October 11, 2020

I haven’t had time to write a new blog for today, due to a very busy week keeping our household running, serving my coaching clients and especially looking after my wonderful husband Rick’s needs as he navigates today’s complex medical system.

Rick had successful back surgery on Friday the 2nd and is now in a facility to receive physical therapy to help him once again stand strong and tall and walk with confidence. He is making great progress and we are very grateful for the wonderful care he has been receiving every step of the way!

This is the perfect opportunity for me to share a great article I found online, which provides scientific validation for the power of the Law of Attraction (“energy attracts like energy”) in our daily lives.  Studies show that your emotions spread further than you think.

I give the author, Brad Stulberg, full credit for this great article. Enjoy!

From Outside by Brad Stulberg

“Researchers from Yale University closely monitored just under 5,000 people living in the small town of Framingham, Massachusetts, for more than three decades. They found that when someone became happy or sad, that emotion rippled throughout the entire town. Another study, published in the journal Motivation and Emotion, showed that even below-the-surface emotions, such as motivation, are contagious. If someone is working in the same room with people who are internally driven, their attitude also improves. If, however, someone is working in the same room with those who aren’t too excited about their work, then their motivation decreases. A 2017 study out of Northwestern University found that sitting within 25 feet of a high performer at work improved an employee’s performance by 15 percent. But sitting within 25 feet of a low performer hurt their performance by 30 percent. That’s an enormous effect!

Emotions even spread virtually. Another study, aptly titled “I’m Sad, You’re Sad,” found that if you are in a negative mood when you text your partner, they are likely to pick up on it and experience a lower mood state themselves. The same is true of Facebook posts, according to research published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences. Emotions like happiness, sadness, and anger spread like wildfire on the platform. (Not that you needed a study to prove this.)

This science all points toward the same basic truth: we are mirrors reflecting onto each other. The people we surround ourselves with shape us, and we shape those around us, too. The implications of this truth are important and actionable.

For starters, you’d be wise to associate with people you admire and aspire to be like. It’s not so much rote skill that is contagious as it is the motivation and emotions that lead to skill development. In other words, it is much better to work with the scrappy but less-talented performer than the all-star who phones it in. This is every bit as true on the playing field as it is in the office.

What’s more, just being aware of how easily emotions spread allows you to change yourself and, in turn, change those around you. For example, if you receive a text message that suddenly makes you sad, or if you read a social-media post that makes you angry, rather than immediately reacting, you can pause for a moment and then respond thoughtfully. Instead of meeting sadness with sadness, you can meet it with compassion and support. Instead of meeting anger with anger, you can try to meet it with understanding (or just ignore it altogether). The flip side is also true. When you are feeling good you’re liable to spread it—though my hunch is that this happens naturally, without trying.

None of this is new, of course. Over a decade ago in the foothills of the Himalayas, before much of the above science unfolded, I asked a Nepali Sherpa named Indra about the prayer flags that were all over. ‘It’s simple,’ he told me. ‘When you are feeling a strong emotion, you plant a flag. Since the beginning of time, my culture believes the wind will spread that energy and the universe will receive it.’”

So if you are (or aspire to be) a good Team Leader, parent, teacher, boss, mentor, coach or any type of role model, it’s important to remember that your energy vibration (your thoughts plus your emotions) affects everyone around you, for good or for bad.  It’s up to us to consciously make our influence something positive!

IMPORTANT NOTE: The blog will be taking next weekend off to give me more time to spend with my husband.  Look for your next fresh Cup of Caroll on Sunday October 25!

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