Gratitude


November 22, 2020

“No act of kindness is too small.  The gift of kindness may start as a small ripple that over time can turn into a tidal wave affecting the lives of many.” – Kevin Heath

This is one of my favorite blogs I get to write during the year!  I hope it will be just the first, as more and more of my cherished readers share what they have done to make others’ lives a little lighter and brighter during the Holidays.

If you didn’t read my last post (Two Kinds of Gratitude – Blog 387), it kicked off the annual Pay It Forward Challenge that I began several years ago.  From Thanksgiving through the end of the year, I invite my wonderful readers to join me in spreading some “comfort and joy” wherever we are, as a way of putting our gratitude into ACTION by making an extra effort to be kind and generous toward our fellow human beings.

I recently read an article in the Los Angeles Times about a $20-million gift to the University of California at Los Angeles to fund the Bedari Kindness Institute, studying the benefits of doing good for others. The article by Teresa Watanabe said, “A friendly smile. A food pantry donation…such acts of kindness have a self-serving upside, too, as science has conclusively shown they also make you healthier….Among many other topics, [the Bedari Kindness Institute] will explore how and why being nice to others reduces depression and the risk of cancer and cardiovascular disease.”

According to the article, “Researchers agreed on an academic definition of kindness: an act that enhances the welfare of others as an end in itself.  When it comes to kindness, the intention, rather than the outcome is key…Kindness is complimenting someone to make them feel good, not to get what you want.  It’s sending a donation to a charity even if the check gets lost in the mail. It’s contemplating a legitimate reason why a driver who cuts you off might be in a hurry.”

One of the co-founders of the Institute, Matthew Harris, “said his own struggles, through trauma and addiction to eventual self-acceptance, made him realize the importance of cultivating kindness to oneself and others.  He said the current state of partisan politics, environmental challenges and continued violence and war gave him an urgency to help out.

“’My end goal is to have a broad platform to promote empathy and help people think about kindness,” Harris said. ‘It is, in terms of the perpetuation of our species and the ability to live with each other and nature, critically important.’”

I would add that not only does showing kindness, generosity and empathy toward others actively demonstrate your thankfulness for the many blessings in your life, but it is also a proven way to put the Law of Attraction (“energy attracts like energy”) to work bringing you even MORE good to be grateful for.

Spreading kindness doesn’t have to be a big gesture.  I got the idea for the PIF Challenge when someone ahead of me in line at Starbucks paid for my drink.  When I approached him to thank him, he just smiled and said, “I trust you will pay it forward.”  And I did just that for the rest of the Holiday Season by buying multiple packs of $5 Starbucks gift cards and giving one to a barista at the counter every time I visited the store, asking her to bestow it on any customer at random after I left.  (Anonymous gestures of kindness and generosity can be the MOST fun of all!) This always puts a surprised smile on the barista’s face, too!

Today, I slipped a barista my first $5 gift card of my 2020 giving season and asked him to use it toward the bill of the customer behind me.  She caught up with me outside and thanked me profusely.  “That was so kind of you!” she exclaimed. “God bless you!” I could tell she was just as surprised and delighted by that little gesture by a stranger as I was several years ago.

And, wouldn’t you know it, before another five minutes had passed, the Law of Attraction kicked in and my small act of kindness came back to bless me!  As my wonderful husband Rick and I sat outside eating our lunch, a gentleman took it upon himself to move a heavy umbrella so it would provide shade for us.  We didn’t ask him; he just showed his empathy and kindness toward two strangers by that kind gesture that gave us a more pleasant lunch experience.

At the end of the last blog, I asked you to email me your own Pay it Forward stories so I could share them with other readers, in hopes of inspiring even MORE random acts of kindness and generosity among us.  Here are some of my favorites so far:

  • Most of my coaching clients are sending snail mailed Thanksgiving cards to their clients and Teams, letting them know how much they appreciate them.
  • One client spent every night for two weeks at her girlfriend’s home, cooking her dinner and caring for her as she recovered from major surgery. Her friend had no other family to help her, and this was an exceedingly kind personal sacrifice on my client’s part.
  • One reader told me about her family tradition where on one of the eight nights of Hanukkah, each family member asks the others to donate to his or her favorite charity instead of receiving a personal gift. This has taught her children to be kind and generous at an early age!
  • One reader decided to play even BIGGER and get her whole network marketing Team involved in the PIF Challenge. She is going to contact a foster care agency and find out which teenagers will soon be “aging out” of the system at 18 years old. The Team will then purchase suitcases and fill them with supplies and gift cards to give the teens a good start as they begin life on their own.
  • Another client carries on a giving tradition for foster children that was started by her dear friend’s mother, who passed away near Thanksgiving a few years ago. She runs a “pajama drive” for child- and teen-sized warm pajamas to stock nearby “foster family closets,” where foster parents can go to get donated food and supplies for their foster children. She said the drive has grown each year with more and more local business support, and it has donated as many as 100 pairs of PJs to make kids feel extra cozy and cared for at the Holidays.
  • One direct sales Team Leader gives incentive gift cards to her Team from local women-owned businesses that may be struggling right now.
  • A client told me that whenever she sees someone who looks hungry and homeless hanging around outside the grocery store, she goes in and buys them something to eat and drink and brings it out to them. She does this all year round, but knows it is especially needed in the wintertime.
  • One of my clients told me that because of COVID, she discovered one of her neighbors is a 101-year-old woman who lives completely on her own, with no family nearby. “I checked on her all summer. Other neighbors check on her too, and we help her with grocery shopping and other errands.  She is so appreciative.  I am going to take her some homemade pumpkin bread and a little note to lift her spirits this weekend.”

I hope these Pay it Forward Challenge stories will give you some new ideas for creative ways to put your own gratitude into ACTION to help others. Once you start, I predict it will become a 365-day happy habit for you! Please email me at caroll@practicalprosperitycoach.com and share your own stories of kindness and generosity so we can all enjoy another round of inspiring Pay It Forward outcomes this Holiday Season!

PLEASE NOTE: The blog is taking the next two weekends off. Look for your next Cup of Caroll to arrive on Sunday December 13.  In the meantime, Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours!

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November 15, 2020

“There are two kinds of gratitude: The sudden kind we feel for what we receive, and the larger kind we feel for what we give.” – Edward Arlington Robinson

It would be a gross understatement to say that 2020 has been a challenging year and a huge disappointment for most of us. January 2020 started out with high hopes and then disaster struck just when we were getting started on manifesting our Big Goals.

Our personal challenges may be related to career, finances, politics, health, family relationships or the loss of a loved one. And then there is the once-in-a-century, ongoing challenge of trying to live inside of a world-wide pandemic that has upended all sense of “normal” during every season of this year. Nevertheless, there have also been many, many inspiring stories of people using their gifts, skills and resources to help friends and strangers cope in ways large and small.

Now, at last, the season of “gratitude,” “peace” and “goodwill” is upon us – the season when most people make an extra effort to be kind and generous toward their fellow humans.  Even though it won’t look like Holiday Seasons past, it can still be a time of rekindled hope, love and reconciliation that we all need so much. Maybe one day, this season of goodwill will last all year long, but for now, we will take what we can get!

For the past several years, from Thanksgiving through the end of the year, I have used this blog to invite my wonderful readers to make life a little brighter, happier and easier for others with a “Pay-It-Forward Challenge.” It has never been more needed than right now. So, I hope that YOU will participate this year, too!  I love hearing about the many creative ways my readers find to help someone else, show them that they matter to you, or simply brighten their day and put a smile on their face.

I got the idea for this annual Pay It Forward Challenge when I was at Starbucks during Thanksgiving week several years ago. A stranger ahead of me paid $5.00 toward my purchase, which turned my frazzled, grumpy day around and put a smile on my face that never went away through the rest of the year.  That simple act of generous kindness inspired me to buy a bunch of $5.00 gift cards and begin giving them out every few days to the baristas at the register to bestow on random people in the line behind me.

I plan to purchase more gift cards this week and give them away randomly at Starbucks through the end of the year.  I trust that most of those surprised strangers will also pay it forward to make someone else feel special and cared about. Last year, the baristas told me that there were a number of customers doing the same thing, creating a big old warm chain of goodwill and gratitude, one cup at a time!

You can experience the joy of spreading around some “Holiday Spirit” in your own creative ways.  Your kindness and thoughtfulness don’t have to cost anything.  Here are few examples my readers came up with in years past:

  • Let someone who appears to be in a hurry go ahead of you in the checkout line. I promise they will beam at you!
  • Help a harried friend or colleague run an errand, or babysit their kids while they do.
  • Surprise your friends, family and clients with a snail-mailed or emailed Thanksgiving card this year! Few people think to send them, but this gesture says, “I am so grateful for you!” to friends and customers like nothing else can.
  • Send an individual email to one or more of your closest colleagues that says what you appreciate about them and why you are grateful to have them on your team. This will make their day.
  • Use your musical, baking or crafting talents to spread cheer and delight to children, neighbors, elderly folks and the sick.
  • Help an older person or someone who is under the weather put up their holiday decorations or haul home their Christmas tree, or offer to do some service to lighten their load, such as mowing their lawn, buying their groceries for them or running another errand.
  • Donate some lightly-used warm clothing, school supplies or blankets to an organization that serves the homeless or low-income families.
  • Donate money, food, towels, blankets or pet supplies to an organization that helps loving pets that are patiently waiting for their forever homes.
  • Surprise someone who lives alone with a tin of tea and a plate of homemade holiday treats. Better yet, sit down and listen to them (socially distanced, of course) while you enjoy the goodies together.
  • Donate blood! One of my clients recently showed up to donate and the nurse asked if she would stay an extra 2 hours to give plasma, which was desperately needed for three children waiting for it.  It interfered with the plans she had for her day, but it also made her day.

If you are able, pay your own financial blessings forward by spreading the prosperity around a bit.  Here are just a few ideas:

  • Surprise a friend on a tight budget with a supermarket gift card that will make their Holiday feast much brighter.
  • At the gas station, if you notice someone in an old car with kids in the back, surprise her by paying for a full tank of gas.
  • Astonish a homeless person by handing them a $20 supermarket gift card instead of spare change.
  • Contribute a little extra to your favorite charity or cause. I like to support grassroots animal rescue organizations that are operating on a shoestring. $25 means far more to them than it does to the big animal welfare organizations, although I try to donate as much as I can to those, too.
  • Take the opportunity to donate to the Red Cross, Salvation Army and other relief organizations that are struggling to fill the needs of millions whose lives have been upended by natural disasters or homelessness.

It’s easy to fall into despair and think “What difference can I make in the face of all that seems so wrong and tragic in the world?”  But as this week’s quote reminds us, we can demonstrate sincere gratitude for our many blessings through small acts of giving to others.  And if each of us makes it our mission to touch just ONE life in this way, we can start a tidal way of Gratitude, Kindness and Giving that just might spread a little joyous Holiday Spirit far beyond the end of this year.

Please email me your own 2020 Pay It Forward Challenge story to caroll@practicalprosperitycoach.com!  I will collect them and share them in a future blog to inspire others to do more of the same. 

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November 8, 2020

“Blessings can come in a number of ways.  The Lord doesn’t give you what you want; the Lord gives you what you need.” – Eric Davis

In addition to our ongoing worldwide pandemic, concern about the economy, a US election like no other and the passing of my only sibling, I have had one other life-changing challenge to deal with over the past two months or so.  I am only now catching my breath enough to share the story with you.

The reason I want to share my personal trial and transformation with you is that I believe, as with virtually all big life challenges, there are blessings and valuable lessons in them for us.  Whether you have faced my particular type of challenge or not, I am sure you will agree that the take-aways I got apply in your life, too.  And, hopefully, if we remember these lessons, we will grow and prosper from them.

At the beginning of October, my wonderful husband Rick went into the hospital for a back operation to correct spinal stenosis that had been pinching nerves to his legs and making it more and more painful for him to stand and walk.

Alas, due to COVID-19, the surgeon and hospital weren’t taking non-emergency patients for months before and by then he was in a lot of pain, so we were both happy he was going to finally get relief.  The surgeon and his staff told Rick that, while he couldn’t bend over or twist his torso or pick up anything heavy for at least three months, he could likely expect to be back to pretty normal activities like driving and walking within perhaps a couple of weeks.

The operation went smoothly with no complications or infections, for which we were very grateful.  But we were both shocked at how weak he was.  He could barely stand and walk a few steps with the help of the hospital’s physical and occupational therapists that worked with him several times a day for four days.  When he was ready for discharge, instead of taking him home, I had to admit him to a rehab center where he stayed for another 10 days, working to get strong enough to use a walker.

Finally, he was more than ready to come home with his walker and a plethora of gadgets to help him get around, pick up things and put on his socks and shoes without bending over. But  his legs were still pretty weak and I had to help him do just about everything, including personal hygiene and getting into and out of bed several times a night.

I was exhausted within a few days and my own daily routine was completely out the window.  I could barely keep up with the needs of my daily private coaching clients and all the members in an online course I am teaching, let alone reliably get in a daily shower or daily walk.

On top of that, not realizing how much of my time and attention Rick’s recovery was going to require, I had signed up for not one but TWO intensive and expensive online courses, and I was rapidly falling behind at watching the videos and doing the work that was supposed to help me deliver great courses and sign on more wonderful coaching clients.

Never having children nor being a hands-on caregiver for elderly parents, I had never before had to deal with anything like this.  I felt drained, like I was constantly behind, never doing enough for Rick or my clients or myself.  I am used to helping my clients learn to effectively balance their busy lives with family, work, side businesses and self-care and now I was feeling like a complete loser at it myself, letting myself and everyone down who was counting on me.

Fortunately, I have many years of mindset and personal development work under my belt, and a rock-solid faith in God’s daily guidance and help.  My morning practices of inspirational reading, gratitude journaling and then praying and reciting positive affirmations while taking my daily exercise walk provided a foundation of sanity and helped me to eventually recognize this challenge held many blessings, too.

Rick has come a long way in the past three weeks or so. By faithfully doing the strengthening exercises his home PT has given him and walking around the house as much as he can, he has become self-sufficient on his walker and taking care of most of his own self-care needs like dressing himself.  He is back to work at his home desk, serving his real estate clients, with the invaluable help of his colleagues who kindly take them on home tours for him.

I continue to expand my repertoire of skills daily, doing chores and errands that Rick has always done, like fixing three meals a day, grocery shopping, getting the car washed and filled up, and taking care of our two dogs by myself. These responsibilities require many extra hours in my week, but it is satisfying whenever I find a way to get them done “between the cracks” of my daily coaching schedule. I recently stepped WAY out of my comfort zone when I successfully installed grab bars in two bathrooms and put together a new office chair for Rick!

As I learned to release the negative emotions of overwhelm, fear, guilt, resentment and self-pity that have confronted me over these past weeks, I became much more aware of the GOOD things that have emerged from this experience. Here are the most important Life Lessons I have learned so far:

1) We must have empathy for others.  I know first-hand now what life must be like for my clients and friends who are struggling daily to do right by their children, day jobs, side-jobs, ill or elderly family members, etc. All of my judgment of others has evaporated. I can see it’s not always possible to “just do it,” even when you have good planning skills and a strong work ethic.

2) Accept your limits.  I really had to come to terms with the fact that there was no way I could get EVERYTHING done that I wanted to do. I learned to prioritize what was MOST important for Rick and me each day, even if work or other things had to be postponed or done to less than perfectionist standards.  We cannot do it ALL, but we can commit to do the BEST we can at the tasks we truly MUST do, within the time limits we have to work with, and be OK with it.

3) We are all stronger than we know. Before Rick’s operation side-lined him, I had not been grocery shopping or cooked a family dinner in YEARS, let alone assembled furniture! On days when I thought, “I just cannot do this,” I reminded myself that it was not MY strength alone that would carry me.  I leaned on my faith and somehow, whatever I had to do got done.

4) Don’t be too proud to ask for help. Many health care professionals, friends, clients and family members have graciously assisted Rick and me every step of the way.  They have been happy to do things I couldn’t or help in ways I wasn’t qualified to. All we had to do was ASK.

5) Take it one day, one hour at a time.  I have learned not to worry about next week, let alone next month.  I just focus on today and maybe what I will need to do tomorrow, and everything just falls into place, minute by minute, hour by hour.  Worrying about the future wastes precious time and energy that could be put to better use getting things done TODAY.  And I now take time to celebrate the small victories like cooking a good dinner or getting caught up on my studies or reviewing my clients’ assignments. Giving yourself regular pats on the back keeps you motivated!

Finally, I would say my BIGGEST personal blessing and lesson that has come out of this difficult time is a deeper appreciation for my wonderful husband’s contributions to our life together.  I have always been grateful for what he does (especially his daily meal planning, shopping and gourmet cooking!)

But I now truly realize how MANY big and little things Rick does quietly behind the scenes every day to make life better for me and our four-footed “kids,” without ever demanding praise or gratitude.  Now that I truly understand how MUCH he does, it makes me want to do even more to show my love and gratitude to him. This experience has brought us closer than ever and made us both more grateful for all of God’s blessings in our lives, not the least of which are our supportive clients, friends and family.

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August 23, 2020

“Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it.” – Dennis Kimbro

“A young man told me: ‘I don’t want to expect too much.  That way if it doesn’t happen, I won’t go to bed all disappointed.’ That’s no way to live.  If you’re not expecting increase, promotion or good breaks, you’re not releasing your faith….If you expect a break and it doesn’t happen, don’t go to bed disappointed.  Go to bed knowing you’re one day closer to seeing it come to pass. Get up the next morning and do it again.” – Joel Osteen

We all face challenges every single day.  Right now, we’re facing more personal and societal challenges all at once than most of us have seen in a whole lifetime.  All our normal routines and plans have been upended.

Reading the newspaper each morning, I can feel pretty overwhelmed and disheartened about the state of the world. That’s why I always balance my “getting informed” time with spending 30 to 60 minutes reading inspiring books, praying and gratitude journaling. I make sure all my coaching clients do this morning practice, too. It helps us re-focus on our GOALS, not our FEARS, and set our expectations to POSITIVE.

I have come to believe that the number one trait of successful people is FAITH and the number two trait is PERSISTENCE. You can’t really have one without the other.  You can’t persevere in the face of seemingly hopeless adversity unless you have faith that a Higher Power is on your side and working on leading you to a good outcome. And you can’t give up when things look hopeless if you truly have faith in a Higher Power who wants you to succeed.

Since COVID-19 took hold in March, my husband and I have faced our share of financial challenges.  We have been fortunate that I still have a fair income from coaching (although not at the level I was used to), and he was able to get enhanced unemployment benefits for a few months when real estate temporarily ground to a halt.  Each day, we had to get up and persevere, without having a clue what lay ahead.

I know that God/The Universe has been our ally before and will be now.  I had a chance to prove it to myself in a big way recently, which showed me that if one door slams in my face, I can follow my Divine guidance to the open one that will get me where I need to go.

If you have been reading this blog for awhile, you will remember that I had to have a LOT of patience and determination in dealing with Experian, one of the big three credit reporting agencies.

As I wrote in “Stand Still – Blog 374,” for several days in June, I spent hours patiently and persistently navigating a maze of recorded phone messages and “call this other person” hand-offs. I was referred by a collections agency to a childcare provider, who then referred me to Experian (where I had originally started my dispute), in order to convince them that an $800 unpaid childcare bill “derogatory” that popped up on my otherwise pristine credit report wasn’t really MINE. I am well past childcare age, and I don’t live in Minnesota, where the collection originated, but as I learned, facts and logic mean nothing in the world of credit reporting.

At the time, I knew I needed a clean credit report because we had applied for a Small Business Administration loan that could greatly help us with our business expenses during the months to come, especially knowing the enhanced unemployment benefits Rick was receiving would soon run out.

It took a LOT of faith, persistence and positive expectation on my part to unwind that tangle.  I cannot tell you how sweet the moment was when I FINALLY reached a real, live person at Experian who said to me, “I am looking at your report right now and the name on this collection isn’t YOURS.  I am going to make sure this gets deleted from your credit report immediately!” The next day, my Experian credit score had increased by 25 points!

But once the report was clear, that was just the start of my long, winding journey into an even greater tangle of bureaucracy at the SBA.  After not hearing a peep from them for two full months after we applied, I got a “first step” email out of the blue, asking for a few more details from us.  Two hours after I typed my answers into the online template, I got a great big “APPLICATION DENIED” message back from the SBA, with no explanation.  It said I could submit an online request to be reconsidered, but without knowing why I was denied, that wasn’t a viable option.

I have to be honest, that was my lowest point emotionally.  I was running out of patience and emotional stamina and my faith was getting a little shaky too.

The next morning, I had a heart-to-heart Gratitude Formula Journaling session with God, asking Him to PLEASE make it crystal clear if I was supposed to pursue the SBA loan or if I was being directed to some better option — because this particular door seemed to be nailed shut.

I didn’t get any immediate clear urges, intuition or other “signs” as May McCarthy calls them in her wonderful Gratitude Formula book.  But I am proud to say that I didn’t panic or throw in the towel.  I just “got up the next morning and did it again,” just as Joel Osteen advises.

About a week later, my accountant emailed to ask if I had heard any more on the SBA loan denial because the final deadline for applications was fast approaching.  For some reason, her question lit a fire down in me that rekindled my persistence and determination!

I had a phone number for the SBA and right then, I picked up the phone and called it.  I was only on hold for about 15 minutes when a real, live agent answered.  While I was waiting, I had been visualizing who I wanted to answer:  Someone understanding, smart, knowledgeable, on my side, who could tell me exactly what to do to get the ball rolling again.

And that’s exactly who I got! She said there must have been a glitch in the system because there was no reason for denial at that stage.  She was going to send my application back into the system and promised that I should be hearing from someone soon.

Two days later, I got a personal email from a very nice loan processing subcontractor who was going to personally handle our application. It was so easy from there!

In four days, we were funded for FAR more than the amount I planned to ask for. (The SBA never asked how much we wanted; they just approved us for an amazingly large sum.)  We received the money at the absolute perfect time to meet our needs. All our business taxes and bills have been covered, and we still have most of the money sitting in the bank, in case we need it.  We have six months to decide whether to use more of it or send back the unused portion.  Whatever we do use, we can repay at 3% interest for up to 30 years!

Lately, we have seen a stream of wonderful new clients coming to both Rick and me, and we no longer have any stress or worry about how we will survive this challenging time.  I give ALL credit to God’s unfailing guidance and to myself for having faith AND for persisting, no matter what.

It is said that “dreams delayed are not dreams denied.”  I know this to be true. We just have to get up tomorrow morning and pursue them for one more day, and have faith that they will be fulfilled when the time is right.

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July 19, 2020

“People may hear your words but they FEEL your attitude.” – John Maxwell

I am happily busy with preparations for the exciting launch of the New Success Coaching Membership.  But I wanted to pause to share with you one more insight I recently got into all the amazing ways you can use the creative power of the Law of Attraction in every area of your life, which is actually the whole focus of the Membership course.

As you know, the Law of Attraction states that “energy attracts like energy.” Therefore, the personal energy vibration (your thoughts plus the emotions that those thoughts stir up) that you put out into the world must inevitably attract to you the people, circumstances and resources that are a match for your energy.

The GREAT news is, there are many tools available to help you harness the power of The Law of Attraction by directing your energy to attract the GOOD things that will answer your needs, prayers and heartfelt wishes.  You don’t have to know exactly HOW or WHEN the answer will appear because you can always trust that the perfect means and timing will be handled by God/The Universe.

All you have to do is YOUR part of the equation: ASK clearly and specifically for what you want or need, BELIEVE that God/The Universe will come up with the perfect HOW, and keep your eyes and mind open to RECEIVE the clear guidance that will lead you to exactly what you want or need at the perfect time.

In the last blog, I shared a personal story that proved to me that the divine Law of Attraction can bring you what you want and need at exactly the perfect time, in unexpected ways that your Ego never would have thought of in a million years.

As you will recall, a few weeks ago, I went out to my mailbox and found an envelope from a friend and former coaching client.  I had no idea why she would be writing to me. When I opened it, I got a huge surprise — a check made out to me for $1,000!

Her enclosed note explained that she had received a very unexpected large bonus from her work. That $10,000 was the exact amount she had been ASKING to manifest in one of my past Law of Attraction courses to help her pay off some debts. It wasn’t delivered exactly when or how she might have imagined, but it was perfect to meet her present needs.

What was miraculous for ME was that she chose to pay a large portion of it forward to ME, as thanks for having loaned her some money when she needed it several years ago.  She had already paid me back in full, as far as I was concerned.  But she said in her note, “I told myself that when the day came that I could return the favor to you, I would do so….In the past few months, I have had several surprise windfalls myself and so I decided, ‘there is no time like the present!’”

I was stunned and delighted, of course!  But at the time, neither of us suspected that her timing for sending me this unexpected gift was especially perfect.  She had originally been planning to send it to me closer to the Holidays, when she thought it would be most welcome.  But an inner urge kept telling her that NOW was the right time to send it.  Happily, she followed that divine prodding because it soon became apparent that NOW was indeed the perfect timing.

I stashed her $1,000 gift in the bank while I contemplated how best to use it.  Two weeks ago, my tax advisor informed me that the amount we still owed for 2019 plus our quarterly estimated tax payments for 2020 came to exactly $1,000!  I was amazed and so grateful that God/The Universe obviously knew of my upcoming need and arranged to have it delivered at exactly the right time by unexpected, perfect means.

We know that Generosity and Gratitude are two of the most powerful positive emotions we can express to attract MORE good things to us.  I was once generous to my friend and she felt very grateful.  Years later, she got the inner urge to be generous to me at the perfect time to fulfill a need I didn’t even know I was going to have. By the divine Law of Attraction, our reciprocal giving and receiving energy connected us in an exchange of abundance that fulfilled both of our needs.

Serendipitous timing and prosperity windfalls like these don’t have to be rare occurrences in our lives. We can learn to adopt the right mindset and energy to harness the creative energy of the Law of Attraction in all areas of life on a daily basis.

These proven tools that I have been using myself and sharing with my private coaching clients for the past 16 years are exactly what I will be teaching to all the New Success Coaching Members beginning in August.  Once they master using the Law of Attraction, they will be able to attract more of the RIGHT customers, business partners, ideas and resources to boost their success more quickly and easily than just hard work and marketing savvy alone could do.

Of course, the Law of Attraction works in EVERY area of life, not just business.  It can help us to create ideal relationships, health, creativity, fun – virtually anything you desire, require and MORE.  And yes, it can even pay your taxes!

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 June 14, 2020

 I am publishing this Father’s Day tribute a week early because I will be taking next Sunday off.  

 I hope you have plans to spend your Father’s Day with a wonderful father – yours, your children’s, your spouse’s or just a man you admire.  I gratefully acknowledge everyone who is a father or who acts as a role model/mentor for someone else. The influence of a strong, positive role model on a young child is one of life’s most precious gifts, and these heroes don’t get all the credit they deserve for fulfilling this challenging role.

 My longtime readers will recognize this post because I have published it before.  I wanted to do so again for one of my dear clients, who recently lost her beloved father after a valiant fight with cancer.  Kerri, your father was your best friend, just like my father was for me. This is in honor of both our Dads.

 “Love life, engage in it, give it all you’ve got.  Love it with a passion, because life truly does give back, many times over, what you put into it.” – Maya Angelou

This quote from the late, great Maya Angelou perfectly describes the way my Dad, Professor Harbison Parker, lived his life.  Although his years on earth were far too short, he lived each of them with maximum gusto and I am quite sure he had no regrets when he died suddenly at age 57, right at the beginning of my senior year of high school.

My mother was my source of unconditional love, whatever minor discipline I needed, and the usual “always wear clean underwear for the ambulance” practical advice.

My father was my Playmate, Teacher, walking thesaurus/dictionary/encyclopedia, and my #1 Role Model.  I don’t remember him talking to me directly about values to live by. Instead, he just lived his life on his own terms, and I learned how I wanted to live mine by observing how he did it.

Here are the key Rules for Abundant Living that I got from observing the happiness and fulfillment my Dad derived from living by them himself:

  • Be happy – Other than the day President Kennedy was assassinated, when I saw him cry for the first time, my Dad was invariably optimistic, cheerful and humorous. He loved to laugh at and tell jokes (especially bad puns), watched all the 60s comedy TV shows with me, and could find the hidden humor or irony in any problem. From him, I decided that hanging out with happy, positive people is the only way to go!  While I got my inclination to worry from my mother, I got my sense of humor from my father.  Guess which trait has helped me more in life?
  • Be curious – My Dad was the most insatiable life-long learner I’ve ever known. He never passed a used bookstore without buying something.  He left behind boxes of notebooks and reading materials on everything from Elizabethan poetry to paranormal science.  It’s too bad he didn’t live into the Internet Age because he would have spent hours Googling everything.  He taught me how great it could be to know a little bit about a lot of things (which led a high school English teacher to dub me a “Renaissance Woman”). Dad never pontificated about his own views, but sought to learn from others’ opinions. His attitude set me up for career success because coaching requires more listening than talking, being curious instead of judgmental, and having a wide variety of resources at my fingertips to support my clients’ needs.
  • Be creative – My Dad was one of the most creative problem-solvers I’ve ever known. He was an amateur inventor who came up with what he believed was a breakthrough system for teaching reading that was better than phonics. Unfortunately, he died before he got to finish it. My Dad taught me to stretch my imagination and ingenuity with his homemade inventions, like a teeter-totter I could play on all by myself, consisting of a long board balanced on an old oil drum and weighted on the other side with bricks that were equal to my weight. (This was in the days before “helicopter parenting” and Cal OSHA, you understand.)
  • Be of service – By Dad’s example, I learned that while life can be enjoyable when we meet our own needs, it can be truly fulfilling only when we help others meet their needs. He voluntarily gave up a lucrative professorship at the University of California to teach at a community college where he felt he could make a bigger difference teaching remedial English to working adults striving to improve their lives.

Dad took a personal interest in Mrs. Edwards, an elderly widow in his night school class who wanted to improve her English. One day he hitched a trailer to our station wagon and filled it with boxes of hand-me-down clothes and a used refrigerator. Then my parents, Mrs. Edwards and I drove from Southern California to Tecate, Mexico to give her extended family these precious gifts.  I was just eight, but I still remember what the dirt-floored, one-room adobe shack smelled like, with all the flies buzzing about. I am certain those strangers never forgot my Dad’s generosity.

Looking back, our relationship reminds me a lot of the one between Atticus Finch and his young daughter, Scout, in To Kill a Mockingbird.  Like Atticus, my Dad was older when I was born, so we didn’t do much physical play together; our father-daughter bond was more spiritual and mental. And luckily for me, like Atticus, my father demonstrated by his daily life exactly how to be self-confident and stand up for one’s principles, while remaining respectful of the different abilities, values and opinions of others.

In short, Prof. Harbison Parker was my #1 Role Model for how to “love life, engage in it and give it all you’ve got.” And I feel blessed to be his daughter.

PLEASE NOTE: The blog is taking next Sunday off.  (It’s the start of my birthday week.)  A Cup of Caroll will return with a new blog on Sunday June 28.

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June 7, 2020

“The Lord will fight for you, and you have only to be still.” – Exodus 14:14 RSV

A daily inspirational post I was reading last week added this perspective to the above Bible quote: “Relax. Stand firm, knowing that with God in charge, all will work out for the highest and best good of all concerned.”

Contemplating this, I had a sudden flash of insight about how to solve a frustrating situation I had been grappling with for over a month. I had tried to solve it by my own brainpower, to no avail.

Thanks to these wise words, I remembered to take a breath, focus my energy on being open and receptive and then take the problem to a much Bigger Mind for the answer.  The process for doing that is something I have written about before in this blog and a tool that I use on a daily basis.  In fact, I am so thrilled with the results my clients and I have gotten by using it, I will be sharing it with all my New Success Membership subscribers beginning this summer.

This simple, fool-proof tool is called The Gratitude Formula, and is described by May McCarthy in her wonderful book of the same name.  I wanted to share with you my recent clear example of how well it works on ALL problems and with ALL personal and business goals, big or small. Here’s how it worked for me:

A little over a month ago, I got a notification that a “derogatory” item had been posted on my credit report by Experian, one of the three major credit reporting agencies.  It claimed that I owed a childcare provider in Minnesota over $800. The debt had been turned over to a collections agency because it was two months past due. That would be a pretty strange debt for me, since I am well past child-rearing age and I live in California!

On top of the inconvenience, this mistake could have serious financial consequences, as I was in the process of applying for a small business loan, and this one item on my otherwise pristine record was the worst possible type of derogatory report for a lender to see: non-payment of a debt.

My Ego’s first reaction was righteous anger and “Why ME, why NOW?” Fortunately, my coaching training got me down off that ledge pretty quickly.  As I teach my clients, the Law of Attraction (“energy attracts like energy”) can work FOR or AGAINST you. If you respond to adversity with negative thoughts and emotions, your negative energy is only going to attract to you MORE negative outcomes.

I quickly released ALL negative thoughts and feelings and declared (and truly felt) that I forgave whichever overworked employee at the collections agency had made this unintentional error.  I soon shifted into feeling poised and confident that all would be straightened out before the lender pulled my credit report.

Since it was so patently illogical, I thought it would be pretty easy to prove that this was somebody else’s debt that had been placed on my report, perhaps due to our names or our social security numbers being similar.  I was confident that I could take care of this myself and filed a dispute online with Experian.

Off to a good start, Experian emailed a quick response, saying my dispute had been opened and giving me the case number and a few details, including the name and contact number for the collection agency, also in Minnesota, that was trying to collect the debt on behalf of its client, KinderCare. But while I waited for Experian to officially clear things up, I decided to try to speed things along by contacting the collection agency myself.

The collection agency employee looked up my name (every spelling we could think of), past names and my social security number.  None of my information was in their system.  I pointed out that if I was not in there, this could not possibly be MY debt.  I thought I was home free! Alas, it wasn’t that simple. The collection agency said there was nothing they could do, aside from letting Experian go through the proper channels to remove it from my report.

OK, it looked like all I could do was be patient.  I worked hard on having a positive expectation that all would be well and have no negative effect on me financially.

Finally, after several weeks, I got the long-awaited email from Experian stating that my dispute had been investigated and a resolution had been reached.  When I read the rest of the email, my heart sank: Experian had “checked” with the collections agency and the information on me had been “verified” so they were leaving the negative item on my report! I was in shock but I wasn’t going to give up without a fight!

The next morning during my personal growth reading time, I came across the “stand still and let God fight your battles” thought. It was exactly what I needed to hear!

I realized that, while I had been thinking positive thoughts that MY way of handling this problem was going to take care of everything, that wasn’t the same as turning it over to a Higher Wisdom to guide me to the ideal solution. I firmly believe that, even when we can’t see any possible solution from our limited human perspective, God/The Universe always has one.  I had just forgotten to ASK!

So, I got out my Gratitude Formula Journal and I wrote to God for guidance on how to proceed. (May McCarthy makes it clear that in using this system, we each work with our own personal belief about who our ultimate advisor is. Mine is God, but yours might be something or someone else you believe in. You do not have to be religious to use it.)

I began by listing and expressing heartfelt thanks for the many, many GOOD things in my life. It is so easy to fall into negative energy when we are focusing on our few troubles, and ignoring all the many blessings our life is awash in. That’s why you start your daily letter by thanking your Ultimate Advisor for what and who you ALREADY have in your life that you love.

Next, the Gratitude Formula tells us to express gratitude IN ADVANCE for the guidance we are going to get to create what we want but don’t yet have.  I wrote, “Dear God, I am so grateful that You are now leading me to exactly the right people who will quickly and easily help me to straighten out this mix up and restore my credit to its rightful state. Thank You!”

According to the Gratitude Formula, after you ask for what you want and express gratitude in advance, you just have to “stand still” and stay open to receive the answer in whatever way and timing it comes, often as an inspired idea that bubbles up from your own subconscious mind.  After signing my letter to God, I felt a peace and belief at a much deeper level that the perfect solution would soon appear and all would be well.

The idea suddenly came to me a short time later to call the collections agency again, but this time to give them ALL the information I had, including the partial account number for the person who owed the debt to KinderCare.  That partial account number turned into the magic key that began opening the solutions box!  The collections agency couldn’t help further, but gave me the phone number for KinderCare’s internal collections department, which I had no way of getting before, to see if they could figure it out.

Without the complete account number, a nice KinderCare employee could not find any clues as to the identity of the debtor, but she also gave me a special secret number for the collections agency’s internal Department of Consumer Affairs.  Back to collections, but NOW, I was actually getting somewhere!

The woman at collections was also helpful, but could not find the full account number in her system.  She suggested I call Experian and see if they would give me the FULL account number of the KinderCare client. Then she gave me another special secret number where I could actually talk to a LIVE employee in the Experian Dispute Department!

A very nice employee at Experian pulled up my credit report and asked me to again verify my name and social and some other identifying information.  In two minutes, she said, “Well, I am looking at the name of the person who owes this collections debt and it’s NOT you — Not even close to your name or social!  It clearly got put on your report by mistake. I am fixing this right now and a copy of your corrected credit report should show up in your inbox soon.”

In less than ONE hour, Experian emailed me my corrected report and my credit score had risen 25 points. Hallelujah!

I am forever grateful that the Divine HOW is always presented to us exactly when we need it, to help us solve any problem or reach any desired goal.  We just need to know how to ASK, BELIEVE and be open to RECEIVE it when it comes!

P.S. Please keep an eye on YOUR inbox for a special message in the coming days about the New Success Membership program that will be launching this summer to teach you EVERYTHING you need to know in order to master the Law of Attraction, The Gratitude Formula and some other great tools for reliably connecting to your own Divine Guidance that can lead YOU to easier, faster and greater success in your career, business, finances, health and relationships. We will be welcoming Founding Members at a VERY SPECIAL PRICE when registration opens for a limited in just a few weeks!

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May 10, 2020

“What this power is I cannot say.  All I know is that it exists…and it becomes available only when you are in a state of mind in which you know exactly what you want…and are fully determined not to quit until you get it.” – Alexander Graham Bell

“You can’t lead anyone else further than you have gone yourself.” – Gene Mauch

First, a great big Happy Mother’s Day to all you mothers, stepmothers, grandmothers, and Fur Baby mothers!  None of us would have made it without your unconditional love and nurturing…. And now, homeschooling! You do it all with style, grace and love and we are all SO grateful!

If you haven’t yet read last week’s blog (Pushed on Purpose – Blog 371), I hope you will.  Briefly, I told the story of how one of my clients and I both experienced the unfolding of a long-held Big Dream by never giving up on it, and by creating a daily connection to our Higher Power that gave us the step-by-step guidance we needed to succeed.

In my case, I did my daily morning journaling/connecting with God (my Higher Power), using May McCarthy’s wonderful Gratitude Formula. Specifically, I asked God to help me discover a way to help MORE people reach their Big Goals by harnessing the power of the Law of Attraction (“energy attracts like energy”), which I have been teaching to my private coaching clients for many years.  

Now, more than ever, there is a huge need for people to learn to create success and prosperity, despite a fractured economy, huge unemployment and the pervasive fear mentality that surrounds us every day.  The group I most want to help is small business owners, direct sellers and entrepreneurs. They have hustle and heart and are out there every day, working toward their Big Goals with belief and perseverance.  I want them to achieve the greatest success they can possibly imagine.

This need is also personal for me.  With the COVID-19 pandemic, my own family’s income has been drastically cut, too. My husband’s real estate business has slowed considerably, and in my private coaching practice, many eager potential clients who were poised to come into coaching in March abruptly pulled back to wait and see what happens.

This could appear to be a personal disaster, but as I said in the last blog, sometimes God/The Universe uses outer circumstances to push us out of our comfy habitual “nest” so we can grow in more purposeful ways that always lead to our Highest Good.  I have rock solid faith in that.

In my 16 years as a Personal Success Coach, I have helped over 750 private clients reach their Big Goals. But for the past few years, I have felt a strong pull to find a way to teach many MORE people the Law of Attraction tools that have always helped me succeed.

I have delivered online courses for up to 70 participants at a time, and all were well-received. But closed-ended courses have several inherent limitations. The biggest is that, like students in school, participants must move through the material at roughly the same pace.  Some participants couldn’t make it to the live Zoom calls, and if they didn’t keep up with the video replays and homework, they became overwhelmed by a backlog of work and eventually dropped out.

The other main drawback was that some who wanted the course could not afford even the modest up-front fee that I charged for an eight-week course.  I wanted to include the people who needed the information the most, while still making it profitable for me.

Finally, the main drawback for me is that it is very time-consuming to design, market and deliver a live course for two months at a time, while still serving my private coaching clients.

Seeking the ultimate solution, I began writing in my Gratitude Formula Journal each morning, expressing gratitude in advance to God that I knew there was a Win-Win solution for all the people I wanted to help AND for me — and that I was confident that God would guide me to it. The Divine Guidance we request often comes, not through our reasoning mind, but via an intuitive “hunch” or strong urge – a “lead,” as May McCarthy calls it.

That’s how the solution came to me, like a mini-miracle!  A couple of weeks ago, I was scrolling through SPAM to make sure nothing important had landed there, when an email caught my eye.  It was from a Law of Attraction coach with an enormous following whose blogs I used to read.  I almost deleted it, since I hadn’t received anything from him in many months, but an intuitive inner “urge” made me stop and read it.

The LOA coach’s email was promoting someone I had never heard of, Stu McLaren, a Canadian marketing guru who apparently is masterful at helping coaches, artists, instructors and all kinds of small business owners share their expertise with a wide audience through a membership site.  I had never really thought about membership sites before that moment.

But as Stu pointed out, we ALL subscribe to many membership sites these days – they really are our major modern delivery system for goods and services of all kinds.  If you have an Amazon or Costco membership, subscribe to YouTube or Netflix or a home school teacher site, book of the month club, use WordPress or Go Daddy, get monthly shipments of products from organic vegetables to skin care – you already are an active membership user.  You use these memberships because they have a low monthly cost and they are convenient, delivering exactly what you want exactly when you want it.

The email was promoting several free online classes with Stu McLaren, promising to show us how we could provide regular ongoing content, support and community engagement to our subscription members.  I felt another inner “urge” and signed up for his four free classes.  At the end of the free series, I was absolutely blown away — this is EXACTLY the answer I have been asking God for and it came out of nowhere, when I least expected it!

NOW, I have a way to teach an unlimited number of entrepreneurs, small business owners and direct sellers how to use The Law of Attraction to connect to exactly the right resources, customers and business partners that can lead to greater success and prosperity with greater speed and ease.  Most importantly, now they will receive the ONGOING support they need to successfully implement what they learn, which was not possible with short-term courses.

NOW members will be able to learn what to do at their OWN pace, so they will never again have that “fall behind” content overwhelm.  And they will still have the benefit of LIVE coaching with me as part of the membership, as well as being part of a growing, on-going mastermind/support community of peers who are on the same path (along with purposeful personal direction from their Higher Power, of course). In the near future, I also intend to invite other master trainers and speakers to share their own special ideas and techniques for manifesting greater prosperity and success in our businesses and lives.  (I have been studying The Law of Attraction for over 25 years, and I am still constantly learning myself!)

The best part is, ALL this can be done for a very low monthly fee for each member, so EVERYONE can participate who wants to, for as long as they want to. It’s month-to-month, with no contract.  People will stay as long as they are getting good value for their time and money.

I am now enrolled in Stu’s two-month course that begins next week, to learn to set up an effective membership site right from the get-go, so members can have the best possible experience. I will be opening it up to new enrollments in June, and launching the membership site content in early July.

But I need YOUR help NOW!

In the next week or so, I will announce a special PRE-launch, offering a limited number of Founding Member subscriptions to the New Success Community. Founding Memberships will be at the LOWEST price I will EVER offer and are guaranteed to never increase, as long as their monthly membership is maintained.

Founding Members will not only get a screaming deal on their monthly membership, but I am going to call on them for their input on the membership site content and community structure. I want them to share their valuable ideas to make this the effective, valuable and enjoyable learning and personal growth experience we all want it to be.  Together, we can transform lives!

So, you see, the tools I give my clients to master The Law of Attraction and create more success with greater speed and ease also apply to ME.  I used the Gratitude Formula to get the “hunch” that led me to the ultimate answer I have been seeking.  I love coaching because it makes me walk my talk, and that leads ME to greater success, too!

IMPORTANT: Pre-launch ends in May, whenever the limited number of Founding Memberships are gone. For information on the cost and details of becoming a Founding Member and helping shape our New Success Community, please contact me ASAP at caroll@practicalprosperitycoach.com with your full name and email address. I can’t wait to hear from you!

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April 26, 2020

“Small deeds done are better than great deeds planned.” – Peter Marshall

The message that came to me over and over again this week is one that most of us need to be constantly reminded of: Stay present and live each moment of life as it comes.

As I thought about the word “present,” it dawned on me that this one word has at least three main meanings which, while different, are all related.  First, as a noun, it means “gift,” like a Christmas present. It also means “now,” as in this present moment in time.  As a verb, “present” also means “to offer something” (as one might offer a gift).

In all these interconnected meanings, being present IS a gift because it enables us to fully experience and appreciate every precious moment of life.  Now, more than ever, the whole world is keenly aware of the precious fragility of life — that we could be here today and gone tomorrow.

Friday’s daily thought from Joel Osteen also reminded me of what a special gift each moment of life is, especially all the “simple” things we often overlook or take for granted. This is especially true now, during this pandemic, which has forced us to slow down and re-arrange our usual daily routines:

Enjoy the Simple Thingsby Joel Osteen

“Don’t miss a great season in your life wishing you had more, complaining about what you don’t have.  The real joy in life is in the simple things – making memories with your family, riding your bikes together, watching the sunset with your spouse, or staring up at the stars at night.  You don’t have to have big vacations or lots of money to have fun.  Learn to enjoy the simple things in life.

Could it be that you’re at the right place for the season that you’re in, but you’re not enjoying it?  Maybe if you would step back and see it from a new perspective, you would realize that God has you in the palms of His hands.  He knows where you are, what you like, and what you don’t like.  Instead of living discontented, frustrated, always wishing you were somewhere else, embrace the place where you are.  See the good. Be grateful for what you have.”

My job is to help my coaching clients get what they want.  Each has a Big Goal, and I help them with the mindset tools, strategy and accountability that will enable them to reach that Big Goal, even if it seems far-fetched to someone else.

In my 16 years as a Personal Success Coach ™, I have learned that there are TWO fundamental keys to reaching any Big Goal:

1) Focus on what you WANT (not on what you don’t want). Keep your eyes on the prize and use mindset tools daily to strengthen your belief that you will get it.

2) Take ONE step at a time toward that outcome you want. Don’t try to figure out the whole HOW for getting there.  You can count on God/The Universe to help you with that, rolling the plan out for you one step at a time.  YOUR job is to take the step that is in front of you right NOW.  Looking too far ahead will only distract you from taking the right action today and make you doubt that it is possible to reach your Big Goal.  If you just stay in the NOW, focusing on carrying out today’s action step, the next step will come to you when the time is right.

A Case in Point

A week ago, on a coaching call, one of my clients seemed close to having a panic attack.  She was feeling totally overwhelmed by all the tasks she felt must be done simultaneously – caring for her family, staying mostly inside when she wanted to be outside, trying to come up with an entirely new distance learning curriculum for her students, while trying to consistently work her network marketing side business.  I understood why she wanted to stay in bed with the covers pulled over her head rather than try to organize ALL the many steps she needed to take!

During our call, we took a calm look at things and focused on what steps she could take NOW to begin to make progress on her tasks.  As we talked, she thought of some specific resources available to her that she hadn’t been utilizing, and she promised to take just ONE action as soon as we hung up: call her mentor teacher for lessons plan suggestions and emotional support.

She also came up with a brilliant plan for shaking off her paralyzing sense of overwhelm: She vowed to complete just ONE to THREE action items per day — no more, no less.  That number was mentally manageable to her, and she knew that she could prioritize that many items per day and get them done.  Completing them each day would give her a sense of control and accomplishment, which in turn would restore her self-confidence and expectation of success.

When we talked a week later, she sounded like her old can-do self again. She had been carrying out her daily “three things” action plan, and was feeling much better. She was getting up early and enjoying her daily walks with her dog again, and grateful to be able to spend more precious time with her family because she wasn’t away all day in the classroom.  She is embracing where she is” and being grateful for what she has in the PRESENT moment, just as Joel suggests.

We can all emulate my client’s simple approach to creating greater productivity and happiness:  Accept what is going on right NOW, do what we can right NOW, and let tomorrow’s steps unfold in God’s perfect time and way.  When we allow ourselves to be fully present in each moment, we will find joy in recognizing the many precious gifts that surround us right NOW.

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March 29, 2020

 “There is more to us than we know.  If we can be made to see it, perhaps for the rest of our lives, we will be unwilling to settle for less.” – Kurt Hahn

On my “social distancing” morning walk a few days ago, it occurred to me that because of the creative power of our spoken WORDS, what we repeat ALOUD often manifests very literally. For example:

Moms: “I wish I could spend more time with my kids.”

Teachers: “I wish the school year would hurry up and end.”

Harried workers: “I wish I didn’t have to go in to work today.”

Me: “I wish Disneyland wasn’t so crowded!”

LOL, right?  We got what we wished for, just not in the way we thought.  (And NO, I don’t think individual requests like these can cause a global pandemic!)

Nevertheless, our habitually repeated words CAN become reality for us individually – for good and for not so good.  That’s because the subconscious mind is always listening to what we SAY and it takes everything very literally.  Therefore, it’s always a good idea to think carefully before you speak because by the creative power of your words, “thoughts become things” in your world.

The method and timing (the “How”) for delivering what we ask for, I believe, originates with God/The Universe. If what you ask for isn’t in alignment with your highest good, God/The Universe will block it. Don’t be discouraged if you don’t get something you want.  Believe that it wasn’t the best thing for you and God/The Universe is going to direct you to something even better.

But if your heartfelt desire IS good for you and doesn’t harm anyone else, you can trust that the Divine Plan for manifesting what you ASK for will make sure it comes to you at the perfect time, in the perfect way. Your subconscious mind is like a receiving dish that channels the Divine Mind’s messages into your conscious mind in the form of an unexplained urge to go somewhere or do something, an inventive, inspired thought or a deeply buried memory that suddenly surfaces. If you pay attention and ACT on those Divine nudges, they will lead you to the ideal “How” to fulfill your desire.

This past week, I had a very unexpected “How” manifest one of my own Big Goals. I want to share it with you, in hopes it will remind you to actively, daily use the unlimited power of your creative WORDS, in partnership with God/The Universe and your subconscious mind, to manifest everything you want and need.

For the past two months, I have been writing a letter to God first thing each morning, asking for my husband’s real estate and my coaching businesses to grow and flourish, and then reading the letter ALOUD with a feeling of gratitude. The key to the effectiveness of this method of manifesting — which comes straight from The Gratitude Formula, by May McCarthy — is expressing gratitude IN ADVANCE, which convinces your subconscious mind that it is already a done deal for you.

I first journal and then declare OUT LOUD, “Dear God, I am so grateful that on or before March 31, 2020, I have eight or more new or returning coaching clients and my business is prospering.  We have all the money we need to cover all our expenses, wants and desires.”

Reading ALOUD the gratitude statement for what you want plants it deeply into your subconscious mind and sets the Law of Attraction (“energy attracts like energy”) to work on your behalf, attracting the right people, resources, breaks and inspiration to you. Then, as the book teaches, you simply wait and pay attention for God/The Universe to send you a “lead” (or leads) that could turn into the “How,” once you ACT on them.

By mid-March, I was delighted that, by following each “lead” I got, I had easily connected to six new or returning clients. Those six were a huge gift, and I was very grateful.  But then things stalled, as people were understandably reluctant to make financial commitments with so much uncertainty about the economy right now.  Each prospective new client would say, “As soon as this crazy time is over, I will definitely coach with you.”

Recently, I got a letter from Joel Osteen Ministries, requesting a financial donation to help them reach their March 31 fiscal year-end goal so they could continue their good work of giving hope to people around the world.  (Interesting, isn’t it, that his financial deadline was the same as mine for manifesting the last two clients I wanted?)

Over the past several years, I have gotten SO much clarity and belief from watching Joel Osteen’s uplifting messages, which always remind me that with God’s help, ANYTHING is possible, no matter how far-fetched the goal might seem. I have made a few small donations in the past and really wanted to send him a bigger “thank you,” but now didn’t seem like the right time.  Yet, over several days, the thought kept coming into my mind at odd moments to “Send Joel Osteen $100.”

Try as I might, I just couldn’t seem to throw away the donation card and envelope.  I looked at it every day, thinking, “I am so grateful to Joel for his positive messages. Nobody has helped me more to stay in faith and expect that God’s will for me is GOOD, especially in these scary times.  But I don’t see how I can make that size donation, with the lower income I am expecting over the next few months.”

Finally, the “inner urge” was so strong, I spontaneously wrote his ministry a check for $100 and dropped it in the mailbox before I could get cold feet. It made no sense to my rational mind, but that strong inner urge was prodding me, and I thought it just might be one of God’s “leads” to bring me what I needed. Almost instantly, a sense of peace came over me, convincing me that somehow my gift was going to lead to something good for me, too.

A few days later, out of the blue, I got an email from PayPal, stating that they had “pro-actively” decided to NOT deduct a business loan pay-back amount from my account for at least the next 30 days – representing almost $1,000 worth of income I wouldn’t need to cover the loan payback.  I had received back about 10 times what I had given in faith that it would somehow be covered!  In this perfect example of a “lead” straight out of The Gratitude Formula playbook, I got an “urge” and I followed it in faith, even when I didn’t know exactly what it meant.

As it turned out, that was just the beginning of my generous payback for following Divine instructions!  I got another “lead” from a business article that said many creditors are now helping their customers the way PayPal had.  So, I decided to reach out and ASK two other creditors and they instantly agreed to suspend all payments through June, with no interest penalty and no effect on my credit scores.  Altogether, I will save $2,000 each month through June, which means that I won’t need as much income as I had thought to cover my bills. The answer to my need wasn’t what my conscious mind had figured out. Instead, God/The Universe answered my Gratitude-in-Advance request in a much different way, but the outcome was just as good.

Even more importantly, this manifestation proved to me once and for all that The Gratitude Formula really does work.  If we ASK our Spiritual Source OUT LOUD for what we want, believing and feeling grateful, like it’s already done, then WAIT patiently for Divine directions to come to us for the “How”, our heartfelt desires WILL manifest.

I hope you will follow your inner urges and sudden inspirations. They are undoubtedly your subconscious mind trying to make you pay attention to what a much BIGGER Mind wants to guide you to, which is MORE than you dreamed was possible!

IMPORTANT NOTES: The blog will take next Sunday off and return with a new Cup of Caroll on Sunday April 12.  In the meantime, stay safe and healthy and expect The Best!

Also, if you haven’t yet checked out Leslie Zann’s Facebook Live Outrageous Achievement series, you really must!  She gives her unique input to help us design our new lives in “home stay” mode.  It will lift your spirits and give you great ideas for prospering during this challenging time. Her 15-30 minute live presentations on mindset, skill set, viewpoint, courage and open mic are all at 7:00am Monday-Friday for five weeks at www.facebook.com/lesliezannconsulting. (Of course, if you are not an early riser, you can watch the recordings later, as well.)

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