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March 15, 2020

“Trust yourself.  Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life.  Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.” – Golda Meir

It’s been a helluva few weeks, right?  Don’t worry, I am going to resist writing about viruses and empty store shelves.

What I am going to discuss is the other hot topic du jour — politics.  WAIT!  Before you run screaming from the room, rest assured it is really NOT about politics.  It’s about a person who just happens to be a politician and his recent experience that serves as proof of something we ALL need to believe in right now: That we can bounce back from ANY type of adversity.  Quickly.  Very quickly.

It’s true.  It can happen almost instantaneously.  But the catalyst must be there.  That’s what I want us all to recognize, because it applies to ALL of us.

I am talking about the Comeback Kid, Joe Biden.  Full disclosure: I happen to be a registered Democrat and Joe was not my first (or second or third) choice to be the Democratic nominee to challenge Donald Trump.  But whatever ultimately happens in the 2020 presidential election, according to political scholars, Joe Biden will go down in the history books as experiencing THE fastest, most unforeseen reversal of fortune of anyone running for president in US history.

When the race started eons ago, Biden came out of the gate as the instant front-runner.  But as the candidate field grew crowded and more and more of his debate performances seemed lackluster, his ratings began to slip, until he was way behind in polling among most of the Democratic candidates.  Soon, the other candidates seemed to dismiss him as a non-threat and focus their attacks on each other. You could see his bewilderment: What happened? What did I do wrong?

Haven’t we all felt blindsided and victimized by circumstances that seem out of our control? Why does my supervisor seem to have it in for me?  Why are my customers dropping off?  Why did the person I love betray me? What did I do to deserve this?!

By the time he had lost three state primaries in a row, in a distant fourth or fifth position, most of the pundits and press seemed to dismiss Joe, too.  It was said that South Carolina, the fourth primary on February 29, had to be his “firewall,” meaning it would keep him on life support for a little while longer until Unbeatable Bernie Sanders could establish an insurmountable lead over all the other Democratic candidates.

I remember one reporter asking Biden two days before the South Carolina primary, “What will you do if you lose?”  I think that question was the turning point….the moment where everything began to change for Biden.

Joe paused for a few beats, apparently taken aback by the condescending question that was on everyone’s mind but his.  Refusing to buy into the reporter’s proposed worst-case scenario, Joe declared, “I am going to win.” I didn’t think he sounded 100% confident, and I am sure the reporter thought, “Poor deluded guy,” but at least he said it.  He declared VICTORY in the face of seemingly certain defeat.  In the face of others’ doubt and derision, he claimed the prize he wanted.

Within hours, an influential leader of the African American community in South Carolina who had long respected Biden as a capable and supportive part of President Obama’s administration, endorsed him.  And on the Saturday election day, Joe won in a landslide.

Even though it was just one state, it was a pivotal victory. With incontrovertible proof of his overwhelming support from an essential segment of Democratic voters, the other moderate Democratic candidates quickly realized they could not individually stop Bernie Sanders. But if they all suspended their own campaigns and endorsed Biden, they could swing a lot of votes his way on Super Tuesday.

One by one, they quickly did just that and over a single weekend out of a whole year of campaigning, Joe went from being a Has-Been to “Joe-mentum.”  Since then, he’s romped to victory in more than a dozen contests nationwide, effectively wrapping up the nomination. Unlike Biden, Sanders has indicated that he accepts his numeric fate.  He just wants to hang in there long enough to have his say in the last two head-to-head debates, hoping to influence Biden’s positions.

What caused Joe’s miracle turnaround? I assert the catalyst was his BELIEF. Not losing faith when all outer evidence indicated his dream was hopeless. Believing in himself.  Believing in his dream. The Bible says that you don’t have to have HUGE faith to move mountains.  You just have to have faith the size of a tiny mustard seed.  Your Belief Energy is enough to start the ball rolling and then God/The Universe will take over and ANYTHING can happen.

Whatever challenging, frightening, negative situation you may find yourself in right now, no matter how hopeless it may seem, if you steadfastly refuse to give up on yourself and your dream and continue to believe, know that the situation CAN turn around quickly, in unforeseen ways.

When you radiate Belief Energy, the Law of Attraction, which says that “energy attracts like energy,” will work in your favor.  You will attract like-minded people who believe in you and will go to bat for you.  You will attract the right resources you need to prevail. (In Joe’s case, a huge amount of new donor funding quickly poured in and Mike Bloomberg even offered the use of his offices and staff that had been running his own campaign).

Never forget this lesson: Just one touch of favor can change your outcome. One endorsement can change your future.

Many of my coaching clients and I are facing some financial challenges at the moment.  And the whole world is facing one big hairy survival challenge together right now.  What can we do?

Of course, we have to take ACTION ourselves and do all that we know how to do.  But even more than the actions we take, we must BELIEVE in ourselves and in our access to  supernatural assistance.  Whether you call it God, the Universe or something else, we must believe that there is a powerful, positive, unlimited Force in charge of everything that has our backs and wants us to succeed.

But we are the catalyst: We have to believe, trust and dare to DECLARE that we WILL triumph.  So much can change so FAST if we do!

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February 16, 2020

“…Love your neighbor as yourself.” (Matthew 22:39, NIV)

However you spent your Valentine’s Day – with your sweetheart, a four-footed pal, a BFF, or just enjoying your own company – I hope you felt LOVED.  The most important person on the planet for you to love is YOU.

If you are not being loved, respected or treated right by someone else (a boss, teacher, romantic partner, friend, upline, downline, neighbor, etc.), The Law of Attraction says that “energy attracts like energy.” Therefore, if you recognize that you are attracting people into your life who do not seem to be honoring and valuing you (especially if you see a pattern among several people), it’s a good idea to honestly assess how YOU are feeling about and treating yourself.

I have always loved two quotes from psychologist Dr. Phil McGraw and I often share them with clients who are dealing with someone who is behaving unkindly or disrespectfully toward them:

“No one will ever value you more than you value yourself.”

“We teach other people how to treat us.”

If we allow someone to mistreat us because we feel we somehow “deserve” it or it bothers us but we just keep quiet, trying to avoid “conflict,” their disrespectful behavior is sure to be repeated. If, however, YOU believe and behave like you are valuable, others will treat you that way. Or, if they need your polite but firm correction, they will definitely change their attitude and behavior toward you in the future.

And, if you want to love others more, you first need to love yourself, human imperfections and all.  Remember, God/The Universe couldn’t create junk – therefore, you ARE a masterpiece.

There are two things I believe all successful people have in common: Self confidence and Self-esteem.  The former is you believing that you are capable.  The latter is you believing that you are lovable.

If you were raised by well-meaning parents to believe that loving yourself displeases your Creator because it is “prideful” or “selfish,” here is a different spiritual outlook from my favorite positive-thought minister, Joel Osteen:

 “Love Yourself (By Joel Osteen)

Jesus said that if you don’t love yourself in a healthy way, you will never be able to love others in the way that you should. This is why some people don’t have good relationships. If you don’t get along with yourself, you’ll never get along with others. We all have weaknesses, shortcomings, and things that we wish were different. But if you see yourself as less than, not talented, and not valuable, you will become exactly that. If you feel unattractive on the inside, you will convey feelings of unattractiveness. That’s going to push people away. You carry yourself the way you see yourself.

People see you the way you see yourself. Perhaps if you quit focusing on your flaws and start loving yourself in a healthy way, being proud of who God made you to be, then as you send out these different messages, it’s going to bring new opportunities, new relationships, and new levels of God’s favor.”

Remember, there are only two opinions about you that TRULY matter: Yours and your Creator’s. If you steer your life by those, not only will you be happy and successful, you will be able to reflect your healthy self-love out to the rest of the world and make a positive difference in the lives of many others.  And I can promise you that you will feel loved and valued in return.

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January 19, 2020

“Goals are the fuel in the furnace of achievement.  The bigger your goals and clearer they are, the more excited you become about achieving them. The more you think about your goals, the greater becomes your inner drive and desire to accomplish them. – from WalktheTalk.com

I hope you have taken some time to complete the powerful exercises from the last two blogs.  The Reflection Exercise (January 5 Blog #359) asks you some probing questions to consider so you can decide what worked and didn’t work for you in the past year and what you want to have and do in the new year ahead.  Once you mentally and emotionally complete 2019 and identify your key life lessons from it, you are ready to move forward with passion and enthusiasm to make your 2020 even better.

The New Year Creation exercise (January 12 Blog #360) gives you the opportunity to envision how you want your 2020 to be in all the areas of life that are most important to YOU personally – health, relationships, career, family, travel, finances, spirituality, etc.  Writing down your Big Goals gives them real power, because it tells God/The Universe and your subconscious mind exactly what you want, so they can figure out the HOW for you to get them. It builds your excitement and all-important BELIEF that you WILL get them – because you start each specific vision statement with “I am so grateful that…” like it’s already a DONE DEAL.

Of course, not everything that you write down will come to pass and your Big Goals are not all equally important to you.  But I have been doing these two exercises for the past 15 years and I am consistently impressed that about 80 percent of the Big Goals I write down for my life in January become my reality by the time I check on them again in December, even if I had forgotten writing some them!

Last week was the beginning of one of my own Biggest Goals for 2020: A free webinar I presented about how I found and have proven for myself that there is a NEW Success Formula for manifesting any Big Goal with greater speed and ease than you might imagine is possible.

The OLD Success Formula that I had been teaching my clients for the past 15 years was good, but it worked better for some people than others.  Last September, I serendipitously was led to the “missing link” that turned it into a brand new FOUR STEPS to SUCCESS Formula.  I have been using it myself and teaching it to my private coaching clients for about four months now, and I can tell you it really WORKS.

The free Zoom class I presented on January 13 (which I have been creating and promoting since the Holidays) is the launch of a six-part mastermind/webinar I will be teaching in February and March.  The free introductory one hour class explains what the FOUR STEPS to SUCCESS are.  The six-part mastermind/seminar that begins on Tuesday February 4 will teach each participant exactly HOW to put this four-step NEW Success Formula into practice to reach a heartfelt Big Goal that they would like to have by the end of the first quarter of 2020.

If you missed the free one-hour class and would like to learn ALL the details of the FOUR STEPS to SUCCESS system, here is the replay link:

https://zoom.us/rec/share/-uMsf7jQ00NLeoH8xnD2RZYiH6fJeaa82yQf-qEPy0lLMGLqSmJ-KIF4JDk1Wn_Q

To recap briefly, the old system had three steps for manifesting anything you want using the power of the Law of Attraction (“energy attracts like energy”) to help you reach a Big Goal:

  • STEP ONE: ASK for what you want, clearly and specifically. God/The Universe and your subconscious mind need to be clear on what you want if they are going to figure out the best, more efficient HOW for getting it for you.
  • STEP TWO: BELIEVE that you are going to get it. You MUST believe that your dream will become a reality.  It’s the toughest part of the system for most of us, because our Old, Limiting Beliefs get in the way.  Our Egos are constantly telling us why we CAN’T accomplish our Big Goals, based on their interpretation of things that have happened to stop us in the past or what someone else has told us about their experience, trying to convince us that the same fate will befall us if we pursue that goal.  Fortunately, despite what your Ego thinks, our BELIEFS are not the “Truth” – they are just an interpretation of specific events that have happened to us in the past.  Just because something happened to us before does NOT mean that the same things will inevitably  happen the same way if we try again – especially if we try again with a New Empowering Belief to give us confidence to take the actions that God/The Universe is directing us to take.
  • STEP THREE: RECEIVE I used to interpret this third step of the Old Success Formula to mean “Receive the Goal you are after.” Now, I have learned that it really is just the third of the FOUR STEPS to Success.  It’s not the endgame.  It’s the all-important step where your Higher Power gives you the HOW – the inspired ideas, resources, inner urges to be in the right place at the right time, connections to the right people, etc. — that will guide you to take the right ACTIONS which will lead you to a successful outcome.

I think my favorite positive thought minister, Joel Osteen, explains it perfectly: If your vision is limited, your life will be limited.  Dare to get a fresh, new vision of victory for your life and trust God to bring it to pass.  You don’t have to figure out how it’s going to happen.  All you have to do is believe.  One touch of God’s favor can bring any dream to pass.  But you have to see it on the inside before it will ever come to pass on the outside.”

  • STEP FOUR: The NEW Step Four is “ACHIEVE” After you get the specific guidance from your Higher Power as to the BEST course of action to take, you must TAKE ACTION on those Divine leads, and  then you will ACHIEVE any Big Goal that you pursue using this system.

The game-changing tool that I explain in some detail in the free class is having a focused, DAILY collaboration with your Higher Power.  During this brief morning journaling session, you express GRATITUDE IN ADVANCE to your Higher Power for giving you the leads/directions (AKA: the HOW) that will enable you to fulfill the specific Big Goals you are after, in multiple areas of your life at the same time.

The ideal format for this daily Divine collaboration came to me when I unexpectedly ran across May McCarthy’s amazing little paperback book, The Gratitude Formula. She has been using her own specific form of gratitude-in-advance journaling to connect to her Higher Power (or “Chief Spiritual Officer” as she whimsically calls hers) nearly every day for the past three decades.  It has made her a highly successful serial entrepreneur with seven different companies collectively valued at over $110 million.  She attributes her enormous success to the daily “leads” she gets from her CSO that guide her with the ideas and connections to solve any personal or professional problem and achieve any Big Goal in any area of her life.  (If you choose, you could use it as a practical tool to put some of the Visions you wrote in your New Year Creation 2020 into ACTION, so you can make them a reality.)

After I read her book last fall, I decided to prove it for myself by setting several specific Big Goals. They had audacious time deadlines that seemed far-fetched at the time, but I was amazed that I reached them all.  Then I began sharing the Gratitude Formula with my private coaching clients and they, too, had outstanding success with it.

That’s when I decided that I MUST share with a wider audience the new FOUR STEPS to SUCCESS System, which incorporates the key tool of the Gratitude Formula to help you get the HOW.  I hope you will listen to the replay ASAP and check it out for yourself.  If you have some BIG GOALS of your own that you want to achieve this year, but you don’t know HOW you will be able to do it, this course is for YOU! As May McCarthy says, “Success isn’t a Secret.  It’s a System.”  Yes it is!  And YOU can learn to master it too!

Check out the free video recording:

https://zoom.us/rec/share/-uMsf7jQ00NLeoH8xnD2RZYiH6fJeaa82yQf-qEPy0lLMGLqSmJ-KIF4JDk1Wn_Q

At the end of the one-hour presentation, I give all the details on the six-hour Success Formula 2020 Course that begins Tuesday at 6pm PST February 4 and ends Tuesday March 17 (with one Tuesday off on February 25). All six one-hour classes will be recorded so you don’t have to be on all the live calls.  If you are interested in registering or have questions, please email me ASAP so you can get the Early Bird discount.

Whether you join us or not, know that I wish you UNLIMITED Success in 2020 and far beyond!

IMPORTANT NOTE: The blog will be taking the next two weeks off to give you time to finish your Reflections and New Year Creation exercises and for me to continue my preparations for the Success Formula 2020 course.  Watch for your next Cup of Caroll on Sunday February 9

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December 8, 2019

“You can’t live a perfect day without doing something for someone who will never be able to repay you.” – John Wooden

“Christmas is doing a little something extra for someone.” – Charles M. Schulz

(First, I have to say “Happy Birthday” to my brother, Harbison Parker.  Big Bro, I hope this is a great one for you and your family!  — Love, Your Lil’ Sis)

In case you didn’t read the last two blogs, I started the Pay it Forward Challenge spontaneously several years ago around Thanksgiving because a gentleman in line ahead of me at Starbucks surprised me by paying for my drink. When I tried to thank him, he just smiled and said, “I trust you will pay it forward.”

My day had not been going too well up to that point, but this stranger’s thoughtful gesture turned my frown upside down and I wanted to pass along that warm feeling to others.  So, I bought a packet of $5.00 Starbucks gift cards and gave one to the barista at the counter whenever I stopped in throughout the Holidays, asking her to bestow it on whomever she wanted. This made me happier than any of the wonderful Christmas gifts I received!

Gratitude is thankfulness in ACTION, so I challenged my coaching clients and cherished readers to do some kind and generous act for someone else during the Holidays to show their sincere gratitude for all the many blessings in their lives. Year in and year out, they have come through in many creative ways.

Now, to finish off our “Pay it Forward Challenge 2019 results stories, I am happy to share more of their great ideas with you, in hopes they will inspire you to do a nice deed for someone else and keep our chain of “comfort and joy” going.

  • One reader recently baked 10 pies to share with the residents of the assisted living home where she regularly visits her dad.
  • Another reader emailed, “I live in a rural town. Many of my friends and I are giving $100 each to our local police department.  The plan is that the officers will randomly give $20 to folks they come across that need it.  It helps our police department, too, by giving them a positive influence in our community.”
  • A teacher spends about 20 minutes of class time on “Gratitude Fridays.” First, she shows her 6th graders a short video about some aspect of gratitude. (She says there are LOTS of these videos on YouTube and TED talks.) Then she gives them a different assignment each week designed to expand their understanding of the importance of being grateful. This past week, she had them list 10 things they were grateful for in their lives right now and say WHY they felt thankful for each thing. For example, “I am grateful for my Mom because she fixes me breakfast and makes sure I get to school on time every day.”
  • One reader told me her church has a tradition of asking each family in the congregation to purchase a warm sleeping bag on Amazon.com and have it shipped directly to the church, which then takes all the sleeping bags to the streets and distributes them to the homeless.
  • Local grassroots organizations give us great opportunities to pay our blessings forward in many ways. One reader in Colorado has her kids fill backpacks with books and school supplies and drop them off to Kinsey’s Kids, which serves underprivileged children.
  • Similarly, the local Rodan + Fields direct sales community supports Hope House of Colorado, whose mission is to provide local teen moms with encouragement, education and empowerment. This is the third year the community is coming together to do the Christmas Stocking and Stuffers Drive. The consultants can personally shop for toys or much-needed supplies for the moms and their precious kids, or simply make donations online that are then turned into purchases by other volunteers.

Here is a recent Pay It Forward story that I loved in the online good news feed:

Adrianna Edwards used to have to walk four and a half long hours in order to get to work every day at a Denny’s restaurant in Galveston, Texas. She had been scrimping and saving to buy herself a car so she would no longer have to make the 14-mile trek to and from her job.

An anonymous couple who Edwards had been serving at her restaurant learned about her grueling commute. Hours after they paid their bill, they returned to the restaurant with a 2011 Nissan Sentra and handed the keys to a dumbfounded Edwards. Their only condition for the gift was that Edwards simply pay the good deed forward.

Now that she is freed from having to buy a car, Edwards says that she will be able to put herself through college much sooner than she expected—and she is already planning on using her good fortune to help others.

“I still feel like I’m dreaming. Every two hours, I come look out my window to see if there’s still a car there,” Edwards said. “When I see somebody in need, I’ll probably be more likely to help them out (and) to do everything that I can to help them out.”

But of ALL the many wonderful stories my cherished readers have submitted so far, one is my very favorite.  It proves that one simple act of kindness that “someone will never be able to repay” can create miracles for them – and YOU:

“I got into a minor car accident last spring and the young man at fault told me that his car had been broken into earlier that day and his license and wallet had been stolen. I could see the broken window, and I believed him.  Clearly, he was having a REALLY bad day. He asked me if he could pay for the damage himself, because he didn’t want his insurance rates to skyrocket. 

I agreed and took his information. My local garage gave me an estimate of $1400 for the body work. He didn’t have that much in a lump sum, but asked to send me what he could every month, and I agreed to hold the payments until $1400 had been accumulated.  He was faithful to his word, sending me a few hundred each month until it reached $1400.

By that time, the lease was up on my car, and I turned it in and got a new one, without ever fixing the damage.  Of course, I expected to hear from the dealer about charging me for the repairs, but weeks went by and I was amazed that they never contacted me.

I didn’t want to keep the young man’s $1400, since it was no longer needed for repairs, so I called him. He sounded groggy, like he had been asleep.  I reminded him who I was and said, ‘I have some good news for you!  I am going to Venmo you your $1400 back.’ 

He was completely flabbergasted!  He blurted out, ‘I lost my job and it’s been really tough.  I didn’t know how I was going to pay my rent this month.  You are an ANGEL!’ He even called me back to thank me a second time and make sure he hadn’t been dreaming!  I just told him to pay it forward and wished him a great Holiday.”

3 Steps to Becoming More Grateful from DailyHealthPost.com

“In times of hardship, or stress, it might seem difficult to be grateful.  But if you really think about it, we all have something to be grateful for. If you engage in only one prayer, let it simply be a heartfelt ‘thank you.’  Here are three easy ways to put yourself in the mindfulness of gratitude.

  • Keep a daily journal of things you are grateful for – list at least three. The best times for writing in your journal are in the morning before your day begins or at night before sleep.
  • Make it a point to tell people in your life what you appreciate about them on a daily basis.
  • When you look in the mirror, give yourself a moment to think about a quality you like about yourself or something you have recently accomplished.

Through the power of gratitude, you can wire your brain to be optimistic and compassionate, making you feel good.  The more you look, the more you can find to be grateful for.  This positivity can extend to those around you, creating a virtuous cycle.”

Let’s keep the gratitude goodness flowing through the rest of the Holidays!  If we all continue to do random small good deeds for others and ask them to Pay it Forward, this truly will be a Season of Comfort and Joy for the many lives that your kindness will touch.

PLEASE NOTE: Next week will be the final Cup of Caroll for 2019.  In it, I will share my own Gratitude Miracle with you and give you a preview of some exciting things I have planned for the New Year!

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July 14, 2019

“You get in life what you have the courage to ask for.” – Oprah

In my Prosperity Summer Camp webinar series, we just finished a lesson on asking for help. For the week’s homework, all the “prosperity campers” must ask a Big Fish for help with the Big Goal they are working on manifesting by July 31.

My definition of a “Big Fish” is someone who is respected and well connected. They don’t have to be a titan of industry or celebrity; they just have to be successful at whatever they are up to in life.

Fourteen years ago, at the beginning of my career as a life coach, my first certification specialty was Dream Coaching ™, through a course designed and taught by Marcia Wieder, who has been helping people make their Big Dreams a reality for over 30 years.  One of the first things she taught us was that the #1 shortcut to making any dream come true is to tell someone about it. That’s because of the “Six Degrees of Separation” rule of life – everyone is just six connections away from a resource they need or a person they want to meet.  If you tell the RIGHT people about your Big Goal, you will be amazed how often they will say, “Oh, I know someone who can help you with that” or “I know just where to find that.”

One caveat, though: Don’t share your Big Goals with known “dream stealers” – those people who love to tell you all the reasons why your dream is impossible or not a good idea. (You may have some of those among your friends or family.)  Only share with and ask for help from “Big Fish” that you respect. Yes, they are usually busy people!  So your request must be 1) Clear and specific and 2) Simple for them to carry out. If you confuse them about what you want of them, you are likely to get a “No.”

For example, if you are finishing up writing your first book and want to get it published, don’t ask a published author, “Can you help me with my book?”  They may think you want them to edit it or send it to their publisher for you!  Instead, ask for the specific help you know they can easily grant you: “I am finishing editing my first book. Can you give me some advice on how to find a good agent?”  Or “Would you be willing to write a short endorsement for the cover when it’s done?”

If your ask is clear and straightforward and doesn’t require a tremendous investment of time on their part, most Big Fish will be happy to help you. They know that they didn’t get to the top by themselves; they had mentors who supported them along the way with advice and connections and resources.  So, Big Fish are actually the MOST likely people to be generous about helping you whenever you make a clear, specific request because they admire your courage and chutzpah for asking them!

And it really makes all of us feel GOOD when we get to help someone out, doesn’t it?  Wouldn’t you gladly support someone if they asked you for something you could easily do?  Of course you would!  Generosity feels great. So realize that if you try to do everything by yourself, you are depriving others of the joy of contributing to you!

One of my coaching clients is a single woman with a busy career.  She told me that she has a lot of projects she wants to finish around her home and yard, but is short on energy after a long work week and doesn’t look forward to spending her precious weekends on chores.

So I suggested that she ask a friend or neighbor (if it’s a small task that they are already expert at) or hire someone to do the drudge work or heavy lifting she doesn’t want to do. She confessed that she had simply never thought about the possibility of asking for help!

The next time we talked, she sounded much happier and more relaxed.  She said she had quickly located some young men to hire for many of the things she needed done, and they were relatively inexpensive. It was a Win-Win because they were very happy to be her heroes and grateful for the extra money, and she was very happy to have her leisure time back.

There are all kinds of personal and professional help, advice, and guidance available to you — much of it is free for the asking, and most of the rest of it is inexpensive. No matter what you were told growing up, it is NOT a sign of weakness or an imposition on others  to ask the RIGHT people for help with the RIGHT things!

It’s smart. And it’s also generous to allow others the joy of feeling good about themselves when they give you a little helping hand. Their “psychic paycheck” is your smile and heartfelt thanks.

PLEASE NOTE: The blog is taking next weekend off so I can play with my girlfriends.  A Cup of Caroll will return on Sunday July 28.

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“It is not enough to have lived.  We should be determined to live for something.  May I suggest that it be creating joy for others, sharing what we have for the betterment of personkind, bringing hope to the lost and love to the lonely.” – Leo Buscaglia

In last week’s blog, I confessed to feeling rather sad and helpless lately about the seemingly-endless stream of bad news that has inundated us this year.  I declared that we “need a little Christmas, right this very minute,” as the tune goes. My solution was to kick off the blog’s annual Pay It Forward Challenge for my readers early this year, so we can stir up some badly needed Holiday Spirit right NOW.

The rules of the PIF Challenge are simple: Find someone who needs a little support or comfort and do something to help them, inspire them, support them or just make them feel cared about.  Your gift doesn’t have to involve much or any money.  It can be in person or anonymous.  It can be to a friend or a stranger. Your giving gesture may seem small to you, but it will undoubtedly put a surprised and delighted smile on their face.

Many of my coaching clients and readers have already messaged me that they are very much IN and are actively on the lookout right now for an opportunity to spread some love and cheer to someone who needs it.

The truly wonderful thing about the Law of Attraction (“energy attracts like energy”) is that it’s impossible to pay forward the many blessings you have received in your own life without attracting even MORE blessings to yourself. That’s because whatever you think, feel and do will come back to you.  It may not return to you from the same person you blessed, but it WILL come to you through whatever means God/the Universe thinks best.

I recently had my own delightful experience of this PIF “gift return” phenomenon.  One of my long-distance friends, Bob Perks, is a mindset coach, writer, singer and DJ.  We’ve never met, but my wonderful husband Rick and I have been inspired by Bob’s positive outlook on life for years and have shared some of his personal experience stories in our blog and newsletter from time to time.

Bob’s American Legion post in Pennsylvania holds a small Veteran’s Day celebration for the veterans and their families every year.  There is little budget for it, but Bob has always done his best to make it as festive as possible, sometimes putting on a musical show and always whipping up some of his homemade goodies for a modest buffet.

We hadn’t been in close contact for a few months, but as I started thinking that Veteran’s Day was right around the corner, I got a strong inner urging to text Bob and find out what the Legion was planning to do to honor these wonderful veterans and their families this year. He replied that they were having a small hometown parade and then would come back to the Legion afterward for a little potluck.

Right then, it came into my head to send him $200 toward the cost of the food and decorations.  It wasn’t something I had planned on, and to tell you the truth, nearing the end of the month, it was a bit of a tight squeeze financially for me.  But that was the number that came into my head, and I’ve learned better than to question “Divine Inspiration” when it hits me!  I trusted that it was what I was supposed to do to Pay it Forward to these wonderful veterans and their families who have sacrificed so much to serve their country. So I hit “send” on PayPal and didn’t think much more about it.

To my surprise, there was a huge outpouring of gratitude from Bob, the post Commander, and all the vets that went far beyond what I thought my small gift deserved. Turns out, Bob’s Legion didn’t have any budget for a celebration and only three people had signed up to bring any food.  My modest gift provided a long table full of delicious treats and, most importantly, made the vets and their families feel truly valued.  The fact that a stranger clear across the country actually CARED was a “thank you for your service” that meant the world to them.

Bob sent me lots of pictures afterward, showing 50 or so attendees having a good time, including families whose loved ones were overseas at the moment, protecting and serving the rest of us.  The background on the picture I chose to illustrate this blog was provided by Bob.  Here’s what he said about the group:

“The Legion Riders are a nationally-recognized motorcycle club whose sole purpose is to support veterans’ causes.  They fundraise by doing rides and holding raffles.  Many are vets, but some are not. The national American Legion considers them an intricate part of serving veterans….They are my family.  That is why it was a thrill beyond measure for me to bring your gift to them.  You have no idea.”

Bob’s right.  I had NO idea.  But by following my inner wisdom and listening to that “still, small voice” that guides us, I found that my small gesture made a much bigger difference than I ever would have imagined.

And then, as the icing on the cake, my personal “gift return” came just a few days later.  A handful of my clients had recently taken a “holiday hiatus” from coaching, sitting out November and December and planning to resume coaching with me in January. That’s fine, except it also means that a fair portion of my income goes away, too, just as my own family’s Holiday expenses kick in.

The unexpected “return gift” from my Pay It Forward gesture to the veterans is that an unprecedented number of NEW clients have just come into coaching to take their place and replenish my own financial well-being, right before the Holidays!

What we truly BELIEVE is not demonstrated by our words, but by our ACTIONS.  By giving to the vets without fearing “will I have enough left for ME?” I was proving my faith in the Law of Attraction and the limitless abundance I believe is available to each of us.  It was the perfect Win-Win: Deserving veterans and their families thousands of miles away felt the love from my PIF gesture, AND that positive energy I sent to them returned to bless my own family, too!

I look forward to hearing from YOU in the coming weeks with your own personal anecdotes of specific ways you passed along help, love and goodwill to others. I will gather these stories and publish them in a future blog to inspire even MORE people to join us and Pay it Forward this Holiday Season. Together, we can start a chain of good vibrations that will bless many, many people AND come back to bless each of us, as well!

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“In order to succeed, we must first believe that we can.” – Nikos Kazantzakis

“Do not wait; the time will never be ‘just right.’ Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along.” – Napoleon Hill

The process for manifesting anything we want in life is SO simple that we just can’t seem to believe it, so we unintentionally muck it up by interfering in the process and thus derail our own dreams.  This week, I witnessed a delightful example of the good that can come to us when we resist the urge to micro-manage God/The Universe’s own perfect manifesting techniques.

But before I share the story, let’s recap the elegantly simple and efficient three-step process for manifesting your dreams via the Law of Attraction (which states that “energy attracts like energy.”)

STEP ONE:  ASK for what you want. Make it specific, measurable and unambiguous. Don’t ask God/The Universe to “Make me a good leader” for your business team.  How will you know when you are “good” enough?  How do you measure  that?  Instead, ask for something specific: “I will recruit, train and support my new business partner to produce $600 OR MORE in sales in her first month in the business.”

Don’t try to figure out in advance HOW you will do this.  You don’t need to know the HOW to set the process in motion for manifesting your desire. Just ASK for the outcome you want and leave the plan for the How to God/The Universe, which can direct you to the best answer more quickly and easily than you would ever be able to figure out.

These Divine directions will be picked up by the receiving dish of your subconscious mind, which will guide your conscious mind in the form of ideas, inspiration or perhaps an inner urge to be somewhere at the precise moment to bump into the perfect person or resource to help you manifest your intention.

STEP TWO: Believe it’s possible.  That’s all that’s really required — and it’s the hardest step for most of us. It is your unwavering BELIEF that what you are seeking is also seeking you that sets the Law of Attraction in motion to attract the ideal opportunities to fulfill your dreams.

If you instead listen to your Ego, as we often do, you can count on it to share the many reasons it thinks you don’t have the plan, resources or time you need to succeed, and it will certainly remind you of all the times have failed at it the past.

Your subconscious mind, on the other hand, is completely open to all the wonderful new, creative ideas that are constantly being channeled to it by God/The Universe. It is completely receptive and willing to think outside the little “box” that your Ego is locked into.

Happily, YOUR only job is to rev up your belief that this mystical process really IS going on ….That something much bigger and smarter than you wants you to succeed and is working behind the scenes to make it happen.

STEP THREE: Receive.  If you allow your Ego to run the show, it will assess all the “What ifs?” it can imagine and come up with a few, limited scenarios it thinks could possibly be the means and method for fulfilling your dream.  It is often wrong.

The Divine How often appears in “mysterious ways,” as they say.  In my 12-plus years as a professional coach, hundreds of my clients have shared jaw-dropping stories of the amazing ways God/The Universe chose to fulfill their dreams.  They invariably say things like, “I never would have thought of THAT!” or “I never imagined it would have come from HER!”

That’s why I say it and you must believe it: The How is not your problem!  Stay committed to your Goal, interested but unattached to your Ego’s ideas, and prepared to pounce when the Ideal Plan appears, so you can then take the appropriate ACTIONS that are required to fulfill your dream.

This week, a client shared with me the delightfully unexpected way the How happened for him: At the beginning of February, he asked me to hold him accountable for saving $300 a month toward the down payment he would need to lease a new car in November.  (Specific, measurable ASK, check!)

His finances have been tight lately, and he knew it was going to be a challenge, but he was COMMITTED to his goal. Then mid-month, he discovered his current car needed $700 worth of tires.  To his Ego, it looked like he would have to skip February’s $300 deposit into savings and somehow make it up in March.

But I suggested that he instead remain open and receptive to seeing HOW God/The Universe would direct him to meet his goal.  I knew from experience that lots of amazing things can happen in the final hours before a goal deadline.  He agreed that even if he didn’t have the entire amount, he would deposit whatever he could in savings by the end of the month, to prove that he was truly COMMITTED to his Big Goal. (BELIEVE, check!)

On February 26, I received this email from him:

“You are not going to believe this.  My friend gave me six tickets to see Stevie Nicks….I am unable to attend (and not interested in going anyway)….so I decided to sell them online.  The tickets are worth $150 a pair. 

I thought since I got them for free, I will sell them for $100 a pair – hopefully, being a blessing to the three couples that buy them. I have all three pairs already sold…Everyone is so happy and shocked at the price I am selling them for.

Without even thinking about it, I realized that the three sets of tickets (at $100 a pair) total $300 – The exact amount of money I want to put aside each month for my car! I made my goal of putting away $300 this month.  God is GREAT.” 

(RECEIVE, Check!)

No, we can’t just sit on the couch, OM-ing or praying and expect whatever we want to fall through the ceiling into our lap. We must take ACTION to manifest our dreams into our material world.

But instead of just blindly following your Ego’s limited advice, first try asking God/The Universe to show you the BEST way to reach your goal.  I promise, if you believe that it will come, God/The Universe WILL deliver the How to you, expedited rush delivery, via the Law of Attraction.

PLEASE NOTE:  The blog will take next Sunday off.  A Cup of Caroll will return on Sunday March 19.

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****************** The Gift of Dreams Fulfilled! ********************

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To schedule a F*R*E*E* HOUR of phone coaching that will help clarify your Big Goals and get you into ACTION to make this the BEST year yet, please email me at caroll@practicalprosperitycoach.com or call toll-free 888-503-8145.

“Our lives are not determined by what happens to us, but by how we react to what happens….not by what life brings to us, but by the attitude we bring to life.” – Anonymous

Yesterday, my wonderful husband Rick and I spent our monthly “Big Kids’ Play Day” at the Happiest Place on Earth. The sun was shining, lovely flowers and trees were blooming, birds were chirping and Spring was in the air.  My soul felt a renewed lightness in these joyful surroundings and I felt more grateful than ever that we live so close to Disneyland that we can go whenever we want to “lighten up.”

You don’t have to remind little kids to lighten up. They are all about play, fun and using their imaginations to find adventure everywhere they go.  As we stood in line for the Storybook Land canal boats, Rick chatted with a small boy whose shirt was covered with  buttons proclaiming that he was celebrating both his first visit to Disneyland AND his birthday.  It didn’t take much coaxing for him to excitedly relate all the rides he had been on and the ones he was still looking forward to.  Some of the adults in line looked tired and frazzled, but there was not one iota of resignation, worry or negative energy in that little boy.

This got me thinking about some of my clients who seem to struggle with how to lighten up.  They take their Big Goals very seriously, and sometimes feel frustrated when things don’t seem to be progressing fast enough or according to their own plan.

I understand, believe me.  For five years during the Great Recession and its aftermath, I had to work hard every single day to release heavy feelings of fear, worry, disappointment and frustration that my coaching practice was just barely surviving and Rick’s real estate business seemed dead in the water.

When I couldn’t see any visible progress being made, what enabled me to face each day in a positive frame of mind was my faith that God/the Universe was on my side and that if I just kept doing my BEST, the solutions would come at the right time and in the perfect way.  Even when we can’t see it with our eyes, we have to keep the faith that there is progress being made  behind the scenes.  I kept reminding myself that the “How” is up to God/the Universe and MY job was simply to stay positive, stay alert  for Divine direction, and be grateful for every good thing in my life.

Despite our shoestring budget, Rick and I made it a priority during those tough years to keep up the monthly payments on our Annual Passes and take at least one day each month to play at Disneyland and to regularly do other things that made us happy. We knew that by “lightening up” – focusing only on the positive and choosing to be happy, no matter what our circumstances were — we would attract the people and resources we needed to turn our financial situation around. Eventually, that’s just what happened. One friend’s referral led to another and another, and without warning or build-up, both my coaching practice and Rick’s real estate business took off at the same time and haven’t stopped growing since.

If they feel a sense of frustration that their dreams are not manifesting as fast as they would like, I tell my clients that they must lighten up — letting go of all heavy energy produced by worry, frustration and discouragement and revving up the light energy of joy and gratitude.

The Law of Attraction says that “energy attracts like energy.” If you are pursuing your goals with grim determination, attachment and clenched teeth, what kind of people and situations do you think you are going to attract into your life?

If you want to attract what and who you want more quickly and easily, the first step is to express sincere GRATITUDE for all the wonderful things God/the Universe has put in your life thus far.  Expressing gratitude for all the good we have attracts even MORE of those things to us.

Next, you must create a genuine positive, light energy that will make you a magnet for the people and serendipitous resources that will help you reach your goals.  One of my former clients recently discovered how well this approach works.

Before our coaching, she struggled with feelings of anxiety, stress and frustration about the pace at which she was building her network marketing business. She didn’t enjoy her business the way she did her day job. I encouraged her to stop pushing to try to make things happen and instead to go with the flow and allow God/the Universe to bring the “How” to her.  I suggested she approach her network marketing business the same way she did her day job – with a feeling of relaxed confidence in her own skills and true joy at being of service to others.

We completed our coaching and I didn’t hear from her for a couple of months. Recently, I got this email, proving to me that she has mastered the art of reaching her goals with grace and ease:

“Hi, Caroll:  I’m really excited and had to share.  I feel things are really shifting for me: my attitude is positive and non-attached to the outcome.  I’m getting things done quickly. I’m getting things done with ease.  I’m contacting more people, talking to more people, scheduling more appointments and I’m headed toward month-end without my usual anxiety….

I’m continuing to read my [Daily Success] Script two times daily and listening to The Power [by Rhonda Byrne, author of The Secret.]   Is this how it normally goes for your clients? That it just kind of ‘kicks in’? It feels very different this time and I’m feeling momentum in my team, too.”

Here’s one simple but powerful way you can rev up YOUR positive energy: If you aren’t currently taking at least one full day off from ALL work each week, I highly recommend you begin doing so. Taking regular breaks to engage in self-care, play and activities you enjoy with people you enjoy will actually make you MORE productive and help you reach your goals faster.  It’s time to shake off the winter doldrums and lighten up!

****************** Give the Gift of Dreams Fulfilled! ********************

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To schedule a F*R*E*E* HOUR of phone coaching that will help them clarify their Big Goals and get into ACTION to make this their BEST year yet, have them email me at caroll@practicalprosperitycoach.com  or 888-503-8145 to schedule their session.  

“Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” – Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

I am writing this on Halloween, just a few hours before the doorbell will begin to ring and little Ghosts and Goblins will appear on the doorstep to scare us into handing over the chocolate.

Halloween got me thinking about the emotion of fear and how pervasive it is in our lives.   One of the things the human Ego seems to be hardwired to fear most is loss. Whether it’s a personal relationship, our health, a job, or a financial loss, our first reaction is likely to be fear that we won’t ever be able to replace what we lost with something that is equally good.

(I should clarify here that I am not talking about the death of someone dear to you as being simply a “loss” to be replaced. No individual can ever be “replaced” because we are each unique and special and priceless. And while a breakup or divorce can be as traumatic as a death, we must still believe that when our grieving process is complete, we will one day experience love and joy again, perhaps with another unique and special person.)

What I have discovered over the many years I have been a student of prosperity consciousness and personal development is that our attitude about a loss has everything to do with whether it eventually opens up the space for a new blessing or becomes a slippery slope to further loss.

If you can come to accept that your loss is simply what’s so for right now, you can then turn your thoughts and emotions to focus on what you WANT to have happen next, instead of expending precious energy on useless denial. I personally find that my greatest ally in this is my faith. Like most of my clients, I believe in a Higher Power (I call it God, but you may call it the Universe or something else) that has my back and wants me to succeed. My faith (and past experience) always reminds me that a loss is not going to doom me. It’s a temporary condition. I choose to believe that something just as good or even better is on its way to me right now.

I choose to believe that God/the Universe always knows what I am going need even before I know it, so the NEW Good was already on its way to me even before my loss took place.   God/the Universe is always looking for ways to match us up with others who need what we have to offer, so we can create a Win-Win together. All we have to do is let go of trying to force our own solution, and instead listen carefully for the “still small voice” that is whispering the perfect “How” in our ear, guiding us to be in the right place at the right time to receive our good that’s on its way.

I had a delightful experience of this phenomenon just this week. Well, didn’t start out as delightful. One of my favorite clients texted that she was not going to continue our coaching for the foreseeable future, due to dealing with serious personal matters that had her too distracted to focus on the Big Goal we were working on.

At first, I was really taken aback. Texting? Really? Why wouldn’t she choose to tell me this on the upcoming call we had scheduled that she had already paid for? It was hard not to take it personally. I felt like the heroine in an old television show whose boyfriend broke up with her via a Post It note stuck to her computer screen!

Still, I knew I wasn’t truly feeling upset with my client. She’s been working hard for many months and making a lot of headway pursuing her goals, and I know she didn’t make the decision to take a break from coaching lightly. I trusted that she knew what was best for her. When I examined my emotional reaction to this loss more closely, I discovered an old fear coming up for me.

Even though my practice has been nearly full for some time, around Halloween, the past still comes back to haunt me. My husband is a Realtor, and the fall and winter months tend to be quieter times for his business. For several years during the Great Recession, his real estate income was very sporadic, so my coaching income paid most of the bills. Every Holiday Season, I was terrified that all my clients would go on an extended vacation in December and we wouldn’t have a turkey on the table or any presents under the tree.

Although our reality may change, our Ego’s Old, Limiting Beliefs are hard to shake.   Remembering a few challenging Holiday Seasons from the past was enough to set my fearful Ego off because it is still looking for ANY sign that we could once again be financially insecure.   Thankfully, I recognized the Old Limiting Belief resurfacing and reminded my fearful Ego that Rick and I are both prospering in our careers, have plenty of savings in the bank, and our past is not in our future.

One of my favorite tools to help my Ego relax so I can listen for God’s “How” is the affirmation: I hereby give up my Old, Limiting Belief that there is never enough and life is a constant struggle. My New, Empowering Belief is that I am prosperous, with never-ending abundance to spare and to share!” I repeated this aloud and went on with my day.

Just two hours later, I had a free coaching session with someone I had never met who was referred to me by a colleague. Our session had originally been scheduled for a few weeks ago, but she had to cancel at the last minute due to a family emergency and we rescheduled for the same afternoon that I received the “Dear Jane” text from my client.

Our free session went great. There was comfortable rapport and immediate trust between us, and I was delighted to learn she embraces the Law of Attraction and many of the tools I use to help my clients turbo-charge their results. Without hesitation, she was ready to sign up for coaching.

When I gave her a choice among my few remaining timeslots, she chose the one that my former client had graciously made available that very day. Thus, what had looked like a loss just a couple of hours earlier was transformed into a Win-Win-Win for my new client, my former client and me.

And once again, I was reminded that if we can have faith, calm our Ego’s fear of loss, and expect something GOOD to take its place, it will!

****************** The Gift of Dreams Fulfilled! ********************

I invite you to offer someone you care about a truly unique gift that can change their life — ONE HOUR of Personal Success Coaching! It is absolutely F*R*E*E* of charge, with no obligation and no strings attached! And if YOU haven’t coached with me in awhile and would like a “tune up” session please give yourself this gift!

To schedule a F*R*E*E* HOUR of phone coaching that will help clarify your Big Goals and get you into ACTION to make this the BEST year yet, please email me at caroll@practicalprosperitycoach.com or call toll-free 888-503-8145.

 

 

 

July 5, 2015

I was planning to take a breather from writing the blog this Holiday weekend, but I decided instead to re-post the blog from last Fourth of July, in order to remind you of the deeper meaning of what it means to be of service.

“There is no exercise better for the heart than reaching down and lifting people up.” – John Andrew Holmes

Happy Fourth of July weekend! As we celebrate this most patriotic of all American holidays, we are reminded that “Freedom isn’t free” — and neither are happiness, abundance and personal fulfillment.

I recently read a wonderful book by Felicia Blanco Searcy called Do Greater Things: Following in Jesus’ Footsteps. One chapter that particularly stood out for me was about what Jesus taught about being of service. We often think that “service” to others is given primarily by those who risk their lives or make extraordinary personal sacrifices for their fellow man, such as those in the armed forces, law enforcement, medicine and public service do.

In reality, as Felicia’s book points out, service is something that ALL of us can and should participate in. In return, we will be rewarded with more happiness, abundance and fulfillment in our lives.   If we look around, we see everyday heroes among us, in every walk of life, who use their time, treasure and talents to improve the lives of others in countless ways, large and small.

A You Tube video was recently posted by a bystander who witnessed a spontaneous act of service in the checkout line at Wal Mart. A young mother with children in tow was trying to pay for four packages of diapers, believing they were on sale. When the checker informed her that only the first package was on sale and the other three were full price, the mother was crestfallen and embarrassed because she didn’t have enough money to pay the full tab.

That’s when an older woman in line stepped forward, put one hand on the mother’s shoulder and used the other to swipe a credit card and pay for her entire purchase. The young mother was flabbergasted. The older woman just smiled and said, “Someday, I know you will pay it forward to someone else.”

When a reporter tracked her down later to tell her that the cell phone video of her good deed has been viewed by millions, the Good Samaritan said she didn’t know what “going viral” meant, but she was glad that others knew about it, because she hoped it would inspire them to perform their own spontaneous acts of kindness.

As Felicia’s book states, “We serve best when we are involved with something that uses our gifts. Anytime we give from our passion, we give wholeheartedly and joyfully. Our enthusiasm is infections and people often join in because of our influence…

Service challenges us once again to look at our attitude toward receiving. Instead of teaching us to sacrifice, service teaches us how to accept gifts. That may sound like a contradiction. But when we give for the pleasure of giving, we see how others get the same pleasure from sharing. We let them give to us because we know that it brings them joy, since that is our experience, too….God gives to us through other people.

We also have a tendency to judge some acts as worthy service and other as less honorable. In truth, all service is notable. We all have the ability to contribute to the well-being of our planet, and no job is holier than another.

However insignificant we may feel our own contribution is, we should always remember that our good works are vital to the well-being of the whole.  Without our efforts, someone would suffer.”

This Independence Day weekend, as we celebrate our precious freedoms and abundant way of life, let’s recognize that service is not performed just by our wonderful men and women in uniform, public servants and those who labor in the helping professions. Being of service is is a precious gift that all of us can and should make our personal mission every day.

****************** The Gift of Dreams Fulfilled! ********************

I invite you to offer someone you care about a truly unique gift that can change their life — ONE HOUR of Personal Success Coaching! It is absolutely F*R*E*E* of charge, with no obligation and no strings attached! And if YOU haven’t coached with me in awhile and would like a “tune up” session please give yourself this gift!

To schedule a F*R*E*E* HOUR of phone coaching that will help clarify your Big Goals and get you into ACTION to make this the BEST year yet, please email me at caroll@practicalprosperitycoach.com or call toll-free 888-503-8145.

 

 

 

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