative thoughts, you’re not going to have peace.  You have to change what you’re dwelling on.  So when the opportunity to worry comes, use it as a reminder to …. thank [God/The Universe] for His good!”

If you want to FEEL consistently great and create all the SUCCESS you dream of, you must start right now to monitor your mindset closely. You have the power to think thoughts that are going to create positive emotions in you, which will then cause the Law of Attraction to help you reach your Big Goals in record time!

PLEASE NOTE: To give me time to launch the new membership course, the blog will be taking the next two weeks off.  Look for your next fresh Cup of Caroll on Sunday August 16. 

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July 19, 2020

“People may hear your words but they FEEL your attitude.” – John Maxwell

I am happily busy with preparations for the exciting launch of the New Success Coaching Membership.  But I wanted to pause to share with you one more insight I recently got into all the amazing ways you can use the creative power of the Law of Attraction in every area of your life, which is actually the whole focus of the Membership course.

As you know, the Law of Attraction states that “energy attracts like energy.” Therefore, the personal energy vibration (your thoughts plus the emotions that those thoughts stir up) that you put out into the world must inevitably attract to you the people, circumstances and resources that are a match for your energy.

The GREAT news is, there are many tools available to help you harness the power of The Law of Attraction by directing your energy to attract the GOOD things that will answer your needs, prayers and heartfelt wishes.  You don’t have to know exactly HOW or WHEN the answer will appear because you can always trust that the perfect means and timing will be handled by God/The Universe.

All you have to do is YOUR part of the equation: ASK clearly and specifically for what you want or need, BELIEVE that God/The Universe will come up with the perfect HOW, and keep your eyes and mind open to RECEIVE the clear guidance that will lead you to exactly what you want or need at the perfect time.

In the last blog, I shared a personal story that proved to me that the divine Law of Attraction can bring you what you want and need at exactly the perfect time, in unexpected ways that your Ego never would have thought of in a million years.

As you will recall, a few weeks ago, I went out to my mailbox and found an envelope from a friend and former coaching client.  I had no idea why she would be writing to me. When I opened it, I got a huge surprise — a check made out to me for $1,000!

Her enclosed note explained that she had received a very unexpected large bonus from her work. That $10,000 was the exact amount she had been ASKING to manifest in one of my past Law of Attraction courses to help her pay off some debts. It wasn’t delivered exactly when or how she might have imagined, but it was perfect to meet her present needs.

What was miraculous for ME was that she chose to pay a large portion of it forward to ME, as thanks for having loaned her some money when she needed it several years ago.  She had already paid me back in full, as far as I was concerned.  But she said in her note, “I told myself that when the day came that I could return the favor to you, I would do so….In the past few months, I have had several surprise windfalls myself and so I decided, ‘there is no time like the present!’”

I was stunned and delighted, of course!  But at the time, neither of us suspected that her timing for sending me this unexpected gift was especially perfect.  She had originally been planning to send it to me closer to the Holidays, when she thought it would be most welcome.  But an inner urge kept telling her that NOW was the right time to send it.  Happily, she followed that divine prodding because it soon became apparent that NOW was indeed the perfect timing.

I stashed her $1,000 gift in the bank while I contemplated how best to use it.  Two weeks ago, my tax advisor informed me that the amount we still owed for 2019 plus our quarterly estimated tax payments for 2020 came to exactly $1,000!  I was amazed and so grateful that God/The Universe obviously knew of my upcoming need and arranged to have it delivered at exactly the right time by unexpected, perfect means.

We know that Generosity and Gratitude are two of the most powerful positive emotions we can express to attract MORE good things to us.  I was once generous to my friend and she felt very grateful.  Years later, she got the inner urge to be generous to me at the perfect time to fulfill a need I didn’t even know I was going to have. By the divine Law of Attraction, our reciprocal giving and receiving energy connected us in an exchange of abundance that fulfilled both of our needs.

Serendipitous timing and prosperity windfalls like these don’t have to be rare occurrences in our lives. We can learn to adopt the right mindset and energy to harness the creative energy of the Law of Attraction in all areas of life on a daily basis.

These proven tools that I have been using myself and sharing with my private coaching clients for the past 16 years are exactly what I will be teaching to all the New Success Coaching Members beginning in August.  Once they master using the Law of Attraction, they will be able to attract more of the RIGHT customers, business partners, ideas and resources to boost their success more quickly and easily than just hard work and marketing savvy alone could do.

Of course, the Law of Attraction works in EVERY area of life, not just business.  It can help us to create ideal relationships, health, creativity, fun – virtually anything you desire, require and MORE.  And yes, it can even pay your taxes!

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********** Give Yourself or Someone Else the Gift of Dreams Fulfilled!***********

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