September 27, 2020

This weekend, I am happily busy with doing homework assignments for an online course that I am taking about creating online courses, while at the same time teaching an online course of my own! So here is a lightly-edited post from two years ago that is just as relevant today.  I hope you enjoy it (again).

August 18, 2018

“What this power is, I cannot say.  All I know is that it exists….and it becomes available only when you are in that state of mind in which you know exactly what you want…and are fully determined not to quit until you get it.” – Alexander Graham Bell

Have you ever wanted something so badly you just ached for it — and then you let your fear stop you from getting it?

You hesitated just a few moments before taking the first step toward your Big Goal and then watched helplessly as the “magic moment” that could have catapulted you forward passed. You didn’t cross the room to ask that special someone to dance, you didn’t ask your boss for a raise, you didn’t apply for your dream job, you didn’t take your friend up on the opportunity to join her business, you didn’t sign up for the audition….You never did get your heart’s desire and you have regretted it ever since.

Of course you have done that!  I know because I have done that. Everybody who ever walked this planet has done it. That’s because whenever we have a strong urge to go after something, our Ego’s default mode is to hesitate. We pause before leaping into action just long enough to listen to the little Fear Voice in our head, which is determined to stop you from taking that action. This is the cause of what we call “self-sabotage.”  We KNOW we really, really want something and we KNOW exactly what we have to do to get it, but we just cannot seem to MAKE ourselves take that first step.

If you want to reach your Big Goals and stop this maddening cycle of self-sabotage, you couldn’t find a better instruction manual than motivational speaker and life coach Mel Robbins’ book “The 5 Second Rule.”  I have shared her TEDx talk about the 5 Second Rule with hundreds of people, and many of my coaching clients have read her book because Mel was one of the keynote speakers at their direct sales company’s convention.

The way she developed her simple but effective trademark tool for circumventing the hesitation urge that stops you from getting your dreams is a compelling story. Years ago, this former attorney’s financial world suddenly collapsed when her husband’s over-extended restaurant business started to fail and her own fledgling media career tanked at the same time. Rapidly, this successful power couple became heavily-in-debt “failures.” Blindsided, she felt numb and hopeless and no matter how hard she tried, she just couldn’t seem to motivate herself to get out of bed each morning to handle her many daunting life challenges.

That posed a serious problem for her family because her children were not getting ready for school on time and were missing the bus day after day.  Her marriage was in jeopardy too. Her husband resented that he was working around the clock to try to save his business while she was sleeping in and avoiding looking for a job that could bring in some much-needed income.

Then one morning when her alarm rang, Mel spontaneously created a simple but very effective tool to push her brain past the paralyzing fear that was making her hit the snooze alarm again and again.  She counted down aloud like the rocket launch she had recently watched on television “Five. Four. Three. Two. One. GO!” When she got to “Go,” that word triggered her subconscious mind to automatically throw back the covers, and she stood up and started her day, which led her to starting a new life.

Her book explains in fascinating detail exactly WHY that little Fear Voice in your head stops you from pursuing your Big Goals. It is part of your normal, healthy Ego’s survival mechanism to try to keep you “safe” by keeping you on the couch instead of allowing you to make any changes in your life that could possibly turn out to be a physical or emotion “risk.”

Mel also explains exactly how you can use the 5 Second Rule countdown to leverage yourself into taking the critical first step toward creating a new career, stopping yourself from giving in to your negative urges like smoking, alcohol or overeating, finding your perfect mate, getting a raise, expressing yourself artistically – ANY Big Goal you have in life.

She says, “Are you waiting for someone to ask you, drag you, pick you or catapult you into the spotlight, or are you willing to find the courage to push yourself?  Are you waiting to feel ready?  Waiting for the right time. Waiting to gain confidence.  Waiting to feel like it.  Waiting to feel worthy.  Waiting until you have more experience.

“Sometimes there is no next time, no second chance, or no time out.  Stop waiting.  It’s now or never.  When you wait, you aren’t procrastinating.  You are doing something more dangerous.  You are deliberately convincing yourself ‘now is not the time.’  You are actively working against your dreams.”

Mel’s book is filled with messages from people who have used the 5 Second Rule to overcome their Ego’s self-sabotaging fears and JUST DO IT.  And their results have been phenomenal.

Mel says, The difference between people who make their dreams come true and those of us who don’t is just one thing: the courage to start and the discipline to keep going.  The Rule is a game-changer because it 5-4-3-2-1 forces you to get out of your head and start and it’ll 5-4-3-2-1 help you keep going…..When you 5-4-3-2-1 push yourself forward you’ll discover the magic in your life and open yourself up to the world, to opportunity, and to possibility.  You might not get the girl, the part, or the response you wanted but that’s not the point.  In the end, you’ll get something way cooler – you’ll discover the power inside of you.”

I invite you to watch (or re-watch) Mel Robbin’s 20-minute TEDx talk from several years ago.  Here’s the You Tube link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lp7E973zozc

And I very much encourage you to read The 5 Second Rule and USE what it teaches you. The life of your dreams is waiting for you — and the start of it is just FIVE SECONDS away!

IMPORTANT NOTE: The blog is taking next weekend off and will return on Sunday October 11 with a fresh Cup of Caroll!

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****************** Give Yourself the Gift of Dreams Fulfilled! ********************

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July 19, 2020

“People may hear your words but they FEEL your attitude.” – John Maxwell

I am happily busy with preparations for the exciting launch of the New Success Coaching Membership.  But I wanted to pause to share with you one more insight I recently got into all the amazing ways you can use the creative power of the Law of Attraction in every area of your life, which is actually the whole focus of the Membership course.

As you know, the Law of Attraction states that “energy attracts like energy.” Therefore, the personal energy vibration (your thoughts plus the emotions that those thoughts stir up) that you put out into the world must inevitably attract to you the people, circumstances and resources that are a match for your energy.

The GREAT news is, there are many tools available to help you harness the power of The Law of Attraction by directing your energy to attract the GOOD things that will answer your needs, prayers and heartfelt wishes.  You don’t have to know exactly HOW or WHEN the answer will appear because you can always trust that the perfect means and timing will be handled by God/The Universe.

All you have to do is YOUR part of the equation: ASK clearly and specifically for what you want or need, BELIEVE that God/The Universe will come up with the perfect HOW, and keep your eyes and mind open to RECEIVE the clear guidance that will lead you to exactly what you want or need at the perfect time.

In the last blog, I shared a personal story that proved to me that the divine Law of Attraction can bring you what you want and need at exactly the perfect time, in unexpected ways that your Ego never would have thought of in a million years.

As you will recall, a few weeks ago, I went out to my mailbox and found an envelope from a friend and former coaching client.  I had no idea why she would be writing to me. When I opened it, I got a huge surprise — a check made out to me for $1,000!

Her enclosed note explained that she had received a very unexpected large bonus from her work. That $10,000 was the exact amount she had been ASKING to manifest in one of my past Law of Attraction courses to help her pay off some debts. It wasn’t delivered exactly when or how she might have imagined, but it was perfect to meet her present needs.

What was miraculous for ME was that she chose to pay a large portion of it forward to ME, as thanks for having loaned her some money when she needed it several years ago.  She had already paid me back in full, as far as I was concerned.  But she said in her note, “I told myself that when the day came that I could return the favor to you, I would do so….In the past few months, I have had several surprise windfalls myself and so I decided, ‘there is no time like the present!’”

I was stunned and delighted, of course!  But at the time, neither of us suspected that her timing for sending me this unexpected gift was especially perfect.  She had originally been planning to send it to me closer to the Holidays, when she thought it would be most welcome.  But an inner urge kept telling her that NOW was the right time to send it.  Happily, she followed that divine prodding because it soon became apparent that NOW was indeed the perfect timing.

I stashed her $1,000 gift in the bank while I contemplated how best to use it.  Two weeks ago, my tax advisor informed me that the amount we still owed for 2019 plus our quarterly estimated tax payments for 2020 came to exactly $1,000!  I was amazed and so grateful that God/The Universe obviously knew of my upcoming need and arranged to have it delivered at exactly the right time by unexpected, perfect means.

We know that Generosity and Gratitude are two of the most powerful positive emotions we can express to attract MORE good things to us.  I was once generous to my friend and she felt very grateful.  Years later, she got the inner urge to be generous to me at the perfect time to fulfill a need I didn’t even know I was going to have. By the divine Law of Attraction, our reciprocal giving and receiving energy connected us in an exchange of abundance that fulfilled both of our needs.

Serendipitous timing and prosperity windfalls like these don’t have to be rare occurrences in our lives. We can learn to adopt the right mindset and energy to harness the creative energy of the Law of Attraction in all areas of life on a daily basis.

These proven tools that I have been using myself and sharing with my private coaching clients for the past 16 years are exactly what I will be teaching to all the New Success Coaching Members beginning in August.  Once they master using the Law of Attraction, they will be able to attract more of the RIGHT customers, business partners, ideas and resources to boost their success more quickly and easily than just hard work and marketing savvy alone could do.

Of course, the Law of Attraction works in EVERY area of life, not just business.  It can help us to create ideal relationships, health, creativity, fun – virtually anything you desire, require and MORE.  And yes, it can even pay your taxes!

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********** Give Yourself or Someone Else the Gift of Dreams Fulfilled!***********

To schedule a no-obligation, F*R*E*E* HOUR of phone coaching that will help clarify your Big Goals and get you into ACTION to make them a reality, please email me at caroll@practicalprosperitycoach.com.  You can offer this valuable gift to a friend as well!

June 28, 2020

“Giving is a universal opportunity.  Regardless of your age, profession, religion, income bracket and background, you have the capacity to create change.” – Laura Arrillaga-Andreessen

As we prepare to launch the New Success Coaching Membership next month, I thought it would be fitting to share with you a personal story of how I recently experienced a delightful financial mini-miracle via the Law of Attraction.

As you know, the Law of Attraction states that “energy attracts like energy.” Therefore, the personal energy vibration (your thoughts plus the emotions that those thoughts stir up) that you put out into the world must inevitably attract to you the people, circumstances and resources that are a match for your energy.

The GREAT news is, there are many tools available to help you harness the power of The Law of Attraction by directing your energy to attract the GOOD things that will answer your needs, prayers and heartfelt wishes.  We don’t know exactly HOW the answer will appear – the perfect means and timing are always up to God/The Universe.  But you can be sure that you WILL attract your matching energy, in one form or another, according to this divine universal Law.

These proven tools that I have been using myself and teaching to all my private coaching clients for the past 16 years are exactly what I will be teaching to all the New Success Coaching Members, so they, too, can manifest their dreams, especially in the area of business.  Once they master using the Law of Attraction to help them, they will be able to attract more of the RIGHT customers, business partners, ideas and resources to boost their success more quickly and easily than just hard work and marketing savvy alone could do.  (Of course, the Law of Attraction works in EVERY area of life, not just business.  It can help us to create ideal relationships, health, homes, careers, creativity, fun – virtually anything you desire, require and MORE.)

What recently happened for me is a great example of how the divine Law of Attraction can bring you something you want when you least expect it, in unexpected ways that your Ego never would have thought of in a million years!

I went out to my mailbox a few weeks ago and found an envelope from a friend and former coaching client.  I had no idea why she would be writing to me. When I opened it, I got a huge surprise — a check made out to me for $1,000!

The enclosed note contained an even BIGGER surprise, as she described the reason for sending me this amazing windfall:

“Surprise!  I am very happy to fulfill a special intention I have had for some time to send you this check, which represents the loan payments you forgave to celebrate my birthday or to help our Christmas be that much merrier.

I told myself that when the day came that I could return the favor to you, I would do so….In the past few months, I have had several surprise windfalls myself and so I decided, ‘there is no time like the present!’”

She went on to explain that the company she works for recently merged with a big investor and with the resulting prosperity, the owner decided to acknowledge her years of hard work and loyalty with a bonus of $10,000:

“She selected a few people to show her appreciation to and I was one of them.  I was absolutely flabbergasted!  What won’t surprise you is that I had been praying for $10,000 with no attachment to ‘the how’ so I could pay down some debt.  I set $1,000 aside and that is what is coming to you today with immense gratitude for all you have done to get me through some very difficult times!  Thank you for believing in me!”

She closed by stating that she intends to be one of the Founding Members of the New Success Coaching Membership, which thrilled me even more.

I emailed her a heartfelt thank you letter and pointed out some other miraculous facets to her amazing surprise gift that she wasn’t aware of or had perhaps forgotten. I wrote:

“Thank you!  Your gift was indeed an incredible surprise!  It is so generous of you and could not have come at a more perfect time!

I declared in my Gratitude Formula Journal just this morning that I would soon be debt-free and be able to ‘lend and not borrow,” as The Bible says.  When I wrote that, I was thinking of YOU and how the overflow abundance I was able to share with you all those years ago felt SO wonderful, I wanted that feeling again, of being able to help someone financially when they most needed it.

I also just sent a $100 check off to Joel Osteen Ministries, whose messages have given me ‘spiritual food’ for the past several years, especially during the current scary COVID crisis.  I always send those donations off with the affirmation ‘What I send out to do good in the world returns to bless me 10-fold.’ Your check was EXTRA amazing because it was EXACTLY 10-FOLD!”

Then I went on to remind her about two of her own heartfelt desires that I vividly remember from our past coaching, which her boss’s gift also miraculously represents the HOW for:

“Beyond your amazing gift itself, I am EVEN more gratified by the $10,000 that YOU received from your boss, for two reasons: I know that you once doubted that she truly appreciated your worth at work, and that ‘appreciation bonus’ must have validated for you that you were valued – PRICELESS, in fact!

Also, I seem to remember that $10,000 was the EXACT amount that you set as your Intention to receive during one of my past workshops.  It took awhile longer than we thought, but it’s an amazing validation that God hears and acts on ALL of our requests, at the perfect time, in the perfect way!”

She was blown away, realizing that she really had triggered that $10,000 “miracle” to come to her by her own positive energy of always striving to do her BEST, and EXPECTING that God would send the BEST to her in return.

Our story demonstrates the kind of Win-Win mutual-benefits and delightful surprises you can attract to you by consciously putting the Law of Attraction into positive action in your everyday life. Giving energy, especially, always comes back to bless us in some way.  And I believe that is one of the greatest lessons that God/the Universe wants us to learn in life.

MY SPECIAL INVITATION TO YOU

If YOU would like to see delightful surprises like this become a regular part of your OWN life, I invite you to become a Founding Member in the New Success Coaching Membership program! Founding Member enrollment closes July 3. If you want to get all the benefits at the BEST price – just $27 a month! – REGISTER NOW and that incredibly LOW monthly price is guaranteed NEVER to go up, as long as you choose to remain in the membership. Come join us and learn how to become a Master Manifester, too! For New Success Coaching Membership details and a registration form, please contact me ASAP: caroll@practicalprosperitycoach.com.

PLEASE NOTE: The blog is taking the next two weeks off so I can prepare for the launch of the Membership program.  Have a safe and happy Canada Day or Fourth of July next week and find your next Cup of Caroll in your inbox on Sunday July 19.

Is This You?

You’re a hardworking direct sales professional or entrepreneur who is tired of trying to help some of your business partners to succeed, only to realize they are not as serious about the business as you are…..

Maybe you struggle to find loyal, appreciative customers who are serious about getting lasting results with your products….

Or perhaps you are still fairly new to the business and based on your initial results, you are beginning to wonder if you really have what it takes to succeed?

If you feel discouraged at the pace of building your business, I want to share with you the simple success formula that I have used to help hundreds of direct sellers and entrepreneurs reach their success goals – quickly, easily, joyfully.

I recently taught a brand new webinar for direct sellers and entrepreneurs on how to follow the NEW Success Formula that uses the Law of Attraction to turbo-boost their results. Every one of them said they would recommend the course to their Teams, their friends, everyone they know!

If they can, so can YOU!

Here are just a few of the comments I received from participants after the inaugural  course:

“This course, its resources, and your coaching have made all the difference in my business and my outlook.  I’ve told my whole Team about it.” – T.G., Rodan and Fields Leader

“This entire course was extremely valuable and useful for me.  Getting back to ME – my goals, my intentions – and working towards getting the balance back in my life – has been exactly what I needed…I have a new type of energy and I can feel the shift in mindset.  I loved this course.  I would do it again and will definitely heavily promote it.” – S.L., Rodan and Fields Level V Circle Leader

“My Big Intention that I was working on fulfilling by the end of course was that within 8 weeks I would receive $6,500 above and beyond what is already coming to me.  A few weeks into the course, out of the blue, I remembered a tax deduction that I had not claimed, which saved me $500.  A little later, I had a sudden, strong urge to call my financial advisor and tell him I needed some extra money, without naming the amount.  He told me I had a $6,000 cash balance in an account I had forgotten about.  So, I got the exact amount I asked for in some surprising ways, just before the deadline.” – J.K.

“What you are teaching is very valuable and has made an immense difference in my life.  I’ve been getting a lot of [intuitive] guidance and trying to follow each one….I feel like I’m thriving.  I am grateful that I took your course and got so much out of it.” – J.G., Realtor and Direct Sales Professional

“I’m really benefiting from this course.  I’ve been going to bed with my intentions and waking up with reading something inspirational and motivational, and always in more gratitude….Since the course, I’ve had an entire change of attitude and set more boundaries as to the energy around me.  I started back at the gym twice a week with an accountability partner and it’s going great.  I went to yoga last night for the first time in three years. When I left, my migraine was gone.  Is it working? YES! I am grateful for you and for the course.” – S.V.

“This course was perfect for where I am in my life.  Following the daily steps of the Formula has made a big difference.  It has made me dig deep and think about and do things I normally would not have done.  Thank you for offering this course.  I look forward to taking another one with you in the future.” – M.T., Rodan and Fields Executive Consultant

You need proven results, not empty promises

Do these results sound too good to be true?  Not at all! There IS a simple, proven system for attracting the RIGHT customers, business partners, ideas, resources and financial support you need to work smarter, not harder. The New Success Formula harnesses the power of The Law of Attraction, which I have been using in my life and teaching to my Personal Success Coaching ™ clients for years.

  • Maybe you have already used The Law of Attraction with some success, but your ongoing results have not been as reliable as you would like.
  • Or, maybe you have read a book about it, but you have never really put it into daily practice because it seemed a bit too woo-woo — Not like a real “system” you could learn to master.
  • Or, perhaps you have heard the term “Law of Attraction” but you don’t really know much about it.

It doesn’t matter what your background or level of experience with it is, the NEW Success Formula will teach you how to harness the attracting power of the Law of Attraction for EVERY goal you have, every problem you face, in every area of your life.

You need MORE than just a Course!

Even though they loved it, after the eight-week course was over, most of the participants told me they wished they had ONGOING coaching support. They had learned exactly WHAT to do in the course, but they felt they needed more ongoing practice, support and answers to really MASTER the system and create reliable SUCCESS.

That’s when I got the idea of creating an ongoing, monthly New Success Coaching Membership! When you join the Membership, you begin by learning the New Success Formula, and then CONTINUE to deepen your understanding and get ongoing support  with implementing it in your life and business.

The New Success Formula online course itself will begin in early August.  You can go through the material as quickly or slowly as you like because each step-by-step lesson is videotaped. At the same time, there will also be ongoing LIVE Q & A and group coaching sessions with me, several times a month. We will also form a Mastermind Community where you can get ongoing support and accountability from peers who are all after the same kind of success you are. Down the road, I hope to invite guest experts to speak to us regularly, too.

Founding Members Wanted NOW!

The whole idea of this Membership is still very new. I have a clear vision, but I don’t have ALL the details mapped out yet!  That’s why I want to collaborate with the FOUNDING MEMBERS who are the first to jump inIf you join by July 3, we will collaborate together in July to get YOUR input and ideas on how to make the format and pace as useful to you as possible.  YOU will get to help design your own success!

I realize that not everyone wants or can afford private one-one coaching. That’s why the New Success Coaching monthly membership costs less than ONE TENTH of what private coaching costs. You can stay with us as long as you like, with no contract.  But if you want REAL RESULTS, you must come in committed to finishing the course and staying with us long enough to put what you learned into practice.

Each month, I will continue to provide you with additional resources and coaching help and the Membership Community will help you with peer support and accountability.

I am confident that you will stay with us as long as you feel you are making good progress toward your business and life goals. You will have all the tools you need to achieve the success you have worked hard for and deserve!

Other Perks for Founding Members

FOR FOUNDING MEMBERS ONLY, the monthly membership fee is just $27 per month!  Your price will NEVER go up, as long as you stay in the monthly Membership.  After the Founding Member Launch closes on July 3, the price is DEFINITELY going to go up for new members. In addition, the membership will only accept new members twice a year, so the next opportunity to join at a higher price will be in early 2021.

PLEASE DON’T MISS this opportunity!  If you want to experience what the New Success Formula can do to turbo-charge your success, organically attract more of the RIGHT customers and business partners, and bring new passion and balance to your life, NOW is the time to jump in!  

Please share this information with your Team and friends ASAP and urge them to join us ASAP too!

Email me TODAY for a registration form to start your New Success Coaching Membership: caroll@practicalprosperitycoach.com

Additional questions you need to discuss with me? Just ask and we can chat.

May 17, 2020

“Without inspiration, the best powers of the mind remain dormant.  There is a fuel in us which needs to be ignited with sparks.” – Johann Gottried Von Herder

If you would like to attract more and better customers, business partners, a great romantic relationship, a new career, more prosperity – just about anything – you absolutely CAN. The attraction is triggered by The Law of Attraction, which says that “energy attracts like energy.” In other words, the personal “energy vibration” (your thoughts plus your emotions which arise from those thoughts) you emanate always attracts to you people, things and circumstances that are a match for your energy.

To send out a vibration that will attract the positive people and things you desire, you must first light a spark within yourself — the spark of enthusiasm. If you don’t feel genuinely enthusiastic about who you are and what you are selling or offering to others, nobody else will be interested either. This was the main message I got this week from the experiences of several of my network marketing/direct sales coaching clients.

Several Team Leaders told me that they personally have been having record months in their businesses, despite the challenges of our current COVID-19 reality.  They are genuinely enthusiastic about offering their products and business opportunity to others. They truly want to help them, and so approach their reach outs with an expectation that their products and/or business opportunity just might be exactly what the person they are contacting is looking for.

Some of their Team members, however, have not been having similar success and the Leaders were perplexed that they seem to just give up without really trying. When the Leaders try to support them, these Team members express no enthusiasm for offering people they know something that could be a life-changing option for them.  These Team members lament, “Nobody has any money right now” or “They have too much on their minds; they don’t want to hear about this.” Not surprisingly, whenever they do attempt a reach out, that’s exactly the response they got — a reflection of their own energy.

I just finished reading a fascinating collection of short books on spiritual mindset and manifesting by Florence Scovel Shinn, compiled under the main title “The Game of Life and How to Play It.” Even though she wrote the final part in 1944 and the style is a bit old-fashioned, it’s remarkable how completely relevant her teachings still are regarding the power of our thoughts and words to shape our lives.

She was a pioneer Law of Attraction coach, teaching her clients that their thoughts and especially their spoken words were shaping their reality. They came to her for help and she gave them inspiring positive affirmations that sparked positive emotions and installed new, empowering beliefs in their subconscious minds. This changed their energy vibration and attracted whatever they wanted to them very quickly.

In the very last chapter of the book, she talks about the importance of enthusiasm:

“The word enthusiasm in the dictionary is defined, ‘to be inspired or possessed by the gods.’ Enthusiasm is divine fire and kindles enthusiasm in others. To be a good salesman, you must be enthusiastic about the articles you are selling. If you are bored with your business or uninterested, the fires go out, and no one else will be interested.”

She went on to give this example of the importance of first lighting the spark of enthusiasm inside yourself if you want to attract enthusiastic people to you:

“A woman came to me for success in business.  She said, ‘I have a shop, but it is usually empty. I do not bother to open it until late in the day, what’s the use?’ I replied, ‘There is indeed no use so long as you feel the way you do. You are keeping people away. Become enthusiastic over what you have to sell. Be enthusiastic about yourself. Be enthusiastic about the God-power within you, and get up early to open your shop and be ready for the big crowd.”

In the specific ACTION she advised her client to take — to open up early and “be ready for the big crowd”– Florence also reminds us of another key tool for triggering the Law of Attraction: You must act as though you ALREADY have the result you are after. When you take actions that show your subconscious mind you truly BELIEVE and EXPECT to receive what you say you desire, it aligns your energy with what you want and attracts it to you.

The outcome for her client was exactly what Florence expected:

“By this time, she was all wound up with divine expectancy. She dashed down to her shop as early as possible and people were waiting outside and poured in all day….Your quality of thought penetrates every article for sale and all the conditions connected with it.”

So, you see, if you want to attract greater success in your business or career, more fulfilling relationships, more prosperity and happiness, take Florence’s advice and show the world your authentic enthusiasm for yourself and the gifts you have to offer. The spark of passion you light inside yourself will light a fire under others, too.

PLEASE NOTE: In order to give me time to continue preparing my new membership site, the blog will be taking the next two weeks off and will return on Sunday June 7.

 If you or your friends would like your own free subscription to receive this blog three Sundays a month, just go to https://www.practicalprosperitycoach.com and click on the Prosperity Tips button at the top.

*************** Give Yourself the Gift of Dreams Fulfilled! ******************

I want to be of service to YOU and your friends, colleagues and loved ones, especially now! To schedule a NO-obligation, F*R*E*E* HOUR of phone coaching that will help clarify your goals and get you into ACTION to make them a reality, please email me while I still have openings at caroll@practicalprosperitycoach.com

May 10, 2020

“What this power is I cannot say.  All I know is that it exists…and it becomes available only when you are in a state of mind in which you know exactly what you want…and are fully determined not to quit until you get it.” – Alexander Graham Bell

“You can’t lead anyone else further than you have gone yourself.” – Gene Mauch

First, a great big Happy Mother’s Day to all you mothers, stepmothers, grandmothers, and Fur Baby mothers!  None of us would have made it without your unconditional love and nurturing…. And now, homeschooling! You do it all with style, grace and love and we are all SO grateful!

If you haven’t yet read last week’s blog (Pushed on Purpose – Blog 371), I hope you will.  Briefly, I told the story of how one of my clients and I both experienced the unfolding of a long-held Big Dream by never giving up on it, and by creating a daily connection to our Higher Power that gave us the step-by-step guidance we needed to succeed.

In my case, I did my daily morning journaling/connecting with God (my Higher Power), using May McCarthy’s wonderful Gratitude Formula. Specifically, I asked God to help me discover a way to help MORE people reach their Big Goals by harnessing the power of the Law of Attraction (“energy attracts like energy”), which I have been teaching to my private coaching clients for many years.  

Now, more than ever, there is a huge need for people to learn to create success and prosperity, despite a fractured economy, huge unemployment and the pervasive fear mentality that surrounds us every day.  The group I most want to help is small business owners, direct sellers and entrepreneurs. They have hustle and heart and are out there every day, working toward their Big Goals with belief and perseverance.  I want them to achieve the greatest success they can possibly imagine.

This need is also personal for me.  With the COVID-19 pandemic, my own family’s income has been drastically cut, too. My husband’s real estate business has slowed considerably, and in my private coaching practice, many eager potential clients who were poised to come into coaching in March abruptly pulled back to wait and see what happens.

This could appear to be a personal disaster, but as I said in the last blog, sometimes God/The Universe uses outer circumstances to push us out of our comfy habitual “nest” so we can grow in more purposeful ways that always lead to our Highest Good.  I have rock solid faith in that.

In my 16 years as a Personal Success Coach, I have helped over 750 private clients reach their Big Goals. But for the past few years, I have felt a strong pull to find a way to teach many MORE people the Law of Attraction tools that have always helped me succeed.

I have delivered online courses for up to 70 participants at a time, and all were well-received. But closed-ended courses have several inherent limitations. The biggest is that, like students in school, participants must move through the material at roughly the same pace.  Some participants couldn’t make it to the live Zoom calls, and if they didn’t keep up with the video replays and homework, they became overwhelmed by a backlog of work and eventually dropped out.

The other main drawback was that some who wanted the course could not afford even the modest up-front fee that I charged for an eight-week course.  I wanted to include the people who needed the information the most, while still making it profitable for me.

Finally, the main drawback for me is that it is very time-consuming to design, market and deliver a live course for two months at a time, while still serving my private coaching clients.

Seeking the ultimate solution, I began writing in my Gratitude Formula Journal each morning, expressing gratitude in advance to God that I knew there was a Win-Win solution for all the people I wanted to help AND for me — and that I was confident that God would guide me to it. The Divine Guidance we request often comes, not through our reasoning mind, but via an intuitive “hunch” or strong urge – a “lead,” as May McCarthy calls it.

That’s how the solution came to me, like a mini-miracle!  A couple of weeks ago, I was scrolling through SPAM to make sure nothing important had landed there, when an email caught my eye.  It was from a Law of Attraction coach with an enormous following whose blogs I used to read.  I almost deleted it, since I hadn’t received anything from him in many months, but an intuitive inner “urge” made me stop and read it.

The LOA coach’s email was promoting someone I had never heard of, Stu McLaren, a Canadian marketing guru who apparently is masterful at helping coaches, artists, instructors and all kinds of small business owners share their expertise with a wide audience through a membership site.  I had never really thought about membership sites before that moment.

But as Stu pointed out, we ALL subscribe to many membership sites these days – they really are our major modern delivery system for goods and services of all kinds.  If you have an Amazon or Costco membership, subscribe to YouTube or Netflix or a home school teacher site, book of the month club, use WordPress or Go Daddy, get monthly shipments of products from organic vegetables to skin care – you already are an active membership user.  You use these memberships because they have a low monthly cost and they are convenient, delivering exactly what you want exactly when you want it.

The email was promoting several free online classes with Stu McLaren, promising to show us how we could provide regular ongoing content, support and community engagement to our subscription members.  I felt another inner “urge” and signed up for his four free classes.  At the end of the free series, I was absolutely blown away — this is EXACTLY the answer I have been asking God for and it came out of nowhere, when I least expected it!

NOW, I have a way to teach an unlimited number of entrepreneurs, small business owners and direct sellers how to use The Law of Attraction to connect to exactly the right resources, customers and business partners that can lead to greater success and prosperity with greater speed and ease.  Most importantly, now they will receive the ONGOING support they need to successfully implement what they learn, which was not possible with short-term courses.

NOW members will be able to learn what to do at their OWN pace, so they will never again have that “fall behind” content overwhelm.  And they will still have the benefit of LIVE coaching with me as part of the membership, as well as being part of a growing, on-going mastermind/support community of peers who are on the same path (along with purposeful personal direction from their Higher Power, of course). In the near future, I also intend to invite other master trainers and speakers to share their own special ideas and techniques for manifesting greater prosperity and success in our businesses and lives.  (I have been studying The Law of Attraction for over 25 years, and I am still constantly learning myself!)

The best part is, ALL this can be done for a very low monthly fee for each member, so EVERYONE can participate who wants to, for as long as they want to. It’s month-to-month, with no contract.  People will stay as long as they are getting good value for their time and money.

I am now enrolled in Stu’s two-month course that begins next week, to learn to set up an effective membership site right from the get-go, so members can have the best possible experience. I will be opening it up to new enrollments in June, and launching the membership site content in early July.

But I need YOUR help NOW!

In the next week or so, I will announce a special PRE-launch, offering a limited number of Founding Member subscriptions to the New Success Community. Founding Memberships will be at the LOWEST price I will EVER offer and are guaranteed to never increase, as long as their monthly membership is maintained.

Founding Members will not only get a screaming deal on their monthly membership, but I am going to call on them for their input on the membership site content and community structure. I want them to share their valuable ideas to make this the effective, valuable and enjoyable learning and personal growth experience we all want it to be.  Together, we can transform lives!

So, you see, the tools I give my clients to master The Law of Attraction and create more success with greater speed and ease also apply to ME.  I used the Gratitude Formula to get the “hunch” that led me to the ultimate answer I have been seeking.  I love coaching because it makes me walk my talk, and that leads ME to greater success, too!

IMPORTANT: Pre-launch ends in May, whenever the limited number of Founding Memberships are gone. For information on the cost and details of becoming a Founding Member and helping shape our New Success Community, please contact me ASAP at caroll@practicalprosperitycoach.com with your full name and email address. I can’t wait to hear from you!

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February 16, 2020

“…Love your neighbor as yourself.” (Matthew 22:39, NIV)

However you spent your Valentine’s Day – with your sweetheart, a four-footed pal, a BFF, or just enjoying your own company – I hope you felt LOVED.  The most important person on the planet for you to love is YOU.

If you are not being loved, respected or treated right by someone else (a boss, teacher, romantic partner, friend, upline, downline, neighbor, etc.), The Law of Attraction says that “energy attracts like energy.” Therefore, if you recognize that you are attracting people into your life who do not seem to be honoring and valuing you (especially if you see a pattern among several people), it’s a good idea to honestly assess how YOU are feeling about and treating yourself.

I have always loved two quotes from psychologist Dr. Phil McGraw and I often share them with clients who are dealing with someone who is behaving unkindly or disrespectfully toward them:

“No one will ever value you more than you value yourself.”

“We teach other people how to treat us.”

If we allow someone to mistreat us because we feel we somehow “deserve” it or it bothers us but we just keep quiet, trying to avoid “conflict,” their disrespectful behavior is sure to be repeated. If, however, YOU believe and behave like you are valuable, others will treat you that way. Or, if they need your polite but firm correction, they will definitely change their attitude and behavior toward you in the future.

And, if you want to love others more, you first need to love yourself, human imperfections and all.  Remember, God/The Universe couldn’t create junk – therefore, you ARE a masterpiece.

There are two things I believe all successful people have in common: Self confidence and Self-esteem.  The former is you believing that you are capable.  The latter is you believing that you are lovable.

If you were raised by well-meaning parents to believe that loving yourself displeases your Creator because it is “prideful” or “selfish,” here is a different spiritual outlook from my favorite positive-thought minister, Joel Osteen:

 “Love Yourself (By Joel Osteen)

Jesus said that if you don’t love yourself in a healthy way, you will never be able to love others in the way that you should. This is why some people don’t have good relationships. If you don’t get along with yourself, you’ll never get along with others. We all have weaknesses, shortcomings, and things that we wish were different. But if you see yourself as less than, not talented, and not valuable, you will become exactly that. If you feel unattractive on the inside, you will convey feelings of unattractiveness. That’s going to push people away. You carry yourself the way you see yourself.

People see you the way you see yourself. Perhaps if you quit focusing on your flaws and start loving yourself in a healthy way, being proud of who God made you to be, then as you send out these different messages, it’s going to bring new opportunities, new relationships, and new levels of God’s favor.”

Remember, there are only two opinions about you that TRULY matter: Yours and your Creator’s. If you steer your life by those, not only will you be happy and successful, you will be able to reflect your healthy self-love out to the rest of the world and make a positive difference in the lives of many others.  And I can promise you that you will feel loved and valued in return.

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*************** Give Yourself the Gift of Dreams Fulfilled! ******************

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January 12, 2020

“When you know that you are in charge of your intentions, then you will come to know that you are in charge of the entire world.” – Wayne Dyer

In the last blog, we discussed the importance of completing your old year before you attempt to create your new year the way you want it to be.  Once you have released any disappointments, lingering resentments, incompletions and regrets over what did or didn’t happen for you last year, you are ready to CO-create (with God/The Universe) an even better new year for yourself.

I have been doing a New Year Creation exercise every year since 2004. I can’t say every year turned out exactly the way I had envisioned in every area of my life. Still, as I re-read each New Year’s Eve what I had set out to create that year, I was consistently amazed to find that much of what I truly wanted did come true.

By the way, if you haven’t yet completed the “Reflections Exercise” from last week’s blog (Learn from Your Past – Blog 359) to help you powerfully complete 2019, identify your main lessons from it, and create the mental and emotional space for a year of new manifestations, please take all the time you need to finish it before you begin this next step. You can find it in the blog archives on my website.

CREATING YOUR NEW YEAR

Once you have completed the old, you are ready and receptive to a brand new year of co-creating your life to be how YOU want it to be!  Every January, my coaching clients use this very effective technique for creating their year on their own terms, rather than passively waiting to see how it all “turns out.” As hundreds of them have proven, you CAN ask for what you want – and get it!

And NO, I am not suggesting that the Divine Plan for your life doesn’t matter!  I personally believe that in order to manifest our highest good, we must first ASK God/The Universe clearly and specifically for what we want, and then know that if it is good for us and doesn’t harm anyone else, we will be shown HOW to get it.  You can trust that if God/The Universe has different plans for you, you will be guided to fulfill them and they will be EVEN better than the ones you suggested!

STEP ONE: Create a THEME for the year. How you would like this year show to up for your life?  Make it catchy so you can remember it on a daily basis. Last year, my theme was “2019: My Year of Freedom, Success and Contribution” and I am happy to say that it turned out to be that! My coaching practice grew from many happy clients’ referrals and my third annual Summer Prosperity Camp brought me increased prosperity and helped my participants break through their former barriers to success.

My theme for this new year is “2020: The Year of Living My Highest Purpose” because I want to expand my avenues for sharing Law of Attraction prosperity principles with even more people in new and bigger ways. It’s already starting to look like that with many people being referred and signing up for my free webinar on Monday about the NEW Success Formula I have discovered for 2020. 

STEP TWO: Create a list of personal qualities to describe how YOU want to show up in the world this year. State it in the present tense, as though it’s already a fact. Here’s mine: “In 2020, I am a richly-rewarded Messenger of Limitless Peace, Prosperity and Progress: Magnetic, Confident, Peaceful, Joyous, Patient, Empowering, Faith-Filled, Loving and Giving. I attract effortlessly WHO I AM and what I desire.” 

By declaring who you are in writing, you will automatically begin to become this person. The qualities and attributes you begin to embody will then attract the right people and resources to manifest your Big Dreams with ease.  As the Law of Attraction states, “energy attracts like energy.”  So whatever qualities you cultivate in yourself will show up in those who will be attracted to you – in business, friendship, romantic relationship – everywhere!

STEP THREE: List the main areas of life that are important to you.  Then simply state what you desire to have in each area this year.  Remember, you do not have to know HOW you are going to get those desires fulfilled!  Each dream you list is simply a declaration to God/the Universe that this is what you desire – stated in the present tense, with GRATITIDE, as though it’s already happened(NOTE: This “gratitude in advance” wording is a really important part of the format!)

Declaring “I am so grateful that…” and then describing what you desire tells your own subconscious mind that you believe 100% that it is going to happen – in fact, it’s ALREADY a done deal, as far as you are concerned.  You BELIEVE that God/the Universe will figure out the HOW and convey it to you by whatever means He/It chooses. It’s your job to remain open and alert for Divine Direction and then take ACTION when you get those Divine “leads.”  Believing in your dreams being fulfilled before you see any tangible evidence is key to making them a reality.

EXAMPLE YEAR CREATION

Last year, one of my clients created an outstandingly simple, clear and powerful Year Creation – all on a single page, which is much shorter than my own!  I share it as an example of what the format looks like when complete.

Remember, the areas of life she wrote about were the most important to HER that year; your Big Dreams may be in different areas, which is perfectly fine. If you see something in hers that you would like too, feel free to “borrow” it for your own!

2019: The year of Growth, Grace and Grit 

In 2019, I am a vehicle for dreams to be achieved and goals to be attained: Joyful, Confident, Determined, Enthusiastic, Graceful, Insightful, Loving and Unstoppable. I attract effortlessly WHO I AM and what I love.

I AM SO GRATEFUL THAT…. 

Love and Family: I love spending time with my husband and daughters learning about the world. We vacation often and have incredible trips where we learn, enjoy and explore amazingness. We have time to enjoy each other and be fully present, but we also take time for ourselves. We love each other deeply, have thoughtful conversations, celebrate our success and help each other thru the failures.

Business:  I am so grateful for the excitement, challenges and rewards that my Rodan + Fields business gives to me every day. I am the leader of an amazing team and have very loyal customers who feel appreciated. I get time every day to work and inspire the men and women on my team.  It will be a source of joy that radiates into every aspect of my life including my primary career. At convention, I am wearing my blue, blingy lanyard and I am so thrilled to be a part of the leadership summit!!

Friendship: My friends are so very important for me. I have time every day to check in on everyone – a phone call or a series of texts. I’m so very grateful for their love and humor!  We find time at least once a month to all go out together for dinner or movies and drinks! We are there to support each other through hard times and celebrations!

Health: I am eating healthier and feeling great. My morning walks are a time for ME. Sometimes it is for reflection, listening to a podcast or an early morning phone call with a friend on the east coast. I wake up every morning excited to go out and hit the road. My husband is cooking fantastic meals!

Self-Care: My mental state is clear and focused; my stress levels are low. I am able to attend my monthly meetings with other women entrepreneurs where we can help each other with whatever we need in life and in our businesses. I take time to read 30 minutes every day in peace and quiet. I have conversations with friends who feel similarly to me about what we learn, feel and think.  The laws of attraction are so present in my life that it is a natural part of my time – all of the time. 

What matters most to YOU right now? 

Think of your New Year Creation exercise like a Vision Board that uses words instead of pictures. Nothing is required of you. You don’t have to make an action plan or a to-do list from the heartfelt intentions you wrote! All you have to do is EXPRESS GRATITUDE IN ADVANCE to God/the Universe for it and BELIEVE it will show up for you at the perfect time and in the perfect way.

Some of my clients like to read their New Year Creation at the beginning of each week or the first of a new month. I read mine just a few times during the year, just to stay connected to it. But you could put yours away in a drawer and not take it out until next New Years — and you will be amazed that your own subconscious mind has been conspiring with your Divine Co-Creator throughout the year to create opportunities for you to make your Big Dreams a reality.

That’s the Law of Attraction in action! So don’t delay — The BEST year of your life (so far) is just waiting for you to create it!

REMINDER: Monday evening January 13 (tomorrow) is my F.R.E.E. one-hour webinar on the FOUR STEPS to the NEW Success Formula for making your Big Goals a reality in 2020!  If you would like to attend the Zoom class live with us at 6pm Pacific OR request the replay the next day, just email me ASAP with your NAME and EMAIL and I will send you the link or phone number if you are dialing in.  You are welcome to invite a friend or teammate as well — The more, the merrier!

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****************** Give the Gift of Dreams Fulfilled! ********************

This New Year, give a friend, colleague or loved one a truly unique gift that can change their life — ONE HOUR of Personal Success Coaching.  It is absolutely F*R*E*E* with no obligation and no strings attached!  You can give this to as many people who will really appreciate it as you wish.  (If you haven’t been in coaching with me for awhile, feel free to claim it for YOURSELF, too!)

To schedule a F*R*E*E* HOUR of phone coaching that will help them clarify their Big Goals for the New Year and get into ACTION to make this their BEST year yet, have them email me at caroll@practicalprosperitycoach.com to schedule their session.  

 

 

September 22, 2019

This week’s blog is a lightly-edited re-post from two years ago.  I recognized the same theme coming up again among my clients, so I thought this would be a good time to remind ourselves that we each have our own Superpower — our MINDSET – that we can use to create success and joy that nobody and nothing can ever steal from us.

“When you see yourself as calm, positive, truthful and possessed of high character, you behave with greater strength.  Other people respect you more.  You feel in control of yourself and the situation.” – Brian Tracy

This week’s coaching brought a blog theme to the forefront of my mind, as several of my clients struggled to deal with negative people without letting it destroy their own positive mindset.

One client was unsure how to respond to a Leader in her network marketing organization who was spewing negative texts to her and other members of her Team about someone who had reached a milestone reward in the company.  She felt it was unfair that someone who had been in the business for a shorter time was receiving this recognition and reward ahead of her. The Leader tried to make someone else’s triumph mean that SHE was never going to get there herself.

Another client was very hurt by a dear friend who texted her after a social event they attended together that she wished my client would “dial it back” about discussing her business with others in a social setting.

And a third client was exhausted from caring for a sick relative who seemed unwilling to take personal responsibility for her own decisions and actions that were contributing to her health problems.

At some time, we all must deal with people whose energy is negative, selfish, uncaring or even purposely hurtful.  If we allow it, their negative thoughts and actions can throw us off course in pursuing our dreams by making us doubt our own positive expectations, values and beliefs.

It’s not in their power to steal your success and joy, but it is in YOUR power — if you choose to surrender to their negativity.  That’s because the Law of Attraction says that energy attracts like energy.”  Toxic people and negative circumstances will come into your life, but it isn’t these outside forces that can harm you.  It is solely your reaction to them that either empowers or disempowers you and determines who and what is attracted into your life next.

In the first client’s case, she handled the toxic texting beautifully with a positive response of her own that said essentially, “I know you are going to reach [that same prize] soon!  Keep up the great work.”  Responding with cheerful positivity is great way to respond to someone else’s negativity.  If you respond with positivity and don’t take the bait, they will eventually stop sending gossip and negative messages your way because it’s no “fun” when others won’t join in the trash talk.  Similarly, when someone comes at you with anger, if you respond calmly and don’t fight back, their angry energy will eventually deflate because it takes two to quarrel.

This is not to say that you should be a doormat or allow someone to mistreat you.  I absolutely believe in standing up for yourself and for what you believe is right.  It’s the emotional energy behind your response that will have a positive or negative impact on YOU.  If you take it personally and allow yourself to go negative, “the terrorists win” because you have given away your power to think and behave the way YOU choose to.

In the case of the friend’s “dial it back” text that hurt my client, I tried to help her see the situation from her friend’s point of view. It takes maturity and self-confidence to consider another’s point of view, especially when it is diametrically opposed to our own.  Judging or being self-righteous toward others’ opinions, beliefs or lifestyle is a form of negative energy.

I invited my client to consider that her friend probably felt awkward in a social setting, standing on the periphery of a two-party conversation for 10 or 15 minutes, as my client politely fielded a barrage of questions from a stranger who wanted details about a product she was interested in. The friend didn’t express herself as well as she could have, for sure.  But I don’t believe she was really being unsupportive of my client’s business; she likely just felt left out and overlooked and it hurt her feelings.

I had a lot of sympathy for the client with the difficult relative.  Anyone who has ever had the responsibility for caring for a sick loved one knows how emotionally and physically stressful it can be.  And when that person is a needy, stubborn, chronic complainer who creates problems that others have to clean up, it can be extra frustrating.

In truth, though, more than the actual caregiving, it was my client’s attitude toward her recuperating relative’s lifestyle that was wearing her out.  For example, she allowed herself to feel helpless and upset that the woman struggled out to the porch multiple times a day to smoke, even though she knew it was bad for her.  I suggested that my client allow the relative to be herself, make her own decisions, and live with the consequences.  She is not required to solve all her problems for her.  She must be compassionate and give her relative whatever support she feels she can, without feeling frustrated or guilty about whatever she can’t control.  Her relative is an adult, after all.  It’s HER life and her own life lessons that she must learn.

The irony is that the recuperating relative seemed to be getting along just fine, while my client was feeling exhausted and unfocused, which was taking a toll on her OWN health, productivity and family relationships.  You cannot control anyone else, and in trying to, you can lose control of who YOU are, thinking and behaving like someone you don’t want to be. The solution is to stop trying to save others from themselves, judging them or controlling them.  Just relax, be neutral and don’t volunteer to be sucked into their life drama.

I love Brian Tracy’s powerful quote.  Let it be your guiding star in determining your own life course. You can ask yourself daily: Am I feeling calm, positive, truthful and possessed of high character”?  Am I acting “strong and in control”? If not, adjust your thoughts and actions until you can answer “Yes.”  Then you will be your own Superhero!

PLEASE NOTE: The blog is taking next week off and will return on Sunday, October 6.

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************** Give Yourself the Gift of Dreams Fulfilled! *******************

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September 15, 2019

“Think of one person in your world you’ve been meaning to connect with: to get to know better or to actually make time for.  Surprise them: write them a note, find time to talk, or tell them about something that made you think of them.  Ask them about something they enjoy, and find out why they like it….” – From the book The Happiness Hack

Honest, thoughtful, clear communication creates the foundation for fulfilling, lasting personal and business relationships.  Those bonds, in turn, become the foundation for our success in life. And whether you realize it or not, people really DO notice how you behave when you communicate (or don’t) and judge you by your words AND actions.

Over my fifteen years of coaching, I have witnessed a number of less-than-optimal communication “manners” among my clients that I know can limit their success. So want to share with you, too, a few practical tips for making your own communication habits more effective, successful and enjoyable:

  • Give them your undivided attention. When I coach, I sit at my desk, listening intently and taking notes about what my clients are saying, occasionally taking a sip of water (as quietly as possible) when my throat gets dry. Most of them give me their undivided attention, too.  But over the years, I have heard some clients banging pots and pans, running water, dragging furniture, chewing gum (or food) and slurping beverages. I often wonder if they do the same things while talking to their customers, colleagues and loved ones. The message this sends to your conversation partner is that “You are not important enough to me to give you my undivided attention.”  So please don’t multi-task while you are on the phone. (And PLEASE don’t be looking at or on your phone in the presence of someone you are supposed to be paying attention to – including your kids!)
  • Don’t avoid a conversation. Many of my clients are used to texting or messaging their friends, customers and prospects. Rarely do they pick up the phone, even if the conversation is likely to have extended back and forth questions and answers. If you want to speak to someone, CALL them and leave a voice mail if they don’t pick up.  In this text-happy world, leaving a voice message conveys to your listener that they matter SO much to you that you actually wanted to have a real conversation them! One of my clients who took my advice to CALL her prospects reported that the ratio of replies she got was triple what her texts had always garnered.  REMINDER: texting is to be avoided at all costs when you have a complicated or difficult situation to work through with someone.  One of my clients had a minor issue blow up into a huge dramatic to-do because she tried to handle it via text instead of talking it out with the other party.  Your positive energy rubs off on others when you use your VOICE, not typed words on a screen.
  • Answer messages promptly. Do unto others what you would have them do unto you. If you want your teammates, customers, prospects and loved ones to return YOUR messages, ask yourself how promptly YOU respond to emails, texts and voice mails. Many of my clients complain about lack of response from others, but when I send them an urgent or critical email, I have learned to put PLEASE RESPOND in capital letters in the subject line – and some of them still never answer. Causing other people to wonder and worry about whether you got their message or something is wrong between you will not make them enjoy communicating with you.  Is your voice mailbox full?  Do you have a week’s worth of emails or 20 texts you haven’t looked at?  If you don’t respond to others in a timely manner, the Law of Attraction (“energy attracts like energy”) dictates that others will not respond to YOU.
  • Keep your word. This is the #1 MUST for effective communication.  If you made an appointment to meet someone at Starbucks and then just didn’t show up, you can imagine how they will react!  Is it any less of an affront if you stand them up for a phone appointment they planned on and made time for?  As soon as you realize that you are running late or can’t make it, CALL or at least text them.  They will forgive you if you apologize and give a BRIEF explanation (not a rambling, self-serving excuse). But if they call and you are just not there, they will get the message loud and clear that they don’t matter much to you.
  • Be clear and concise. Don’t beat around the bush with a long preamble or let yourself wander off on tangents containing lots of details that are not important to your central message.  Trying to follow your meandering thoughts, waiting for you to get to the point, wears out your listener and assures they will tune you out and just pretend to be listening.  A tell-tale sign that you are inserting too many inconsequential details into your speaking is if you regularly interrupt yourself with “Well, anyway….” Or “Long story short….”  My favorite reminder to stick to the point comes from my friend and mentor Leslie Zann, a talented speaker and ace trainer for the network marketing/direct sales industry.  Leslie always teaches, “If it’s not necessary to say, it’s necessary NOT to say it.”

I hope these communication tips will help you to create relationships built on mutual trust, honesty and respect. Those are bonds that last and will bring you rich rewards!

*****************Give Yourself the Gift of Dreams Fulfilled *****************

To schedule a no-obligation, F*R*E*E* HOUR of phone coaching that will help you clarify your Big Goals and get into ACTION on making them a reality, please email me TODAY at caroll@practicalprosperitycoach.com.