Belief and Focus


January 19, 2020

“Goals are the fuel in the furnace of achievement.  The bigger your goals and clearer they are, the more excited you become about achieving them. The more you think about your goals, the greater becomes your inner drive and desire to accomplish them. – from WalktheTalk.com

I hope you have taken some time to complete the powerful exercises from the last two blogs.  The Reflection Exercise (January 5 Blog #359) asks you some probing questions to consider so you can decide what worked and didn’t work for you in the past year and what you want to have and do in the new year ahead.  Once you mentally and emotionally complete 2019 and identify your key life lessons from it, you are ready to move forward with passion and enthusiasm to make your 2020 even better.

The New Year Creation exercise (January 12 Blog #360) gives you the opportunity to envision how you want your 2020 to be in all the areas of life that are most important to YOU personally – health, relationships, career, family, travel, finances, spirituality, etc.  Writing down your Big Goals gives them real power, because it tells God/The Universe and your subconscious mind exactly what you want, so they can figure out the HOW for you to get them. It builds your excitement and all-important BELIEF that you WILL get them – because you start each specific vision statement with “I am so grateful that…” like it’s already a DONE DEAL.

Of course, not everything that you write down will come to pass and your Big Goals are not all equally important to you.  But I have been doing these two exercises for the past 15 years and I am consistently impressed that about 80 percent of the Big Goals I write down for my life in January become my reality by the time I check on them again in December, even if I had forgotten writing some them!

Last week was the beginning of one of my own Biggest Goals for 2020: A free webinar I presented about how I found and have proven for myself that there is a NEW Success Formula for manifesting any Big Goal with greater speed and ease than you might imagine is possible.

The OLD Success Formula that I had been teaching my clients for the past 15 years was good, but it worked better for some people than others.  Last September, I serendipitously was led to the “missing link” that turned it into a brand new FOUR STEPS to SUCCESS Formula.  I have been using it myself and teaching it to my private coaching clients for about four months now, and I can tell you it really WORKS.

The free Zoom class I presented on January 13 (which I have been creating and promoting since the Holidays) is the launch of a six-part mastermind/webinar I will be teaching in February and March.  The free introductory one hour class explains what the FOUR STEPS to SUCCESS are.  The six-part mastermind/seminar that begins on Tuesday February 4 will teach each participant exactly HOW to put this four-step NEW Success Formula into practice to reach a heartfelt Big Goal that they would like to have by the end of the first quarter of 2020.

If you missed the free one-hour class and would like to learn ALL the details of the FOUR STEPS to SUCCESS system, here is the replay link:

https://zoom.us/rec/share/-uMsf7jQ00NLeoH8xnD2RZYiH6fJeaa82yQf-qEPy0lLMGLqSmJ-KIF4JDk1Wn_Q

To recap briefly, the old system had three steps for manifesting anything you want using the power of the Law of Attraction (“energy attracts like energy”) to help you reach a Big Goal:

  • STEP ONE: ASK for what you want, clearly and specifically. God/The Universe and your subconscious mind need to be clear on what you want if they are going to figure out the best, more efficient HOW for getting it for you.
  • STEP TWO: BELIEVE that you are going to get it. You MUST believe that your dream will become a reality.  It’s the toughest part of the system for most of us, because our Old, Limiting Beliefs get in the way.  Our Egos are constantly telling us why we CAN’T accomplish our Big Goals, based on their interpretation of things that have happened to stop us in the past or what someone else has told us about their experience, trying to convince us that the same fate will befall us if we pursue that goal.  Fortunately, despite what your Ego thinks, our BELIEFS are not the “Truth” – they are just an interpretation of specific events that have happened to us in the past.  Just because something happened to us before does NOT mean that the same things will inevitably  happen the same way if we try again – especially if we try again with a New Empowering Belief to give us confidence to take the actions that God/The Universe is directing us to take.
  • STEP THREE: RECEIVE I used to interpret this third step of the Old Success Formula to mean “Receive the Goal you are after.” Now, I have learned that it really is just the third of the FOUR STEPS to Success.  It’s not the endgame.  It’s the all-important step where your Higher Power gives you the HOW – the inspired ideas, resources, inner urges to be in the right place at the right time, connections to the right people, etc. — that will guide you to take the right ACTIONS which will lead you to a successful outcome.

I think my favorite positive thought minister, Joel Osteen, explains it perfectly: If your vision is limited, your life will be limited.  Dare to get a fresh, new vision of victory for your life and trust God to bring it to pass.  You don’t have to figure out how it’s going to happen.  All you have to do is believe.  One touch of God’s favor can bring any dream to pass.  But you have to see it on the inside before it will ever come to pass on the outside.”

  • STEP FOUR: The NEW Step Four is “ACHIEVE” After you get the specific guidance from your Higher Power as to the BEST course of action to take, you must TAKE ACTION on those Divine leads, and  then you will ACHIEVE any Big Goal that you pursue using this system.

The game-changing tool that I explain in some detail in the free class is having a focused, DAILY collaboration with your Higher Power.  During this brief morning journaling session, you express GRATITUDE IN ADVANCE to your Higher Power for giving you the leads/directions (AKA: the HOW) that will enable you to fulfill the specific Big Goals you are after, in multiple areas of your life at the same time.

The ideal format for this daily Divine collaboration came to me when I unexpectedly ran across May McCarthy’s amazing little paperback book, The Gratitude Formula. She has been using her own specific form of gratitude-in-advance journaling to connect to her Higher Power (or “Chief Spiritual Officer” as she whimsically calls hers) nearly every day for the past three decades.  It has made her a highly successful serial entrepreneur with seven different companies collectively valued at over $110 million.  She attributes her enormous success to the daily “leads” she gets from her CSO that guide her with the ideas and connections to solve any personal or professional problem and achieve any Big Goal in any area of her life.  (If you choose, you could use it as a practical tool to put some of the Visions you wrote in your New Year Creation 2020 into ACTION, so you can make them a reality.)

After I read her book last fall, I decided to prove it for myself by setting several specific Big Goals. They had audacious time deadlines that seemed far-fetched at the time, but I was amazed that I reached them all.  Then I began sharing the Gratitude Formula with my private coaching clients and they, too, had outstanding success with it.

That’s when I decided that I MUST share with a wider audience the new FOUR STEPS to SUCCESS System, which incorporates the key tool of the Gratitude Formula to help you get the HOW.  I hope you will listen to the replay ASAP and check it out for yourself.  If you have some BIG GOALS of your own that you want to achieve this year, but you don’t know HOW you will be able to do it, this course is for YOU! As May McCarthy says, “Success isn’t a Secret.  It’s a System.”  Yes it is!  And YOU can learn to master it too!

Check out the free video recording:

https://zoom.us/rec/share/-uMsf7jQ00NLeoH8xnD2RZYiH6fJeaa82yQf-qEPy0lLMGLqSmJ-KIF4JDk1Wn_Q

At the end of the one-hour presentation, I give all the details on the six-hour Success Formula 2020 Course that begins Tuesday at 6pm PST February 4 and ends Tuesday March 17 (with one Tuesday off on February 25). All six one-hour classes will be recorded so you don’t have to be on all the live calls.  If you are interested in registering or have questions, please email me ASAP so you can get the Early Bird discount.

Whether you join us or not, know that I wish you UNLIMITED Success in 2020 and far beyond!

IMPORTANT NOTE: The blog will be taking the next two weeks off to give you time to finish your Reflections and New Year Creation exercises and for me to continue my preparations for the Success Formula 2020 course.  Watch for your next Cup of Caroll on Sunday February 9

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****************** Give the Gift of Dreams Fulfilled! ********************

Give a friend, colleague or loved one a truly unique gift that can get their 2020 off to a great start — ONE HOUR of Personal Success Coaching.  It is absolutely F*R*E*E* with no obligation and no strings attached!  You can give this to as many people who will really appreciate it as you wish.  (If you haven’t been in coaching with me for awhile, feel free to claim it for YOURSELF, too!)

To schedule a F*R*E*E* HOUR of phone coaching that will help them clarify their Big Goals for the New Year and get into ACTION to make this their BEST year yet, have them email me at caroll@practicalprosperitycoach.com to schedule their session.  

 

January 12, 2020

“When you know that you are in charge of your intentions, then you will come to know that you are in charge of the entire world.” – Wayne Dyer

In the last blog, we discussed the importance of completing your old year before you attempt to create your new year the way you want it to be.  Once you have released any disappointments, lingering resentments, incompletions and regrets over what did or didn’t happen for you last year, you are ready to CO-create (with God/The Universe) an even better new year for yourself.

I have been doing a New Year Creation exercise every year since 2004. I can’t say every year turned out exactly the way I had envisioned in every area of my life. Still, as I re-read each New Year’s Eve what I had set out to create that year, I was consistently amazed to find that much of what I truly wanted did come true.

By the way, if you haven’t yet completed the “Reflections Exercise” from last week’s blog (Learn from Your Past – Blog 359) to help you powerfully complete 2019, identify your main lessons from it, and create the mental and emotional space for a year of new manifestations, please take all the time you need to finish it before you begin this next step. You can find it in the blog archives on my website.

CREATING YOUR NEW YEAR

Once you have completed the old, you are ready and receptive to a brand new year of co-creating your life to be how YOU want it to be!  Every January, my coaching clients use this very effective technique for creating their year on their own terms, rather than passively waiting to see how it all “turns out.” As hundreds of them have proven, you CAN ask for what you want – and get it!

And NO, I am not suggesting that the Divine Plan for your life doesn’t matter!  I personally believe that in order to manifest our highest good, we must first ASK God/The Universe clearly and specifically for what we want, and then know that if it is good for us and doesn’t harm anyone else, we will be shown HOW to get it.  You can trust that if God/The Universe has different plans for you, you will be guided to fulfill them and they will be EVEN better than the ones you suggested!

STEP ONE: Create a THEME for the year. How you would like this year show to up for your life?  Make it catchy so you can remember it on a daily basis. Last year, my theme was “2019: My Year of Freedom, Success and Contribution” and I am happy to say that it turned out to be that! My coaching practice grew from many happy clients’ referrals and my third annual Summer Prosperity Camp brought me increased prosperity and helped my participants break through their former barriers to success.

My theme for this new year is “2020: The Year of Living My Highest Purpose” because I want to expand my avenues for sharing Law of Attraction prosperity principles with even more people in new and bigger ways. It’s already starting to look like that with many people being referred and signing up for my free webinar on Monday about the NEW Success Formula I have discovered for 2020. 

STEP TWO: Create a list of personal qualities to describe how YOU want to show up in the world this year. State it in the present tense, as though it’s already a fact. Here’s mine: “In 2020, I am a richly-rewarded Messenger of Limitless Peace, Prosperity and Progress: Magnetic, Confident, Peaceful, Joyous, Patient, Empowering, Faith-Filled, Loving and Giving. I attract effortlessly WHO I AM and what I desire.” 

By declaring who you are in writing, you will automatically begin to become this person. The qualities and attributes you begin to embody will then attract the right people and resources to manifest your Big Dreams with ease.  As the Law of Attraction states, “energy attracts like energy.”  So whatever qualities you cultivate in yourself will show up in those who will be attracted to you – in business, friendship, romantic relationship – everywhere!

STEP THREE: List the main areas of life that are important to you.  Then simply state what you desire to have in each area this year.  Remember, you do not have to know HOW you are going to get those desires fulfilled!  Each dream you list is simply a declaration to God/the Universe that this is what you desire – stated in the present tense, with GRATITIDE, as though it’s already happened(NOTE: This “gratitude in advance” wording is a really important part of the format!)

Declaring “I am so grateful that…” and then describing what you desire tells your own subconscious mind that you believe 100% that it is going to happen – in fact, it’s ALREADY a done deal, as far as you are concerned.  You BELIEVE that God/the Universe will figure out the HOW and convey it to you by whatever means He/It chooses. It’s your job to remain open and alert for Divine Direction and then take ACTION when you get those Divine “leads.”  Believing in your dreams being fulfilled before you see any tangible evidence is key to making them a reality.

EXAMPLE YEAR CREATION

Last year, one of my clients created an outstandingly simple, clear and powerful Year Creation – all on a single page, which is much shorter than my own!  I share it as an example of what the format looks like when complete.

Remember, the areas of life she wrote about were the most important to HER that year; your Big Dreams may be in different areas, which is perfectly fine. If you see something in hers that you would like too, feel free to “borrow” it for your own!

2019: The year of Growth, Grace and Grit 

In 2019, I am a vehicle for dreams to be achieved and goals to be attained: Joyful, Confident, Determined, Enthusiastic, Graceful, Insightful, Loving and Unstoppable. I attract effortlessly WHO I AM and what I love.

I AM SO GRATEFUL THAT…. 

Love and Family: I love spending time with my husband and daughters learning about the world. We vacation often and have incredible trips where we learn, enjoy and explore amazingness. We have time to enjoy each other and be fully present, but we also take time for ourselves. We love each other deeply, have thoughtful conversations, celebrate our success and help each other thru the failures.

Business:  I am so grateful for the excitement, challenges and rewards that my Rodan + Fields business gives to me every day. I am the leader of an amazing team and have very loyal customers who feel appreciated. I get time every day to work and inspire the men and women on my team.  It will be a source of joy that radiates into every aspect of my life including my primary career. At convention, I am wearing my blue, blingy lanyard and I am so thrilled to be a part of the leadership summit!!

Friendship: My friends are so very important for me. I have time every day to check in on everyone – a phone call or a series of texts. I’m so very grateful for their love and humor!  We find time at least once a month to all go out together for dinner or movies and drinks! We are there to support each other through hard times and celebrations!

Health: I am eating healthier and feeling great. My morning walks are a time for ME. Sometimes it is for reflection, listening to a podcast or an early morning phone call with a friend on the east coast. I wake up every morning excited to go out and hit the road. My husband is cooking fantastic meals!

Self-Care: My mental state is clear and focused; my stress levels are low. I am able to attend my monthly meetings with other women entrepreneurs where we can help each other with whatever we need in life and in our businesses. I take time to read 30 minutes every day in peace and quiet. I have conversations with friends who feel similarly to me about what we learn, feel and think.  The laws of attraction are so present in my life that it is a natural part of my time – all of the time. 

What matters most to YOU right now? 

Think of your New Year Creation exercise like a Vision Board that uses words instead of pictures. Nothing is required of you. You don’t have to make an action plan or a to-do list from the heartfelt intentions you wrote! All you have to do is EXPRESS GRATITUDE IN ADVANCE to God/the Universe for it and BELIEVE it will show up for you at the perfect time and in the perfect way.

Some of my clients like to read their New Year Creation at the beginning of each week or the first of a new month. I read mine just a few times during the year, just to stay connected to it. But you could put yours away in a drawer and not take it out until next New Years — and you will be amazed that your own subconscious mind has been conspiring with your Divine Co-Creator throughout the year to create opportunities for you to make your Big Dreams a reality.

That’s the Law of Attraction in action! So don’t delay — The BEST year of your life (so far) is just waiting for you to create it!

REMINDER: Monday evening January 13 (tomorrow) is my F.R.E.E. one-hour webinar on the FOUR STEPS to the NEW Success Formula for making your Big Goals a reality in 2020!  If you would like to attend the Zoom class live with us at 6pm Pacific OR request the replay the next day, just email me ASAP with your NAME and EMAIL and I will send you the link or phone number if you are dialing in.  You are welcome to invite a friend or teammate as well — The more, the merrier!

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****************** Give the Gift of Dreams Fulfilled! ********************

This New Year, give a friend, colleague or loved one a truly unique gift that can change their life — ONE HOUR of Personal Success Coaching.  It is absolutely F*R*E*E* with no obligation and no strings attached!  You can give this to as many people who will really appreciate it as you wish.  (If you haven’t been in coaching with me for awhile, feel free to claim it for YOURSELF, too!)

To schedule a F*R*E*E* HOUR of phone coaching that will help them clarify their Big Goals for the New Year and get into ACTION to make this their BEST year yet, have them email me at caroll@practicalprosperitycoach.com to schedule their session.  

 

 

October 27, 2019

“The Law of Forced Efficiency says, ‘There is never enough time to do everything, but there is always enough time to do the most important thing.’” – Brian Tracy

This quote really rings true for me today.  It seems like my To-Do list gets longer each weekend, just when I long for some rejuvenating down time. (I did take a little of that last week, as you will recall from the “Fun Creates Success” blog, and it was glorious!)

I always have chores to do and errands to run on the weekends, and I usually spend at least a couple of hours on writing, editing and publishing the blog. There is always a good amount of paperwork and tasks to do for my coaching practice.  And today, on top of all that, I spent my morning attending a volunteer orientation to prepare for next Saturday’s big fundraiser for my favorite grassroots rescue organization, The Little Red Dog (www.thelittlereddog.com), where we have adopted two beloved four-footed family members.

I am sure you have your own very long To-Do list and can relate! The question we must ask ourselves is: “Where do I begin?”  How should you prioritize your To-Dos to make the best use of your time?

Brian Tracy is being a realist when he says that there is never enough time to do EVERYTHING you would like to accomplish. But as long as you focus on completing the MOST IMPORTANT tasks first – the ones that will make a real difference and get you closer to your own Big Goals – you will invariably go to bed each night feeling satisfied that you made the BEST possible use of your time and energy.

But HOW do you simplify your long To-Do list and choose the right things to focus on first? Here’s a helpful, simple approach that I found in a Walk The Talk daily email. I highly recommend signing up to receive your own free subscription at www.walkthetalk.com.

“The key to uncomplicating things in your life lies in increasing your ability to simplify and focus.  A first step toward simplifying and getting focused is to make a ‘let it go’ list.  Here are a few things to add to your list.  Let go of….

  • Waiting for someone else to fix it
  • Worrying about things over which you have no control
  • Trying to make something work that’s never going to
  • Wasting time with negative people
  • Hoping that the person causing a problem will miraculously change
  • Putting off the decision you know you should make right now
  • Dwelling on what’s wrong, rather than making it right.

So, what do YOU need to let go of?  Make a list, take action, and clear a space for you to get focused on what is truly important in your life.”

Amen!  This list is a great reminder that it’s not always what we DO, but sometimes what we consciously DON’T do, that can quickly bring us more ease, productivity, satisfaction and success!

PLEASE NOTE: The Blog is taking next weekend off so Rick and I can volunteer at The Little Red Dog’s Gala fundraiser to help them save more four-footed heroes who deserve a forever home.  Look for your next Cup of Caroll on Sunday, November 10.

If you would like your own free subscription to receive this blog three Sundays a month, just go to my website at https://www.practicalprosperitycoach.com and click on the Prosperity Tips button at the top.

****************** Give Yourself the Gift of Dreams Fulfilled! ********************

To schedule a no-obligation F*R*E*E* HOUR of phone coaching that will help clarify your Big Goals and get you into ACTION to make them a reality, please email me at caroll@practicalprosperitycoach.com TODAY!

 

 

 

June 9, 2019

“Most of your emotions, positive or negative, are determined by how you talk to yourself on a minute-by-minute basis.  It’s not what happens to you, but the way that you interpret the things that are happening to you that determines how you feel.” – from Eat That Frog: 21 Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time

The third annual Prosperity Summer Camp webinar is off to a great start!  All the participants have created an envelope-pushing Intention (a BIG Goal they are 100% committed to reaching on or before July 31).  The focus of the course is to teach them tools and techniques to help them reach those Intentions, even though they don’t yet know HOW they will do it.

Some of the tools I give them involve work smarter not harder strategies, but most are about learning to control their mindsetThe dictionary definition of MINDSET is “an attitude, disposition or mood.”  Synonyms for it include “mental make-up, mental processes, way of thinking, where your head is at.”

If you want to be happy AND successful, you must learn to control your mindset because your mindset conjures up emotions that, in turn, trigger the Law of Attraction (“energy attracts like energy”) to attract people, resources and circumstances that will either HELP or HINDER you from creating what you want.

You may think that whatever happens to you makes you spontaneously FEEL a certain way and there’s nothing you can do about it. Fortunately, that is far from the case! Outer circumstances do not have the power to make us FEEL any particular way.  You have the absolute power to CHOOSE how you feel and respond to whatever happens to you.

It all starts with how you choose to interpret what happens to you and the meaning you choose to give it.  That is your MINDSET in daily action.

Here are four main areas in which your MINDSET can greatly affect your EMOTIONS, which in turn, will set the Law of Attraction in motion to either move you forward or hold you back from reaching your Big Goals:

  • Negative Interpretations of what others’ words and actions mean about you

A teacher recently told me that she has been waking up every morning in a foul mood.  She didn’t seem to know exactly why, so I asked her to consider what thoughts she was having that could be triggering her negative emotions.  She answered candidly that she was disheartened that, as the final weeks of school wound down, most of her class seemed bored and mentally checked out.  She interpreted her students’ dull mood and distracted behavior to be a reflection of HER teaching skills.  She was telling herself, “If I were a better teacher, they would be more engaged and eager to learn.”

As soon as she said it, she recognized the fallacy of her chosen interpretation. She admitted that she and her students are ALL tired after a long school year, and that the subject she teaches is not a scintillating one that most students would choose unless it was required. In fact, when she was in school, it probably never crossed her mind that she herself would end up in that field!

Just shifting her interpretation of why other people were behaving in a certain way elevated her mood, and she decided to focus her attention on the students who ARE engaged and clearly appreciate her efforts to make the class interesting and useful.

As my friend and mentor Leslie Zann often says, “You are making it all up anyway, so why not make up something GOOD?” 

  • Comparing yourself to others

We know we shouldn’t, but our Egos seem to be hard-wired to do this. You MUST consciously stop yourself from doing it because it has a demoralizing effect on your energy and prevents the Law of Attraction from attracting what you want.

Moreover, your self-comparison is likely not valid, because you are inevitably comparing apples to oranges.  Anyone who seems to be doing better or going faster than you does not have the identical circumstances or background you have: They grew up with a different family dynamic, have a different education, training and/or experience, different friends and connections, and a different personality and perhaps a different MINDSET. You have nothing in common with them, except perhaps the length of time you have been going after a similar goal.  So forget about competing and concentrate instead on running your own race and making the most of your own unique skills, abilities, qualities and mindset.

  • Berating yourself (or others) for past mistakes

The most useless human emotion is guilt.  To be human is to make mistakes and feel regret. But you cannot change the past, no matter how much you wish you could. All you can do is to take full responsibility for your own mess-ups, especially those that affect others.  Sincerely and humbly apologize to anyone you have harmed by your words, actions or inactions.  Make amends if you possibly can. But even if they don’t forgive you, you must forgive yourself and move on.

Staying mentally stuck in the past prevents you from taking the positive actions that can help yourself and others today and tomorrow. Learn from your mistakes so you won’t repeat them and leave the guilt behind.

The second most useless emotion is resentment. If you want to be forgiven, you must be willing to forgive others.  That doesn’t mean you condone their actions, but you have to forgive them for YOUR sake. If you harbor resentment, anger or thirst for revenge, you are only hurting yourself, because the Law of Attraction must inevitably attract to YOU even MORE circumstances to resent.

  • Worrying about the future

Worry is a totally unhelpful mindset.  Any time you spend focusing your thoughts on the “worst case scenario” that your Ego fears might happen is wasted time that could be used to create the outcome you DO want.  You can’t hold two separate thoughts in your mind at the same time.  So if you find yourself worrying about a possible negative outcome (which let’s face it, 99 percent of the time never happens anyway), simply turn your thoughts to focusing on what you DO want, and you will be sending your powerful energy in the RIGHT direction for the Law of Attraction to help you get it.

As positive thought preacher Joel Osteen says, “Pay attention to what is playing in your mind. When you dwell on negative thoughts, you’re not going to have peace.  You have to change what you’re dwelling on.  So when the opportunity to worry comes, use it as a reminder to …. thank [God/The Universe] for His good!”

If you want to feel consistently great and create all the success you dream of, you must start right now to monitor your MINDSET closely. You have the power to generate thoughts that are going to call forth positive emotions that will make the Law of Attraction your ally in reaching your Big Goals in record time!

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*************** Give Yourself the Gift of Dreams Fulfilled******************

To schedule a no-obligation, F*R*E*E* hour of phone coaching that will help you clarify your Big Goals and get you into ACTION to make them a reality, please email me at caroll@practicalprosperitycoach.com today.

 

April 28, 2019

“What seems to be an obstacle can often be an opportunity to go in a better and more rewarding direction.  We only need to stop complaining and start looking at things with fresh eyes.  At the very worst, problems require us to become smarter, more resourceful and more determined.” – From the book How Successful People Think

Indomitable: (adj.) “Brave, determined, and impossible to defeat or frighten.”

A number of my coaching clients recently have faced some very big challenges in their lives: the death of a parent or close loved one, depression, anxiety, cancer, a parent’s stroke, serious financial hardship, a doubled work load when a colleague quit, sexual harassment, an ex-spouse trying to make their life a living hell, debilitating health challenges, an emotionally devastating court case, miscarriage, the serious illness or death of a beloved pet, and trying to find an affordable place to live closer to their work.

And yet, all of them have remained steadfast in their commitment to their personal Big Goals. How do they do it?  How do they remain strong and continue to carry on in the face of such daunting obstacles?

First and foremost, all of them have a strong faith. Whether they call it God, the Universe, Higher Power, etc. – they all believe that a force for good that is bigger than themselves wants to help them triumph.  Faith has sustained me in some of the darkest times when I could not see a light at the end of what seemed to be an endless tunnel.  I went to bed praying for strength and guidance and got up the next day and exactly what I needed was always there for me….One step at a time.

Second, they have a friend or family or support group they can lean on. It is easy to feel alone and isolated, believing you are the only one going through hell, especially when you spend time on social media reading about your peers, who seem to all be doing fine.  But you have to be willing to open up with someone you trust and ask for support.  The human Ego resists being vulnerable because it thinks showing weakness will get you killed. In truth, pretending to be OK when you are not will NOT help you overcome a challenge…. Asking for support from those you can trust WILL.

Third, they take it one day at a time.  The journey to overcoming all obstacles and reaching a Big Goal often lasts longer than you think it should, but you will eventually get there if you don’t give up.  It’s always too soon to quit.

My friend and I are on a mutual-support journey together right now to losing weight and getting fit.  It’s not easy, believe me.  For me, it’s a matter of wanting to look good and have more energy. The stakes are even higher for my friend’s health and physical comfort. We each broke our weight goal down into specific ACTIVITIES we promised to do each day, and we keep track of them and report in to each other each morning about what we did and didn’t do.  Having a daily accountability partner is one of the best forms of support you can use to help you persevere when the going gets tough.

When the scale doesn’t seem to budge after a long time of staying on track, we remind each other not to fixate on the outcome, but to focus on what we can control – our activities.  We know it is inevitable that doing the right activities MUST produce a result.  The timing isn’t in our control, but having the right mindset and doing what we said we would do IS.

Finally, you must expect the BEST.  When you are in the pit and you can’t see the way out, you can turn away from focusing on your problem and re-focus on your Big Goal. Spend time each day closing your eyes and VISUALIZING in vivid detail what life will be like when you reach it.  Remain unattached to the HOW, the WHO and the WHEN. Allow God/The Universe to do the planning and provide the guidance you need in the form of brainstorms, new insights, sudden memories, resources and people you encounter at just the right moment.  Your job is to BELIEVE and EXPECT it will happen, even when you have no idea HOW.

My husband and I suffered a huge financial setback in the Great Recession. We lost our clients, our incomes, two homes and a car.  We had to file bankruptcy and focus on just keeping a roof over our family’s heads and simply getting from one end of the month to the other. My daily focus for five solid years was putting one foot in front of the other, talking it out with friends when I felt down, and asking for specific help when I needed it. With a lot of faith and support, we survived the toughest time either of us had ever faced.  There were days I wanted to give up, but that notion never lasted.  I had too much indomitable spirit to allow any outer circumstances to defeat me.  With the support of friends and our unshakable faith that God would direct our steps, little by little, we found our footing.

After five years of steadily-growing inner strength, faith and hanging on, suddenly, everything turned around for us out of the blue.  Rick’s real estate business rebounded into one of the best years of his long career. At the same time, a single referral from a coaching colleague led me to several clients in same network marketing company, which began a string of hundreds of referrals and the greatest financial abundance I have known in my 15 years as a Personal Success Coach.

If you have an indomitable mindset, faith that your Higher Power will actively assist you, a willingness to be vulnerable and ask others for help, and the integrity to do everything you know how to do right now, I promise you, no matter how big the obstacles you face, you WILL overcome them and reach your biggest dreams.

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March 3, 2019

“What is meant to be will always find a way.” —  Trisha Yearwood

Normally, I write my blogs on Saturday and publish them the next day. But for the last blog (Convenience is Overrated – Blog 330), I wrote it a week in advance, over Presidents Day Weekend. It had been a very tough week emotionally, and trying to inspire others was not something I particularly wanted to be doing.  But I did it anyway because I had a greater purpose in mind.

Now that purpose has been fulfilled in a more wonderful way than I ever could have imagined.

As I detailed in that blog, our sweet little Chihuahua was in pain and there was little hope of recovery for her tiny 9 year old heart. We had to do the right thing, although it broke our own hearts, and we had her put to sleep on February 13.

Diamond originally came to us very unexpectedly, a few weeks after our previous canine BFF, Samantha, had died at age 16.  I felt so sad after losing Samantha, I didn’t think I could ever own a dog again, knowing we would only have it to love for a limited time.  So I decided to provide foster care for a dog, while it waited for its forever home.  But Diamond had other ideas. She and I fell hard for each other, and Rick and I became her forever parents overnight.

That was just two years and three months ago.  This time, after losing Diamond, I still grieved, but she had taught me that loving a four footed friend is not about what you hope to get, but about what you want to GIVE.  It was my desire to give unconditional love and support to that tiny living being that set the Divine HOW in motion that brought us together, and healed both my grieving heart and the neglect she had suffered in her life up to then.  I used to whisper to her, “No matter how long you are with us, you will always know you are loved.”

So this time around, I knew I didn’t want to wait weeks before finding another dog to give unconditional love to.  Rick and I planned to go the very next weekend to an adoption fair put on by The Little Red Dog, a wonderful grassroots canine rescue organization in our town that I had “accidentally” found while surfing the web, looking for a dog to foster.  They gave us Diamond, and I knew they had a large number of other deserving pups who were ready for forever homes, too.  Nothing would have pleased Diamond more than to have us pay her love forward.

In my 15 years as a Personal Success Coach, I have taught over 750 clients to use the Law of Attraction (“energy attracts like energy”) to help them reach their Big Goals with greater speed and ease than they might imagine possible. And I know from all of their experiences and my own that our human Egos rarely come up with the ultimate HOW.  God/The Universe does.

We are not responsible for knowing in advance HOW we will be able to fulfill our heartfelt desires.  All that is required of us is to be CLEAR about what we want and be willing to throw our heart over the wall and go for it with everything we’ve got.  We just have to ASK for it clearly and specifically, and then BELIEVE it is going to happen, without attachment to the way we think it could or should come to us.

You do have to have some starter plan of your own, and you do have to take ACTION on it. That’s how you demonstrate your COMMITMENT to your stated desire.  Once God/The Universe and your own subconscious mind see you taking ACTION on your goal, they know you really want it and will step in and lead you to it, often with a HOW that is very different than what your Ego had in mind.

I demonstrated my commitment to giving a new deserving canine companion a good home by planning to go to The Little Red Dog’s adoption fair the following Saturday. The way I showed God/The Universe and my own subconscious mind that I really meant business was by writing the blog a week in advance, leaving me free the next Saturday to bring home a new furry BFF. But, as usually happens, the Divine Plan turned out to be MUCH better than my own plan.

While scrolling through my emails that week, I spotted one from Nextdoor, the local area website where neighbors connect to give each other advice on service providers, post their lost dog and cat pictures, warn each other about car break ins in the neighborhood, etc.  I rarely stop to read it, but that day, a post titled “Foster Dog Available” caught my eye. There was a picture of the cutest little black and tan, long haired, shepherd-mix young male dog.  Cagney looked very happy and enthusiastic, after being rescued from a neglectful owner who had kept him chained alone on a patio for two years with a lawnmower cover for a bed.

I immediately began messaging with Sue, who had taken charge of finding Cagney a new home. He was being fostered at the home of her friend, Atissa, a Dog Whisperer if ever there was one, who took him in and helped him acclimate to indoor family life, despite having a number of pets to care for herself. Wanting to find him the perfect home that he deserved, Sue and Atissa were in the process of checking out several other potential adoptive parents when I responded to the post.

So our “free” Saturday went very differently than I had envisioned.  Cagney came for a visit to see if he liked us and our digs, and his dedicated foster moms checked us out carefully, as well.  When Rick sat cross-legged on the floor, Cagney immediately crawled into his lap, looked up at him adoringly, and licked his face.  Love at first sight once again!

We decided to carry out our “Plan B” and go to the dog adoption event, because Cagney still had a couple of other homes to check out. We understood and wanted him to get the BEST home he possibly could, even if it wasn’t ours. But we didn’t feel a strong connection to any of the wonderful dogs at the event and in our hearts, we believed he was meant to be ours.

And he was.  On Sunday, Sue and Atissa brought him back with all his food and toys and he settled in very quickly.  I was a bit worried that he would pine for Atissa, and he did go to the front door a few times. But we lavished him with love and treats, I took him on a brisk walk, and before the night was over, the three of us were snuggled on the couch together watching the Oscars as family.

So, what’s your takeaway from our story? The manifestation formula for making any dream a reality using the Law of Attraction is simple:  ASK.  BELIEVE.  RECEIVE.

God/The Universe will provide the perfect HOW, if only you will just TRUST that process.  If you can get your Ego to surrender trying to control the details, everything will fall into place in the perfect way and the perfect time.  Everyone involved in the situation will be served and satisfied, not just you.

What is meant to be WILL always be.  Never doubt it.

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February 3, 2019

Happy Super Bowl Sunday!  I am spending the day relaxing and enjoying the game (and commercials) with loved ones, just as you probably are. So here is a lightly-edited blog from four years ago that is still a Fan Favorite. Enjoy!

“Keep on going and the chances are you will stumble on something, perhaps when you are least expecting it.  I have never heard of anyone stumbling on something sitting down.” – Charles Kettering 

I believe that any Big Goal is possible to achieve, no matter what anyone else says or how improbably short the time frame may seem.  However, if you want to harness the power of the Law of Attraction (“energy attracts like energy”) to help you reach your goals with greater speed and ease, you must learn to distinguish empowering “Possibility Thinking” from mere “Pie in the Sky” wishful daydreaming.

Are Your Beliefs Limiting You?

A vital aspect of Personal Success Coaching is helping my clients to recognize when they are holding unconscious Limiting Beliefs about their Big Goal. A Limiting Belief is a limitation we unconsciously place on what we think is possible to achieve.  We must remember that our beliefs are not the “Truth,” but simply our interpretation of the facts, based on our own past experience or someone else’s. A Limiting Belief holds you back from pursuing a Big Goal, while an Empowering Belief encourages you to go after it with gusto.

Working daily with the Law of Attraction over the past 14 + years to manifest my own Big Goals and help over 750 clients manifest theirs, I have come to believe that virtually all Big Goals are possible to achieve, with one important caveat: You must be willing to do three things in order to put the Law of Attraction into action to make the seemingly “impossible” possible.  Unless you are willing to follow these three “Keys to Success, you are simply fantasizing that your Big Goal is going to magically drop from the heavens into your lap. Believe me, it won’t.

Don’t Buy Others’ Limiting Beliefs about Your Goal

One of my past clients demonstrated in textbook fashion how following these three Keys to Success can help you manifest any Big Goal in record time.  “Dorothy” was a young professional with a high-paying day job who dreamed of turning her part-time business into a full-time career.  Her compelling “Why” for pursuing this Big Goal was a strong desire to spend more time with her new husband than her intense day job allowed, while still maintaining a good income.

After analyzing her direct sales company’s pay plan, she determined that reaching the Director Level would enable her to quit her day job and start living the life she dreamed of.  When we began coaching, she had just 30 days left to reach Director by the fastest, easiest route. After that, the requirements would be much tougher, so she decided to go for it that month with everything she had.

Her well-meaning upline Leaders told her that “statistically” she would have to talk to 100 people about the products and/or the business opportunity in order to reach her Big Goal.  She knew she could not realistically expect to do her 50-60 hour a week job AND talk to 100 prospects in 30 days.

So, I asked her to challenge the Limiting Belief that she absolutely MUST talk to 100 people in order to get the business partners and product sales volume required to reach Director. I reminded her that this statistic was simply an “average” of what it had taken other consultants to reach this goal.  I asked her whether she thought it was possible for one individual to do better than “average” and she said, “Yes.”  Then if it is possible, did she believe that she could actually do it?  “Of course!” she replied.  Supported by her new Empowering Belief that she was capable of producing results that were far above “average,” she set out to fulfill each of the three Keys to Success for reaching a Big Goal.

The Three Keys to Success in Manifesting

Success Key #1:  Use ALL available tools to their full advantage. We created her personalized Daily Success Script ™ and she began repeating it aloud twice a day for about 10 minutes each.  She understood that the purpose of the Success Script was to build her belief that she could do it, give her the right energy to attract the right prospects to her, and open her subconscious mind to come up with inspired new shortcuts to lead her to her goal.  She did her Success Script twice each day like clockwork, never making an excuse that she had forgotten or fallen asleep or didn’t have it with her when she needed it. She recognized that success requires Integrity and she kept her word that she would use every tool I provided to help her reach her Big Goal.

Success Key #2: Be Strategic.  You do not need to know HOW you are going to reach your Big Goal before you can begin to pursue it.  You simply must take EVERY Action Step that you know about now, and trust that more pinpointed guidance will be provided as you move forward.  Being in ACTION demonstrates to God/The Universe and your own subconscious mind that you really ARE committed to manifesting your Big Goal. That commitment energy attracts the ideal resources, people and serendipitous opportunities that will guide you to it.

I asked Dorothy which people on her prospect list she thought had the best chance of saying “Yes” quickly.  She said, “The ones I’ve already talked to at least once. The time wasn’t right for them before, but it might be NOW.” She decided to call them again and simply ask, “Is NOW a good time for you to try the products risk-free and/or to join me in the business?”

This strategy worked very well. When she told her friends about her Big Goal, quite a few were willing to help her by placing an order right then.  A few even decided to finally  jump into the business.  She got through her “Follow Up” list much faster than she would have making initial calls and having to explain the products or the business. She strategically went after the “low hanging fruit” and it paid off.

Success Key #3: Use your available time wisely.  Especially when pursuing a goal with a tight time frame, it’s critical to get into action quickly and work smart throughout.  Dorothy didn’t have a lot of hours available, so she made every minute count.  She talked to coworkers and made calls on her lunch hour, made more calls in the evenings, and asked several friends to host two or three events on the weekends and invite their friends to come. And when she did those presentations, she was amazed at the ABOVE-AVERAGE ratio of guests who approached her afterward to ask how they could get into the business.

Just before midnight on the last day of the month, Dorothy signed up her final business partner, placed her final order and was promoted to Director. When she ran her stats, she discovered that her personal success ratio for prospecting that month turned out to be much higher than either the company average or her own past experience.

At her company’s annual convention, Dorothy received a special award for reaching Director Level faster than anyone else in her entire region that year. Soon, she quit her day job and continues to enjoy building her business and spending lots of time with her husband.

So what approach will YOU take to pursue your own Big Goals — Pie or Possibility?

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 ****************** Give the Gift of Dreams Fulfilled! ********************

This year, give a friend, colleague or loved one a truly unique gift that can change their life — ONE HOUR of Personal Success Coaching.  It is absolutely F*R*E*E* with no obligation and no strings attached!  You can give this to as many people who will really appreciate it as you wish.  (If you haven’t been in coaching with me for a while, feel free to claim it for YOURSELF, too!)

 To schedule a F*R*E*E* HOUR of phone coaching that will help them clarify their Big Goals for the New Year and get into ACTION to make this their BEST year yet, have them email me at caroll@practicalprosperitycoach.com to schedule their session.  

 

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