“The more you recognize and express gratitude for the things you have, the more things you will have to express gratitude for.” – Zig Ziglar

This blog is the 200th I have written. Time does fly when you are having fun! I published my first Cup of Caroll in 2008 and after writing about 100, I took a prolonged, but necessary, break and re-started it with fresh enthusiasm in March 2013.

Before I share this week’s topic, I must pause and sincerely thank my cherished readers for your loyalty and for passing the blog along to your many friends, family members and colleagues. I may never meet you personally, but I strive to contribute to your success and happiness in my own small way.

This summer there has been a major increase in readership, so I thought my newer readers might like to know some “fun facts” about A Cup of Caroll:

  • It takes me about four hours to write, edit and publish each blog. I usually do this on Saturday afternoon, right before Sunday’s publication. Sometimes I have only a vague idea (or no idea) of what I’m going to write about until I sit down in front of the computer.
  • The wide-ranging topics come from three main sources: Books, articles and other resources I have found useful and think my readers will also find helpful; my own experiences; and my clients’ experiences.
  • I require that all my current coaching clients read the blog. This is not due to vanity, but because the topics provide essential information about how to make their lives more purposeful, joyful, successful and prosperous. I cannot possibly share the same life lesson with forty different clients each week! Most of my clients say reading the blog is like getting a bonus coaching session each week.
  • Over 400 readers currently subscribe to this free blog. I am very happy to know that it also gives people who are not my clients the same useful information for manifesting their Big Goals and living a fulfilling life as my paying clients receive. This is part of my mission to pay forward all the invaluable training and support I have been blessed to receive from masterful authors, coaches, mentors and teachers throughout my life.
  • In an effort to walk my talk, I now publish the blog three Sundays each month, instead of weekly. I coach my clients that it is essential to take at least ONE DAY OFF each week, in order to balance work and precious family time and “Me” time. A refreshed, relaxed mind is a much more productive mind!

Now to this week’s blog topic, which came to me courtesy of a client who is struggling with mounting negative feelings about her “day job” and the perceived lack of support she gets from her husband, as she strives to build a financially and emotionally rewarding career in network marketing.

The more enthusiastic she gets about her new business, the more she resents her current job. She finds it stressful and unfulfilling, and believes it steals precious hours and energy she could be devoting to her new business. Nevertheless, her current reality is that her new business is not yet able to pay all the bills and support her family. Her impatience has also led her to resent her husband for not doing more to help her escape the shackles of her day job.

Fortunately, she recognizes that her feelings toward her day job and her husband are adversely affecting her new business. It’s impossible to compartmentalize our thoughts and feelings (AKA our “energy”), no matter how hard we try. Like gravity, the Law of Attraction is always at work, causing “energy to attract like energy.” If she feels resentful, impatient and worried about other aspects of her life, her negative energy will inevitably attract more people and circumstances that will make her feel the same way. And wonderful prospective customers and business partners will subliminally register her negative energy and be repelled, rather than attracted, by it.

My client asked me what she could do to transform her negative feelings about her current work and her husband’s apparent lack of drive. Here are the suggestions I gave her:

  • Keep your eyes on the prize. Whatever we focus our attention/energy on will grow stronger. Focusing on what you hate about your current situation is only going to give you more to hate. Focus instead on vividly imagining (visualizing) what you WANT your life to be like when you reach your Big Goal. That will put the Law of Attraction to work for you – calling in the right people, resources and ideas to make it happen faster.
  • Constantly remind yourself that your current situation is only temporary. My client has already attracted a serious business builder to her Team who is off to a flying start. If she simply continues to support this Fast Starter and share the business opportunity with as many people as possible, she will attract MORE Fast Starters and her business will begin to gain momentum.   She can’t know exactly when it will be ready for “lift off,” but it could be much sooner than she expects.   Trust that everything is working out just as it should and believe that Divine Timing is always perfect timing!
  • Be grateful for everything and everyone in your life right now. Whatever we are grateful for expands. If we want MORE good things to come to us, we have to express gratitude for what we have right NOW. If you are grateful for the one dollar you have in your wallet, you will soon attract ten, a hundred, a thousand more. If you say, “All I’ve got is one lousy dollar! I’ll never have enough,” you are telling God/the Universe, “Money obviously makes me unhappy, so please don’t send me any more!”
  • The fastest, easiest way to feel happier about what you have in your life right now is to get out a blank page and list everything you can think of to be grateful for about your job, your home, your significant other whatever or whomever you are currently unhappy with. This allows you to stand back from the situation and realize that there are many more GOOD things about it than bad. Even the negative aspects are actually positives because they can help you develop the skills and strengths necessary to get what you really want.
  • So, I recommended that my client list 50 things she was grateful for about her current job – e.g., it pays the bills, sends her kids to school, puts a roof over her and her family’s heads, puts food on the table, introduces her to good people (and possible new business prospects!), etc. etc. etc. She can be grateful that her current job has provided everything she has needed up to now, and when she is 100% ready, her new career will provide even MORE of what she desires and deserves. (Oh, and I told her to list 50 things she is grateful for about her husband, too.)

I know that my client is 100% coachable and committed to succeeding in her new business. Therefore, I expect her to take on this assignment with gusto. If she does, I predict that she will discover MORE than 50 things to appreciate about her job and her husband. Most of my clients who have done this exercise report that once they start, they get on a roll and can’t stop at just 50 gratitudes! (One who was incarcerated for a time sent me a list of 100 things he was grateful for – in prison! He is now free, and happily building a productive life and serving as a great role model for his young son.)

If my client does this exercise, she will be channeling positive energy toward her great NEW business opportunity and feeling renewed love and appreciation for her precious family. In recognizing how very blessed her life is right NOW, she is putting the Law of Attraction to work for her and doing something very practical and powerful to help her reach her Big Goal with maximum speed and ease!

****************** The Gift of Dreams Fulfilled! ********************

I invite you to offer someone you care about a truly unique gift that can change their life — ONE HOUR of Personal Success Coaching! It is absolutely F*R*E*E* of charge, with no obligation and no strings attached! And if YOU haven’t coached with me in awhile and would like a “tune up” session please give yourself this gift!

To schedule a F*R*E*E* HOUR of phone coaching that will help clarify your Big Goals and get you into ACTION to make this the BEST year yet, please email me at caroll@practicalprosperitycoach.com or call toll-free 888-503-8145.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

“Success is not final, failure is not fatal. It is the courage to continue that counts.” – Winston Churchill

Nobody likes to fail. No one likes to hear “NO.” But as Mr. Churchill said, “failure is not fatal.”   A “NO” that closes one door to a Big Dream will open a door to something EVEN better — if you are willing to stay the course.

At the end of last month, a number of my coaching clients in the same Network Marketing skin care company were going after some exciting incentive goals. Three of these Leaders were within sight of achieving the top sales goal that would win them a trip to an exclusive resort in Mexico.

Unfortunately, what happened to all of them just days before the end of the contest was that several customers they had counted on for an order and potential business partners who had promised to sign up that month told them “No.” When those doors unexpectedly slammed in their faces, they each got a precious gift:   The chance to see what they were really made of as Leaders and role models for their Teams. Were they going to fold just short of the goal line or were they going to find a way to do it anyway?

I kept coaching them from the sidelines, reminding them to keep their belief strong and Expect the Best. Their commitment was to winning the contest, not being attached to a specific “How.” They kept their focus on the goal and all of them experienced some delightful mini-miracles at the 11th hour. Being unstoppable, they got creative and did things like calling customers who had already ordered that month and asked them if there was anything else they might like … And several said “Yes”!

But even more gratifying, some brand new customers spontaneously reached out to THEM saying, “It’s time to get some things for my Mom” or “I am finally ready to join your business now.” All three of them reached their Big Goal in the last hours of the month and felt elated, amazed and triumphant as they did!

If they had given up when their own Plan A didn’t work out, they would have missed the opportunity to grow as Leaders, deepen their faith and marvel at the perfect Plan “B” (for “Better”) that God/The Universe had cooked up for them. Their personal growth would not have occurred from taking the predictable path to success.

Another client had a similar experience with an even bigger-stakes goal. A good friend promised her several years ago that when he retired, he would sell her his house “as is” at a below-market price.   The housing market in her area is very expensive and quite competitive, so this looked like the best chance for her to fulfill her Big Dream of turning her family from renters into home owners.

Finally, the time had come. The friend was retiring. My client and her husband went over to look at the house and saw that it needed work. The interior had not been renovated much, but it had “good bones” and they planned to fix it up over time as their financial picture improved.

Problem was, the friend’s wife understandably wanted to make sure they got what the house was worth for their retirement, so she consulted a Realtor and learned they could get $60,000 MORE for it than the price her husband had promised to my client. So the friend said he was very sorry, but he had to renege on his offer, unless of course, they had the extra $60,000? Nope.

To top it off, the very same day, the owner of the house her family is renting told them she was going to sell too, and they had just 60 days to move out!

HUGE door slam in the face, right? At first, my client was understandably hurt by the “back stabbing” friend and shocked that God/The Universe had let them get into a situation like this. But she quickly got back into her rock-solid BELIEF and re-focused her energy on her Big Goal of home ownership. She and her husband found a great Realtor of their own, who immediately introduced them to a lender that offered them a much bigger loan than they thought they were qualified for. They started looking at better houses right away, all the while packing up their rental home.

They really liked the first property they saw.   It was much newer and nicer than the friend’s house and seemed like a good fit for their family’s needs. They put in an offer right away…and were immediately outbid by $10,000. Yet, my client never wavered in her faith, but kept expecting something EVEN better to come their way.

It did. They found a second house that was better than the one they just lost out on, with lots of desirable amenities and a lovely yard. They offered over asking price and while they waited for a response, they went to see yet another property that had just come on the market. It was located between two streets that were BOTH named for her daughter – one her given name and one her nickname!

Elated, she texted me, “I felt so comfortable the minute I walked in. This is my Dream Home!” So they put in a second offer on that one, too, and waited anxiously to hear back. Their agent tried to reach the listing agent, but got no response for several days. In the meantime, their offer on the other house was accepted. I thought, “Well, then that is the one that must be the BEST for them because that is what God/The Universe guided them to.”

She was happy they were getting a nice home, but her heart still REALLY yearned for the Dream Home between the streets named after her daughter. She kept claiming “The Best” would work out for them and visualizing her family living happily in that home. She never gave up on her strong belief that it was meant for her family.

Finally, the same day they were about to sign the deal on the other house, the “silent” listing agent contacted her agent to say that the owners of her #1 Dream Home had accepted their offer. They got everything they wanted at $30,000 LESS than the other house. Escrow will close exactly when they need to move from their rental. Within two weeks, my client went from being a displaced renter to becoming a thrilled home OWNER — never imagining it could happen so quickly or perfectly for them.

This is what I have seen play out time and again in my own life and the lives of over 500 coaching clients I have been privileged to help reach their dreams during the past 10 + years: NO is not the end of the line. NO is just the start of something even better. As Winston Churchill also once said, we must “Never, never, never give up.” 

****************** The Gift of Dreams Fulfilled! ********************

I invite you to offer someone you care about a truly unique gift that can change their life — ONE HOUR of Personal Success Coaching! It is absolutely F*R*E*E* of charge, with no obligation and no strings attached! And if YOU haven’t coached with me in awhile and would like a “tune up” session please give yourself this gift!

To schedule a F*R*E*E* HOUR of phone coaching that will help clarify your Big Goals and get you into ACTION to make this the BEST year yet, please email me at caroll@practicalprosperitycoach.com or call toll-free 888-503-8145.

 

“Visualize this thing you want. See it, feel it, believe in it.   Make your mental blueprint and begin.” – Robert Collier

One of the most powerful tools for turning any Big Dream into a reality is absolutely free and simple for anyone to use. In fact, I bet you did it naturally throughout your childhood; back then, you called it “daydreaming.” I have learned how to refine this amazingly effective technique and now teach all my clients how to use it to help them reach their goals with greater speed and ease.

If you use this tool regularly, it will unleash the power of your #1 manifestation ally, your own subconscious mind, to guide you to make even your biggest Dreams come true.

Here’s how you can visualize for maximum success:

1) Close your eyes. You can do this during the day, as though you are about to meditate, and at night when your head’s on the pillow and you are relaxing into sleep.

2) Use your imagination to see in your “mind’s eye” the thing want to have — your dream car, dream home, perfect career, deluxe tropical vacation, new romantic partner, a specific sum of money – anything you are committed to having. It’s fine that you don’t know HOW to get it right now, because that’s not YOUR job. Your job is just to be as specific and detailed as possible about exactly what you want.

Some things can be easily imagined, such as your dream car. You should know the make and model you want, the color of the exterior and interior and all the bells and whistles on the dashboard and other interior features. If you don’t, you really should go to a dealer and test drive your dream car!   But if that’s not practical, at least go online and find a detailed picture.   Be sure it shows exactly the color that you want because if you want a red one and you test drive or study a picture of a black one, you are going to get a BLACK one!

For something like your Dream Job, you may not know exactly what industry you want to be in. That’s perfectly OK. Simply set up your visualization so that you are visualizing the kind of environment you want to work in – whether it’s a big, bright corner office with a city view or somewhere in the great outdoors. You can imagine friendly co-workers laughing with you as you walk together down the hall without being able to see the details of their faces. For your Mr. or Ms. Right visualization, you might set up a scene you would like to live out with them, such as the two of you holding hands and walking side by side down the beach surrounded by a glorious sunset.

3) Simply using your sense of sight isn’t enough, though. You must get ALL of your other physical senses involved in your visualization: Imagine TOUCHING the buttery leather seats, SMELLING that unique new-car smell, HEARING the quiet rumble of the engine while your favorite tunes play on the state-of-the-art sound system. Make it an IMAX, Sensurround kind of an imagination scenario!

CRITICAL NOTE: John Assaraf, one of the Master Manifesters featured in The Secret DVD about using the Law of Attraction to manifest big dreams, teaches this important tip for success: He says an “amateur” would visualize himself driving his dream car as though he were someone else, standing across the street looking at “himself” driving. Unfortunately, that doesn’t really make your subconscious mind BELIEVE your dream is REAL. And it must BELIEVE it is real in order to help you get it.

The way your brain is accustomed to seeing the real world around you is looking through YOUR eyeballs. So you should practice visualizing yourself driving your dream car as though you are inside your own body, sitting in the driver’s seat. You can see your hands on the steering wheel, your knees below you, and your foot on the gas, but can’t see your own face (unless you are smiling at yourself in the rear view mirror, of course). That’s how the “masters” like Assaraf visualize their way to success.

4) Here’s the true “trigger” that gets your new car Dream moving toward manifestation: Besides engaging all your physical senses in your visualization, you also have to FEEL it emotionally. How would you FEEL if you really did have that car? You undoubtedly would feel JOY, FREEDOM, FULFILLMENT, and most of all, you would feel GRATEFUL, wouldn’t you? You truly can conjure up those feelings (with a little practice) just by using your imagination.

If you do this visualization technique for just five minutes or so twice a day — once in the morning before you leave the house and again as you drift off to sleep, you are telling your subconscious mind with your FOCUS and your FEELINGS that this Big Dream is “real” to you. And it will do everything it can to make it a reality in your life so the men in the white coats won’t come and put you in the straightjacket!

You see, your subconscious mind believes everything you tell it. It can’t take a joke, it doesn’t understand sarcasm or irony. You tell it something is real, and it BELIEVES you. And your subconscious mind is also like a giant computer that has stored away absolutely everything you have ever experienced, heard, seen, read – ALL of that is in the “vault” in your brain, just waiting to be called up when needed.

You can’t always call up this deeply stored information with your conscious mind. But if you set it to the task and then relax, your subconscious mind can retrieve the facts you need. And it can also “connect the dots” of all that varied information to figure out some NEW and innovative ways to go after something that your conscious mind never would have thought of. That’s how thoughts become things — through the inspiration that comes from the subconscious mind.

Dr. of Psychology and author Wayne Dyer, who is the #1 Master Manifester in my opinion, says that whatever we fall asleep thinking about stays in our subconscious for the next four hours. Your subconscious works and works on it, until it finds a solution for whatever conundrum you are thinking about. That’s why you can wake up with an inspired new approach to a problem you have been wrestling with or in the shower, suddenly remember exactly where you left a lost object. Your subconscious can also guide you with new, inspired ideas to help you make that little red sports car a reality.

One of my clients recently was looking for a nanny/housekeeper to help with her young daughter. One day, she saw an unexpected “vision” in her mind of a smiling middle-aged Hispanic woman, standing behind her kitchen island, happily preparing a meal while listening to Spanish songs on the radio. She couldn’t explain why, but she just FELT in her heart this woman was going to be her nanny/housekeeper.

She interviewed several applicants by phone, but none of them was a good fit.   Finally, she spoke to one who sounded perfect and my client invited her to come to the house for an interview.   My client was surprised to find that she looked very much like the middle-aged Latina in her vision. After a great interview, she hired her.

On the woman’s first day, my client walked into the kitchen and found her happily working behind the kitchen island with her lively Spanish songs playing on the radio. “It was exactly how I had pictured it,” she told me.   “It’s positively freaky!”

No, it’s visualization!

****************** The Gift of Dreams Fulfilled! ********************

I invite you to offer someone you care about a truly unique gift that can change their life — ONE HOUR of Personal Success Coaching! It is absolutely F*R*E*E* of charge, with no obligation and no strings attached! And if YOU haven’t coached with me in awhile and would like a “tune up” session please give yourself this gift!

To schedule a F*R*E*E* HOUR of phone coaching that will help clarify your Big Goals and get you into ACTION to make this the BEST year yet, please email me at caroll@practicalprosperitycoach.com or 888-503-8145.